why do you hide yourself?

[etilit]

and i don't mean this in a gay way...we all hide who we are to so many but why? are you ashamed? or just don't feel comfortable? or just makes it easier?

when i was younger it was becouse i didnt want to be me thats sad lol

 

[richym]

I guess for me is that I don't really like myself, or have a high opinion of who I am. My general opinion is no one would really be interested in me, so why share with them. I know that it is sad that I think that way. Slowly I am getting better.

 

[herod]

I guess for me is that I don't really like myself, or have a high opinion of who I am. My general opinion is no one would really be interested in me, so why share with them. I know that it is sad that I think that way. Slowly I am getting better.

I blame this on society. No one should ever think less of himself because of others :duh:

 

[SimplyJakeAndAlex]

I blame this on society. No one should ever think less of himself because of others :duh:

So you are blaming society for...? :thinking: humm :? interesting. You can blame society but society is YOU, it's also, your mom, your friends, you mailman. And I'm pretty certain that they could blame society for being bald, being fat, being short and/or being black in a world where beauty is supposedly white. So what are you really blaming? Because society is not a person. Society is a particular kind of social system. Like all social systems, it is distinguished by its cultural, structural and population/ecological characteristics. In fact a society is a system that is defined by a geographical territory, which may or may not coincide with the boundaries of nations/states (that's what is really a society). Within this geographical territory there's a POPULATION who shares a common CULTURE and way of life under conditions of a relative autonomy, independence and self-sufficiency. I have put relative in bold just so some wise-ass can't come saying that I was not implementing that there's degrees in today's world of interdependent societies.

So for that part of asking why do you hide yourself, can you really blame society now that you know what really is society... I'll step out of the global social studies and enter into a more personal environment... behavioral psychology... now in this part you can blame yourself because as the dude said it's its own interaction and perception of himself versus the outside world that make him a little introvert. He himself believes not to be important enough it is not a society reflecting this to him... however I do agree that depending in which environment you live in, sometimes the outside world does affect one's own inhibition.

So I won't go further because this is not a psychoanalyzes forum and rich of some experiences I have gathered here I don't want to trigger a flaming discussion where some dudes pretending to understand what I said or stumble on single words to explain wind of nothing starts rumble again... I'd say the first steps of recognizing or "blaming" should always start with oneself and step forward to bigger group before blaming a whole community for your own behavior. The dude said it... he believes that nobody find him interesting... but that's his believes not the society believes. Because SOCIETY is not a PERSON

 

[Armpit Licker]

i hide cause... i really don't know myself, i've been like this for like almost a few years, and been constantly bombarded with claims that i am gay, but i didn't budge, i didn't came out. i don't know why though, and if ever i would come out, i'd still like to be a man, i'd still like to be who i was before this happened.

maybe i just don't have the guts to tell the world what i truly am, but if i do, of course i would cause it make things a lot easier for me.

 

[SimplyJakeAndAlex]

i hide cause... i really don't know myself, i've been like this for like almost a few years, and been constantly bombarded with claims that i am gay, but i didn't budge, i didn't came out. i don't know why though, and if ever i would come out, i'd still like to be a man, i'd still like to be who i was before this happened.

maybe i just don't have the guts to tell the world what i truly am, but if i do, of course i would cause it make things a lot easier for me.

WRONG you do know yourself and always did... the only reason why you were affected when someone would call you gay, is that deep inside you knew they were right; and you though you hid it well... but the funny part of it... some guys will call you gay and still not thinking that you are... being called gay has been since the early 90 not all subject to the sexual aspect of the appellation... the G word is used for pretty much everything except its real meaning when Gay meant being "Happy and Jolly".

That you are scared of judgement from the outside world it's just normal, but that you don't know yourself; I beg to differ.. you know who you are and perhaps it would be time to WOW yourself and try to at least tell one important person of yours... you don't have to tell the whole world that you like Penises... heterosexual doesn't go out on the roof yelling how happy they are about putting their dick in a vagina... but they would sometimes tell a friends that they like it when their girlfriend shove a finger up their asses. Keep it small, go by steps and each steps is a learning process for you... and no you'll never be the man you were before, because before you were a man hiding a big secret... now you'll be a Free man (and I don't mean Morgan Freeman :rofl::rofl

 

[jw4833]

Because I am somewhat shy and bashful to a certain degree, there are things about me in the category of talent that I do hide from people because I am not ready to share that side with them...

 

[SophieSweets]

Tried Hiding... was ok... Tried exactly the opposite... More fun...
Of course I'm lucky enough not to live in a repressive country with incredibly backwards politics...

 

[monk3y]

I hid because I was afraid of those closest to me of feeling different towards and also not giving me the respect that I deserve. I should not be respected less and be thought of as weak/ not equal. I'm still the same person and my sexual preference shouldn't matter to you or anyone else. However, being with my boyfriend now I have come to the conclusion "fcuk everyone else". If you change the way you act towards me is on you and not me. If its a problem for you then I dont need you in my life. After being more relaxed and confident within myself I realized that hiding it took so much effort and work. Now that Im comfortable with who I am I must admit that I am having a lot more fun being "me"

 

[gb2000ie]

I keep myself to myself because I'm an introvert rather than an extrovert. It's not that I'm hiding really, more that I'm not comfortable exhibiting.

B.

 

[gb2000ie]

I should also add that although I'm an introvert by nature, I have no problem at all with public speaking (on any topic but my private life), I can stand up in front of literally hundreds of people and deliver a lecture, talk, or presentation and not just get through it, but do it well. I lectured at university level for three years, I did lots of tutorials, as a grad student I did a lot of presentations at conferences, including giving a keynote address, and I have given many talks about science and astronomy to schools and astronomy clubs.

In more recent times my public speaking is mostly in the form of audio and video podcasts, including live broadcasts and hosting shows with literally thousands of listeners.

I CAN do public presentation well, but I find it really takes it out of me, I'll be very worn out after a 2 hour show or lecture. So my natural state of being is introvert, but I can flip a switch to extrovert mode when I have to, but my extrovert persona is a mask.

B.

 

[Bender001]

I keep myself to myself because I'm an introvert rather than an extrovert. It's not that I'm hiding really, more that I'm not comfortable exhibiting.

B.

I think I could say the same thing about me. But I think it is very important that you can exhibit yourself to your closest friends.

 

[Bender001]

I should also add that although I'm an introvert by nature, I have no problem at all with public speaking (on any topic but my private life), I can stand up in front of literally hundreds of people and deliver a lecture, talk, or presentation and not just get through it, but do it well. I lectured at university level for three years, I did lots of tutorials, as a grad student I did a lot of presentations at conferences, including giving a keynote address, and I have given many talks about science and astronomy to schools and astronomy clubs.

In more recent times my public speaking is mostly in the form of audio and video podcasts, including live broadcasts and hosting shows with literally thousands of listeners.

I CAN do public presentation well, but I find it really takes it out of me, I'll be very worn out after a 2 hour show or lecture. So my natural state of being is introvert, but I can flip a switch to extrovert mode when I have to, but my extrovert persona is a mask.

B.

Here you can hide yourself behind your work, where you know you are an expert, and can use objective arguments. Talking about your personnel life is different because it's more subjective. Perhaps you are afraid that people will judge you and that you won't be able to defend yourself?
I guess I'm talking about myself here.

Believe me, A 2 hour lecture takes it out on everyone. Especially when you're lecturing undergrads.

 

[gb2000ie]

Here you can hide yourself behind your work, where you know you are an expert, and can use objective arguments. Talking about your personnel life is different because it's more subjective. Perhaps you are afraid that people will judge you and that you won't be able to defend yourself?
I guess I'm talking about myself here.

I think there might be something to that - I can't bullshit very well, and nothing scares me more than having to talk about something I don't really understand.

Believe me, A 2 hour lecture takes it out on everyone. Especially when you're lecturing undergrads.

Believe it or not, there is a group who are worse than undergrads, mature students - THE most draining crowd I've ever had to teach.

B.