1st time anal

[skoosh]

hi everyone. i met someone recently and our sex has mainly been me sucking him off and him me.now we've decided we both want to try anal.his dick my ass.i am really keen on it,but i dont know what to do other than lay back or bend over. is there anything i should do that makes it better for me, more comfortable etc. we both enjoy a lot of foreplay ,kissing etc but i was thinking more about the actual moment he enters me and ,that moment when the pumping begins.
any help would be just greatly welcomed.please.
thanks

 

[bjlegs]

Mke sure he enters you VERY slowly the first time!

 

[yussamahal]

A lot of lube, and he should put it in really slow and follow your commands as it might hurt you if he goes too fast.

 

[hawtsean]

Good advice already given - slow and gentle and well-lubed. Lots of foreplay to ensure a relaxed atmosphere will help too. If you're nice and clean (perhaps a gentle douche beforehand would be beneficial), your partner might attempt to caress your anal area with his fingers and then his tongue (rimming) - just to set the stage.

 

[topdog]

I agree with all the go slow advice. As a matter of fact, I think good anal sex is a process that takes a while to achieve.

You might consider starting out with a toy. First on your own - just give yourself lots of time to explore how it feels to push something in your ass and how your body reacts to it. Then later with your partner - let him slowly use the toy on you. The goal is to achieve complete relaxation; until that happens pleasure is out of the question.

Since your whole life your ass has only had to do one job: control what comes out of your body. Now you are going to ask it to do something else - let an object in. That takes some muscle retraining.

We talk about the sphincter muscle - but actually there are two completely separate muscles, an innner one and an outer one a fraction of an inch apart. The outer one you can control directly (though it will take some practice). The inner one, however, you have never had to control. This is the muscle that involuntarily clenches under stress. You have to get that inner muscle to relax as well. The best way to start that training is to use your mind and emotions to relax your whole body while using the toy. You can't (at the beginning) "tell" that ring to release, so you will have to start with a whole body approach. Any standard relaxation techniques (yoga, meditation, etc.) that you can call on will help.

Your first actual fucking can have a lot of psychological and emotional expectations attached. It's just about impossible for you to try to cope with muscles you have never experienced before, while you are also thinking about pleasing your partner and making it a good experience for him. That's too much to expect all at once.

So my suggestion is to think about adding anal sex into your relationship as a process that will happen over time, rather than a single big event. First you learn what's physically involved with your body; then your partner learns how to help you relax with a toy; and then once you can relax in those cirstances, you are ready to add a real cock into the mix.

 

[adam2011]

HMMM pretty good advice hahaha

 

[skoosh]

thanks 2 all of you for your kind attention

 

[Goatboystef]

It might feel like you're going to poop. You won't. It just feels that way at first. Just thought I'd throw that in there.

 

[Behrluvr]

It was kinda uncomfortable for me to get fucked at first. Took awhile to adjust to the cock being in there. I wanted the guy to get it over with fast. Maybe 5 minutes of 'grin and bear it'.

Now, well, lets just say I could take on the whole hockey squad -heyheyhey.

 

[bornrebel88]

Lots of lube will help and go very slow til you loosen up