when i was a kid, it was my old man, who was sorta strict but not too bad. now, it's me making my own rules since I live in my own place and pay my own way. at work, it's kinda strange, since one of my fuck buddies is one level higher than me, but will give it up and bottom for me in bed, but never bosses me at work. the manager where we work is a dickhead and never sticks his head out of his office, so we make it up as we go along.