Am I being asked out on a date?

[dickie]

Dude if you want it to happen you got to make it happen! Forget whether he likes you or not, do YOU like him? Yes? ok then, go get him. Have your dinner but drop in to the conversation, 'by the way, I think you're hot and I think I have a crush on you '.

Worst case scenario would be you've both fallen for each other but neither has the balls to make the first move.

If YOU want him, YOU gotta make it happen. If its just dinner you want it's dinner you get. If you want more then go for him before somebody else does.

Great comments AleXXX UK! So usually when I develop a crush on a guy, it tends to happen pretty soon after I meet him. In this case we've known each other for almost a year, so it's not really a "love/lust at first sight" situation for me. However, he's a nice looking guy, and I get the feeling that he's a genuine, kind and decent person, so I'm open to getting to know him better to see if any sparks might be there.

Sometimes I think if I don't feel an immediate attraction for someone, then there's really nothing there, but the best relationship I've ever been in started out that way. There was a guy I knew through friends, but I never thought about him as a potential love interest. He was a good looking guy too, but I just never felt anything for him. Then one day he asked me out on a date, and even though I didn't see where it could go, I decided to say "yes" to the date and be open to whatever happened. Long story short, we went out a few times, ended up falling madly in love with each other, and stayed together for over 16 years.

 

[dickie]

If would so, it is not something to be discarded.

I completely agree!

 

[dickie]

Do you want him to ask you out?

Well, it usually (though not always) makes me feel good when someone asks me out, so yes, but "want" is not exactly the right word for what I'm feeling about it. It's more like I'm curious about his intentions.

 

[dickie]

Am I right in thinking this dinner may be tonight?

The dinner isn't tonight. Probably sometime this or next week. He's going to call me when he gets his work schedule, and me too because I have to go out of town for a few days and the timing of my trip is still getting worked out. It should be soon though.

 

[Urban]

Remember, he's the one who's expressing interest in you; so far he's invited you out for coffee and then changed it to dinner at his house.

I don't think you need to do a thing, just arrive and let things happen. IMO he's more than capable of letting you know what he's thinking. All you need to do is NOT give him the impression that his interest is unwanted.

 

[js324]

Just let us know how it goes, we're all dying to know now, lol.

 

[herod]

Just let us know how it goes, we're all dying to know now, lol.

Agreed

 

[dickie]

Okay everyone, sorry taking so long to respond!

Soooooooo ... it was a little complicated. We finally got together for dinner, and I think we both genuinely enjoyed it. I'm pretty sure it wasn't a date, but it wasn't just a friendly "come on over for dinner" either. I feel an awkward impulse to respect some confidentiality about his situation, so without going into too much detail he's dealing with a pretty significant health concern and he's trying to connect with people as a way of reaching out, because his usual approach is to go inward and isolate himself, which only makes things worse. So even though I don't think it was a date, we actually became a lot closer because he really opened up to me. I was touched that he felt comfortable enough with me to reach out, and I was happy to provide him with some support.

Thank you all for your suggestions and support as well. If you believe in any kind of spiritual energy, please consider sending some healing thoughts to him. I'm sure he would appreciate the gesture.