Anal - is it only for you an side effect?

[Shelter]

I'll open here a new thread after I've read the posts in Lucas' thread "Does gay porn reflect your real life sex".

GB said there "anal is an optional extra that happens some time".

Here my question - did it really only happened to all of you or most of you "as an optional extra"? Hey all you bottoms here - don't you like it?

And Lucas who opened the thread said that he is wondering how many view it as optional. He does it mainly because he assumed people want it!

Is that really true for most of you bottoms here?

 

[jaykaytooooo]

I used to have anal sex but no longer do. I look back and the most intense time is when u have a simultaneous orgasm with ur partner, thats awesome. However, there are huge side effects aside from the risk of std's, and quite frankly anal sex being more often that not just uncomfortable. For me that side effect was that u just become lose down there, which in turn creates a lot of other bad things. I would leak down there cause i was lose. I could smell (and i am a clean clean person, often two showers a day) this leakage, and any chairs i would sit on, i became paranoid of that smell.

That was a big reason I stopped having anal sex. The other is quite honestly, i felt emasculated. I am certainly no gruff bear, i am a softer some call me meteosexual looking athlete, but certainly not a girly fem by any means. Anytime i got fucked Afterwards I felt emasculated and never liked that feeling. Now, partner and I just do mutual jack off which is fine. Looking back when I had anal sex I did it to give my partner pleasure, and I got pleasure from that rather than the anal sex.

But anal sex is not for everyone contrary to what many gays want to make you believe. Not everyone HAS to be versatile as some would make others believe, some of us just dont engage in anal sex. Just MO.

 

[Shelter]

I used to have anal sex but no longer do. I look back and the most intense time is when u have a simultaneous orgasm with ur partner, thats awesome. However, there are huge side effects aside from the risk of std's, and quite frankly anal sex being more often that not just uncomfortable. For me that side effect was that u just become lose down there, which in turn creates a lot of other bad things. I would leak down there cause i was lose. I could smell (and i am a clean clean person, often two showers a day) this leakage, and any chairs i would sit on, i became paranoid of that smell.

That was a big reason I stopped having anal sex. The other is quite honestly, i felt emasculated. I am certainly no gruff bear, i am a softer some call me meteosexual looking athlete, but certainly not a girly fem by any means. Anytime i got fucked Afterwards I felt emasculated and never liked that feeling. Now, partner and I just do mutual jack off which is fine. Looking back when I had anal sex I did it to give my partner pleasure, and I got pleasure from that rather than the anal sex.

But anal sex is not for everyone contrary to what many gays want to make you believe. Not everyone HAS to be versatile as some would make others believe, some of us just dont engage in anal sex. Just MO.

Wow - I'm really surprised. I've never felt emasculated when my BF has anal sex with me. I love it really and for me it doesn't hurt any more - I'm used to since many years. And well you are speaking from std's - here I must say you are totally right. But in my/our case we are knowing us and living together now for more than 10 years. So I've no risk of std's or other things.
And sure I'm a bottom - but let me say I'm really not a "girlie fem boy" - I'm a MAN and I'm too a very muscular guy (from the gym!). And I'm really not such a effeminate acting faggot - BUT I'M A LOVING BOTTOM. And I like it so much to be fucked. And sure I'm not versatile - I love it to be the bottom - but nevertheless I'm not a submissive type. Ask my BF!

As well it is more than clear that you have to be a clean, or better a very clean person. Cock and ass has to be more than clean every time.

You are totally right - it is very icky if a guy has a dirty cock or a smelly ass.
But all these things I don't know because I'm living with my BF - and we know both what we want.

 

[gb2000ie]

Shelter - the fact that you do want, and have, anal sex as a part of your day-to-day sex life is great. You are getting what you want, so all's well.

For many of us though, that's not what we want. And I'd go so far as to say society puts pressure on gay people to have anal sex. It's almost like you're a freak if you're gay and not into anal.

Two possible reasons I can think of are:
1) homophobes go on about anal sex so much, it's what straight people think we all get up to all the time.
2) porn has told us sex starts with a hand job, then a blow job, and then you fuck.

I don't want to put any pressure on anyone who enjoys anal sex to stop. Have fun!

But, I do wish people would stop assuming that all gays like anal sex all the time.

B.

 

[Shelter]

GB I'll understand your point of view and I'll accept it. But I don't feel as a "freak" because I love it and I hope so much you will not look at me as a "freak" or someone who has been pressured by the non-gay society.
And sure it isn't so that every sex in our life will be end up in anal - but yea very often - mostly in the morning hours! -

 

[gorgik9]

Shelter, I'm glad that you and your BF have a rich sex life and getting your butt fucked as often as you want.

But I'm the true oralist, which means that sure I've had anal sex both topping and bottoming, and I also had really good anal sex both as top and even better as bottom.

But when I think about sex, I think automatically of ORAL things: sucking, licking, rimming /getting sucked, getting licked, getting rimmed.

My favourite sex fantasies usually starts with myself standing on my knees with a guy standing in front of me while I'm sniffing and touching his crotch, then opening his zipper and starts licking & sucking on the juicy pecker - a looooooooooooooooooong while....

 

[Shelter]

Shelter, I'm glad that you and your BF have a rich sex life and getting your butt fucked as often as you want.

But I'm the true oralist, which means that sure I've had anal sex both topping and bottoming, and I also had really good anal sex both as top and even better as bottom.

But when I think about sex, I think automatically of ORAL things: sucking, licking, rimming /getting sucked, getting licked, getting rimmed.

My favourite sex fantasies usually starts with myself standing on my knees with a guy standing in front of me while I'm sniffing and touching his crotch, then opening his zipper and starts licking & sucking on the juicy pecker - a looooooooooooooooooong while....

Gorgik, you damned devil, you really made me hot with your fantasy!!!! :thumbs up::thumbs up::thumbs up::thumbs up:

 

[W!nston]

Sounds like one of my fantasies gorgik :devil:

I've always enjoyed giving oral sex and after he s he helps me by teasing me with his cock, balls and ass while gently twisting my nipples. The left nipple is the most sensitive

I will bottom but I much prefer to top. It is difficult for me to climax while receiving oral. In fact it is next to impossible but it has happened on very rare occasion.

 

[lovetosuckcock]

To get back to the main question of the thread anal, for me, is the main event. Everything else is foreplay or post sex activity. I don't just want anal I crave it. I've never felt emasculated or effeminate from getting fucked even though my favourite position is on my back and my partner on top of me with my legs wrapped around him.

 

[topdog]

Well, I like to fuck, certainly. But for me, anal is one item on a menu from which to draw. And fucking is a lot of work. Sometimes, you just don't have the energy. Or there are times when you want to stretch it out for hours - and you can't (or at least I can't) do that with anal sex.

 

[skoosh]

for me it's dreamy to feel a cock slide all the way up my ass is going out make that slow withdrawl...and just when it feels like it is going out it slides in to the hilt again getting faster and it slips and slides while i thrust my ass at him till the pours out me.....hmmmm yummy

 

[Shelter]

for me it's dreamy to feel a cock slide all the way up my ass is going out make that slow withdrawl...and just when it feels like it is going out it slides in to the hilt again getting faster and it slips and slides while i thrust my ass at him till the pours out me.....hmmmm yummy

Skoosh my friend, you are beside me the first who likes it (in this thread) So congratulation - I feel the very same! :thumbs up::thumbs up::thumbs up::heart:

 

[stephenhaines]

Yes, anal is the main event, the most physiologically possible means of expressing intimacy and union between two men. The bottom cannot possibly supply greater vulnerability; the top cannot fail to realize he's being bequeathed profound trust. Everything else is the trimmings and buildup, welcome and delightful in their own right, but all leading to that rocket ride to euphoria.

 

[Dendood]

It has been a long, long, long, long time since I last had anal sex. Over 20 years!

I'm like Gorky, my brain is very orally driven. A man is like one huge giant lollipop to me. Feet, legs, balls, dick, ass, nipples, pits, lips, ears.... If my life could be like porn, I'd probably choose Damon Sucks America as the model. Except there's no part of man I wouldn't want to suck. My 'dream' guy would be into being serviced in multiple places. Which is why Naked Artist is an absolute Xtube favorite. That guy is dinner plate special the way he offers himself up for oral pleasure.

The odd thing about this long streak I'm having.... I like anal sex. I'm more a bottom than a top, but even as a top I really enjoy getting into it. Especially a standing fuck outdoors... brings out the male animal in me. For whatever reason, it just hasn't happened.

Bottom line, like 'em both. But I'm a dick pig.

 

[lovetosuckcock]

Yes, anal is the main event, the most physiologically possible means of expressing intimacy and union between two men. The bottom cannot possibly supply greater vulnerability; the top cannot fail to realize he's being bequeathed profound trust. Everything else is the trimmings and buildup, welcome and delightful in their own right, but all leading to that rocket ride to euphoria.

I really like the part in bold. I've never heard that expression before, but that's exactly how I feel when I'm getting fucked.