Are you satisfied with life? get help

[Harrerst]

Is there any problem for which you need an advice, I'm raising this question, because it was talkin here (in GH) with a mate that I started to have a new point of view about life... and I made a friend, the subject was the relationship between my sexuality and my family. Sometimes we miss a friend on our side. And here you can make use of anonymity (this topic is just to help people in its real life) We all can help ourselves!

 

[Sinnerr]

ok, got one dilemma
last year i started studying university. first day i have see one really cute boy (cutest i've ever seen). i have looked into his eyes and he did the same - i know he is gay (this look without words told me enought). Afterthat I met him in school few times again, we have changed few lovely looks, but we never talk together (only Hi - Hi) - im a bit shy and he is probably too and allways were many another people around. Biggies problem is that im not studying now cos my studdies failed and i was kicked out from university and i don't live in this city (but its not too far, 30 km). Afterthat i found almost unwittingly his facebook profile (i remember his name and i wrote it to google - dont know why ). And there i found that he hasn't good looking only. He likes same music as me and lot of his hobbies are mine too.
So i can send him a message, but what i should write to it. "I love you from this moment when i've seen you first time." Im afraid he will thing i'm total idiot, or that he doesn't remember me or both and maybe hes not free. I know that thesedays he was looking on me few times and the thinked something like "hmm cute". But also i know that i was looking thousand times on some cute boy and thinking in my mind "hmm cute" and imagine him never more (except this one).I had sex in last months with few boys but i didt forget him, I cant delete him from my memory what i should do? What would you do in my situation? Do you thing I should find some psychiatric care? )

 

[jeansGuyOZ]

I certainly think you should contact him. Contacting someone you have lost touch with, after finding them on Facebook, is something that happens a lot, and I don't think it would raise many eyebrows.

I WOULDN'T say "I love you from this moment when i've seen you first time." If I were him, that would be an instant turnoff. It sounds like you want to get married this minute, shack up for the rest of your lives, sort the details out afterwards. Just tell him you always felt confortable with him and felt you had a bit in common, use language like that. If he has similar feelings for you, he will let you know, and the language can get a bit more direct as time goes on. You could casually say "I'm not in a relationship, there are actually not any girls I fancy".

If the attraction is mutual, that will become clear, believe me. Just don't make yourself sound desperate and don't be pushy.

 

[zortek]

completely agree with jeansGuyOZ..

take things slow, give them a chance to grow

 

[Sinnerr]

thanks, this about loving him was hyperbole of course, i'm not so stupid. i'll write him, but i have to find best words witch are possible before. My blood is frozen when i'm imagining how i meet him, i havent get this feelings never before.