what makes u want a relationship?

[Thor]

what makes u want a relationship?

is it need? what is it that makes us want to be with others? or with one person? lol

 

[josh_the_hot_boy]

I am about to be honest and very personal. I am 23 and have never been in a relationship of any kind. Even though I have never experienced one I just don't think I could get in the habit of just hooking up or jumping from guy to guy. To painfully honest I've never even kissed another person before. No I'm not waiting its just that I'm a very shy guy and the opportunity just hasn't come along yet. Sometimes I don't understand because I think I am a really nice guy. I will always put other people first even if it means destroying me on the inside. I once brought myself to depression and almost suicide just help and save one of my friends and I literally did prevent her from committing suicide. I don't want games just to be happy for once and to not feel like I am a bad person or that there is nothing left for me here. I fight myself everyday just to keep my head up. I look around at people and friends whoever and I wonder whats different about me from them why can they be happy and I have to live in misery. I look at my friends and I get so jealous I mean their lives aren't perfect but at least their normal. Even though I have friends online and in person I feel so alone so disconnected from the world. I try and stay happy but my brain cant help but think that my life is crap and it will always be crap and there's nothing I can do about it. I don't want to feel this way but no matter how far I run these thoughts just seem to find me. I look at people around me having fun and I'm not mad I just wonder whats wrong with me why am I single. What have I done to have to feel this way. I don't want a life of luxury I just want to be happy for once and to have someone that cares about me in more ways than just a friend or family. No matter how hard I try I just seem to be stuck in this loop of depression and hopelessness and yes before you ask I am taking medication and yes it does help but medication can only fix the emotion not the statuses of my life. I feel like the things I want the things most people take for granted are always just out of reach. Well I'm going to end it here.

 

[XMan101]

Josh - my advice is just relax. Don't ever worry about what anybody else thinks of you. I was quite shy when I was young, nobody ever believes me now. I think i got drunk one day at 17 and acted out of character, then when I was sober I thought, hell if I can do that with a drink I can do it without a drink! And ever since I have. I don't give a damn what anyone thinks of me, haven't done for a very long time. I'll always be me and if they don't like it , then tough!!

I've quoted this old song before -

Walk tall
Walk straight and look the world right in the eye

It works, baby

 

[kyleovision]

If there are things abt yourself with which you are dissatisfied, a relationship wont fix them. It might make the immediate foreground of one's life more pleasant, but the doubts and fears and inadequacies (real and imagined) will always be there in the background. You have to fix you; no one else can.

Too often ppl say, "Oh, if only I had a boyfriend, everything would be so much better." Honestly, it can go either way, and I say that with whatever small authority I collect from having had the same boyf for the past 23 years.

Lissen ta grampa now, ya wee sprats!

 

[josh_the_hot_boy]

I don't care what other people think. I listen to there advice but I still never pay attention to what people say. It more envy of what they have not who they are. I don't want to be like other people. I just want "normality". Give me the breakups and the emotion. I'll take that over being single any day.

 

[XMan101]

To not be single (& it's my preference to be ) you have to overcome the confidence issues. Being shy is a terrible binde, but you have to face your fears and once you've made that first step you'll make a second step.

No matter what you look like, if you give off negative signals you'll never be attractive. It's all part of self-indulgence and that is never a good feature. A boyfriend will not cure you, it's only YOU that can do it, and as harsh as this sounds it's a fact of life.

Feel free to lean on any of your friends here, me included, there are a lot of shy guys around who feel so much the same. Take strength from each other and face the world !!

 

[Thor]

I don't care what other people think. I listen to there advice but I still never pay attention to what people say. It more envy of what they have not who they are. I don't want to be like other people. I just want "normality". Give me the breakups and the emotion. I'll take that over being single any day.

hey josh, i understand what your thinking, i have had all these same thought (well..we are all different, but still same in many ways) i would never tell you what to do..or even try to help you..I CANT!!

but if you ever want to talk im there to listen...all my love babe:x

 

[iFairylicious]

I want someone to talk to and on the naughty side someone to cuddle with in this kind of cold weather and also have to change the sheets often if you catch my drift *giggles*

 

[XMan101]

I want someone to talk to and on the naughty side someone to cuddle with in this kind of cold weather and also have to change the sheets often if you catch my drift *giggles*

Yes but you're dirty like me

 

[iFairylicious]

hahaha. I sense I will need to go to the bulk store and get some lube and condoms for when I am in my next relationship!

 

[josh_the_hot_boy]

My friend once told me I should sit down and wait for it to happen but I was raised to believe that if you don't do anything you wont get anywhere plus I've been sitting around for a long time. I find people online but I can never meet anyone in person Its like the only gay people I know are ether still in high school or are like 40(no offense). Its like even if I did have the courage to ask someone out I can't find anyone except for online which is okay but I'm kinda old fashioned.

 

[glamfunk84]

Just want someone to understand me as much as I want to understand that person. Everything else comes afterwards, including sex.

 

[Squallmuzza]

When it just clicks...

Sounds cliche... But when you know it... you just know it.

 

[Otage]

I myself am really independent person and get along fine bymyself. But there are these moments specially at nights when it would just be nice to cudle with someone and talk deep. But then again is it worth the trouble of dating:?

 

[XMan101]

I myself am really independent person and get along fine bymyself. But there are these moments specially at nights when it would just be nice to cudle with someone and talk deep. But then again is it worth the trouble of dating:?

Damn, you sound like me I love my own company and love having good friends. Any relationship has to just happen with me, if it does then I see what happens, but I've rarely made any move to encourage it !

 

[smallsleepyrascalcat]

to answer the primary question of this thread: nothing

 

[mentatzps]

what makes u want a relationship?

is it need? what is it that makes us want to be with others? or with one person? lol

I think for me it's the fear of being alone for too long.
I need people's company, either at work, in public places or at home. Unfortunately these days I'm alone home...
The fear of being alone because in 2004 I had a stroke (like a thrombosis) in the brain, and got paralyzed for 2 weeks. When it happened I was in a bus, I threw up and fell on the floor...people immediatly took care of me and I was brought in ambulance to hospital...those were the worst days of my life, I thought the time was come for me to die...
Now I have to take pills everyday in order for it not to start again ; but I think I still have the psychological fear of something bad would happen to me...

Besides all of that, I also feel the need of having a body against mine ! I love contact touches, even if I'm not often too touchy in society...

 

[XMan101]

Hell that's young to have a stroke Hope you keep alright from now on, and in the cirstances can understand that fear. It's the one downside of being on your own.

I take preventative pills too, I have high blood pressure. I'm also a bit of a fatalist, what happens happens, and i refuse to worry!

**hugs

 

[mentatzps]

Hell that's young to have a stroke Hope you keep alright from now on, and in the cirstances can understand that fear. It's the one downside of being on your own.

I take preventative pills too, I have high blood pressure. I'm also a bit of a fatalist, what happens happens, and i refuse to worry!

**hugs

Yes, everything is under control now. Thanks for your concern.