why me?

[etilit]

how many times do you ask yourself that?

for me a lotlol

 

[parucci]

Many times.. but i think that
all happens for a reason.

 

[cacc]

I try to stay positive and not think that way, sometimes it's hard though.

 

[BigBenni]

Well I think there are always worse cases.

That regularly helps me not to ask "Why me?"

As parucci said so true "that all happens for a reason" and many people have to live with a burden but I really have to say that it is sometimes a very strange way of division and very often the wrong people have to suffer!

 

[bigsal]

I think the stereotype is often abused "everything happens for a reason."

But someone can tell me with reasonable certainty, what is that reason?

 

[Urban]

Why not?

 

[Tjerk12]

I am curious, so I often ask why. But really to find a reason that helps me in some way, for example to discover why a relation doesn’t work the way I want or why my car engine doesn’t work properly. The why-question is for me a positive question; to find solutions and not as a form of self-pity. Complaining doesn’t help. Why am I not more beautiful? A senseless question, because I only have to see myself when I stand before the mirror. That is in the early morning and late at night. Both times I am sleepy and not really interested. When someone else is really beautiful I can use my eyes to enjoy his or hers beauty. One of the reasons why Gayheaven is “ambrosia” for my eyes.

 

[Whisper]

That sometimes comes to my mind, especially on a day like today when I need my cane for walking and the right hand is more or less useless when trying to type. This is when I have to stop and really think. There are people in much worse shape than I, but moment of weakness... I guess that is ok every now and then, for everyone

 

[Tjerk12]

That sometimes comes to my mind, especially on a day like today when I need my cane for walking and the right hand is more or less useless when trying to type. This is when I have to stop and really think. There are people in much worse shape than I, but moment of weakness... I guess that is ok every now and then, for everyone

Sad to hear Whisper. Do you suffer of rheumatism? I have it in my hands and my right knee. Wet and cold are nasty conditions. I try to handle it with a kind of mind-pain-control. Of course it doesn't cure the illness, but it keeps me moving. My mother had the same problem.

 

[Whisper]

Sad to hear Whisper. Do you suffer of rheumatism? I have it in my hands and my right knee. Wet and cold are nasty conditions. I try to handle it with a kind of mind-pain-control. Of course it doesn't cure the illness, but it keeps me moving. My mother had the same problem.

No, I have Parkinson's disease. 2004 I got the first symptoms in the age of 27 and at this moment the symptoms are controlled with meds, but my right leg drags behind, especially when my body is tired. My hands shake, but the right hand is the worse. But I can still draw and paint

 

[bigsal]

Why not?

If my friend gets cancer, or a relative of mine is involved in an accident, or an earthquake will destroy the house, or get beaten up because you're gay (or worse), or .....

to explain me the meaning of the phrase "that all happens for a reason",

what reason is there for all this?

If there's a reason, please explain it, I can not understand.

 

[Tjerk12]

No, I have Parkinson's disease. 2004 I got the first symptoms in the age of 27 and at this moment the symptoms are controlled with meds, but my right leg drags behind, especially when my body is tired. My hands shake, but the right hand is the worse. But I can still draw and paint

That is really sad Whisper. I know the disease; the father of my closest friend suffered of it. But he was old and you are so young. Life can be so unfair and cruel. I suppose that Bigsal is right that the idea "everything happens with a reason" is for many of us not the proper answer to the question "why me". Let us hope that scientist find a way to cure Parkinson, as soon as possible.

 

[Whisper]

That is really sad Whisper. I know the disease; the father of my closest friend suffered of it. But he was old and you are so young. Life can be so unfair and cruel. I suppose that Bigsal is right that the idea "everything happens with a reason" is for many of us not the proper answer to the question "why me". Let us hope that scientist find a way to cure Parkinson, as soon as possible.

That is actually quite common way to think, but it is not unusual to have Parkinson when you are younger. I admit that I'm one of the youngest in my area but still, for example I know there's one 24 year old with Parkinson.

There are some developments for finding the cure, we'll see what happens

And that "everything happens for a reason", I hate it :angry:

 

[bigsal]

That is actually quite common way to think, but it is not unusual to have Parkinson when you are younger. I admit that I'm one of the youngest in my area but still, for example I know there's one 24 year old with Parkinson.

There are some developments for finding the cure, we'll see what happens

And that "everything happens for a reason", I hate it :angry:

There are some developments for finding the cure, we'll see what happens

I'll hope with all my heart.

I hope that researchers and doctors can do the "miracle".

 

[uncomplicated]

My thoughts are with Whisper. Good luck mate!

Now, why me? It is not always when bad things happen that we ask ourselves this question. In my experience it was when I was really lucky. I lived through the war in my country, for 3 years I could be killed any moment but I survived. I did ask myself many times - why me when so many others didn't make it. There is also some very weird and irrational feeling of guilt. For surviving.

'Everything happens for a reason' doesn't work here. War is such a senseless thing and it's impossible to find any reason in it. All those relatives, friends, acquaintances killed for a reason??!! No way!

I think I did come to terms with everything and put things in their places, but my understanding of life is changed. It is all random and temporary. You can have everything and it can change in a moment. And the answer to 'why me' question, as cruel and unfair as it might sound, is - it had to happen to somebody, me, you, somebody else, there's no rule, no reason.