Why hasnt he answered?

[Lucas88]

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[alphacock]

maybe he is busy? give it sometime and get back to him... i been here before

 

[Lucas88]

When we had the conversation he was really emotional and he had that sad puppy look on his face when he talked about the breakup with his exes.
I felt so sorry for him and it seemed as if I would just say those words hed be all over me and jumping for joy.
But maybe I was just full of myself? And now it seems the fire is out...
And the crazy thing is that I cant stop thinking about him now that he hasnt answered. Meanwhile, I wouldnt even have considered it if youd asked me 2-3 weeks ago.
Sometimes being human with emotions just plain sucks!

 

[hi_all]

Don't be too hard on yourself ... just try one more time ... tell him how you feel.

 

[Sinnerr]

Rather stay away from those who are trying to get you this way. Who wants boyfriend has to be balanced with past. Who's not, doesn't need boyfriend, needs terapeut. Do you want a boyfriend or a patient? Do not sucb to emotional blackmail!
And talking about ex boyfriend(s) to (potentional) new boyfriend is bad at all. He's interested about you! So look forward, be optimistic. In short - let's share good things. And do want the same from him!

 

[Sinnerr]

If you wanna keep in touch with him, but keep a distace. Don't be fallen in love with him until you will be sure he's not emotions-sucker.

 

[alphacock]

mann i def know what u mean.... u cant control how u feel. just keep your head up and occupy yourself

 

[jw4833]

Well, in my opinion, I honestly do not think that this is a conversation that should be answered with a text. This is something that should be conducted in person, one-on-one. Also, due to your story in your post, I would take this situation at a very slow pace. To me, two sexual experiences does not foresee a potential relationship in my opinion. That's moving things pretty fast. So, slow your roll and take things very slowly and be cautious.

 

[SimplyJakeAndAlex]

Ive met this guy, weve had sex twice and it was really nice. We were having this really long conversation and he told me about his exes and how he would like to have a relationship again. But I told him Im not into relatonships right now and would like to keep it purely physical.
After a few weeks I decided to give him a chance and I asked him if he was hinting at me when he was talking about having a relationship. He said yes and that he liked me. So I texted him saying "wanna give it a try? let me know".
That was two days ago and he still hasnt answered. I thought hed be really happy and excited but now Im totally confused...

Alright dude first of all do not go on a relationship based on two nights spent together... this isn't love it's sex. He needs to be able to stop thinking about his exes before he engages into a new relationship. If you were not into relationship yourself, that's because you needed a break... right now if you go for it you're just looking for trouble and if he was interested he would have replied right away. Now I do understand that life follow its courses and he might be busy somewhere else but you see how you get yourself already emotional for the fact that he's not replying after two days... that should be a hint for you to know what's coming to you in the next weeks of that new relationship.

Guys have self respect, gay relationships are often very difficult... to get and to maintain... it's very intense because there's a lot of gays, but few are recommendable for a long term relationship. Learn to pace yourself and don't jump into a relationship right away just because you had a good fuck or two with the same person. Let the romance come in and you will see it when you're ready and you won't even have to ask to be BF... it will just become obvious when the trends of you meeting each other change from twice a week to three time a week or that you can't spend a day not talking to each other.

My husband and I have been taking 2 years before we officially became full time boyfriends and yes in those two years we were seeing each other on regular basis. And 4 years later it was too serious so I asked him to become my husband... we have kids and adopting kids together... but was that paradise before... no we went through a lot. In the first two years we were best buddies with lots of benefits...now he has a ring and so do I but we're still best buddies . My husband is before and above all my best friend... yes we suck each other dicks but in between we're just good buds.

 

[Lucas88]

Now that Ive read all your posts, I guess I might have went about it the wrong way. Im so socially retarded when it comes to relationships... thats why I told him, at first, that Im all about one nighties and fuckbuddies. Even though weve only had sex twice Ive actually known him for about 5 months now, if that matters.
Anyway, thanks for giving me some perspective, Im just gonna sleep this one off.

 

[tyan]

perhaps he's just fix something else first, i mean u just meet him.
perhaps u can wait for a little more, then if he "not show off" anymore, u decide that "u are too great and too nice" for him


i wish for u happiness man.

 

[Cerno]

Men are always like that.... Don't get your hope too high. I've experienced it again, again, again, and again and again.... I'm surprised I haven't turned into a "homophobic" gay man.

 

[Askani]

To tell the truth if I opened up to someone I liked about exes and stuff (good or bad stories) and got a cold bucket of water like that I'd be a bit disappointed as well, u said that a couple of weeks have passed, u only had sex 2x over the 5 months u guys know each other, if he really ended up liking you for real, he might be a bit on the insecure side, thinking that u're doing it on a whim, and he might end up getting hurt, besides, such things u dont say over a text! U say face to face, with the right mood, pretend to be shy if u have to or something to make up for the delayed answer, dunno.

 

[Cerno]

I believe that you are a homophobic gay man along side with many other bad legs... Men aren't always like that... stop generalizing it's annoying.

Funny, you also do the SAME thing!
Seriously, I come here to have FUN, not to have debate, and certainly not to be JUDGED by you....

You keep forcing that all gay men are free and good, while the fact is not like that. Life sucks, buddy. That's all I can say.

You live in a happy gay place. So your view about gay is all positive, all flowery. I live in a depressing homophobic place and 99.99% gay men here are jerks and "womanizer". If you accuse me of generalizing coz of my surroundings, I see you're doing exactly the same too...

 

[Askani]

This thread... totally went off-track already :rofl:

 

[bigsal]

I state that this is my personal opinion and I will not take a stand.
The beauty of this forum and in particular this thread is the diversity of experiences, but especially of views.
If we were all in agreement, there would be no discussion and the forum would be, again, in my personal view, so boring.

 

[mrpiz]

Ive met this guy, weve had sex twice and it was really nice. We were having this really long conversation and he told me about his exes and how he would like to have a relationship again. But I told him Im not into relatonships right now and would like to keep it purely physical.
After a few weeks I decided to give him a chance and I asked him if he was hinting at me when he was talking about having a relationship. He said yes and that he liked me. So I texted him saying "wanna give it a try? let me know".
That was two days ago and he still hasnt answered. I thought hed be really happy and excited but now Im totally confused...

Maybe something happened and he didn't get the text. You should send him a hand written love letter in the ol snail mail. That may get his attention and adds a personal touch.