Asking straight

[Otage]

So, I just wanna hear it from you guys: When you tell someone about your feelings, and they say that it would have been better let not said. Someone you know, is gay, but refuses to aknowlegde it even after you go all in, then you should brolly move on? Even without not knowing where, but away from HIM? Right? He was kinda my last option...

 

[josh_the_hot_boy]

Last option? Never. Theirs always more fish in the sea.

 

[AleXXX UK]

Moving on is easier said than done

 

[jw4833]

Although its heartbreaking for someone that you have feelings for and they are not conveying those same feelings towards you. However, the reality is that what can you possibly do but move on because if that person does not show the same interest as yourself, then it leaves you no choice. Besides, the way I see it, this is more than likely a blessing in disguise. Like Josh the Hot Boy said in his response, there are too many fish in the sea for you to believe that he was your last option. You should never allow yourself to think in such a negative manner.

Just remember:

"Sometimes you have to give up on people
Unfortunately, its not because you don't care
But because they don't enough to want to be with you"

 

[newage]

I worked along this guy for a a quarter. He had atypical feminine characteristics of gays, but he talks like he is totally str8. One time he was bragging about how he was slutty when he kissed 2 girls in the circle, and i was like how do you even do that. His mannerisms and the fact that he admitted to being a virgin made me think he was different gay. He is a decent looking 20 year old, who does gymnastics (so very fit), and partys ALOT. ANyways me and other coworker (girl) definitely said he was gay, but he was so averse to it i never even bothered to question him about it. I still see him every so often (don't work with him anymore) but i wouldn't waste my time trying to get him to see the light.

I mean there is that small chance he is not, but one time he said eww boys! What str8 man says "eww" period let alone in conjunction with boys. I just figure when he finally "do it" he will come to his own conclusion. ANyways...rant over. I just say move on...he wasn't a hard crush for me to get over.

 

[Otage]

Well by last choice I meant that he was the last one left of those I've met "naturally" in my life. It's so hard to meet gay people. Even the clubs - well one - in here suck. Never ever in any of my shcools, or workplaces, there haven't been gays. Well obviously there have been, but being closet in this militaristic dunghole forest is so common. Finland is brolly one of the safest countries in the world, and that's no suprise, since everything is so reculated and boring. And to move just to meet people, to some other country? It's all getting just too bothersome...

 

[jeansGuyOZ]

Sorry, but as others have said, you have to deal with it and move on. Wanting someone and having them not want you back is a very common human experience, and it occurs for both gays and straights.

By all means, if you get the chance, travel and see what goes down in other countries - but don't assume that shifting your location is a magic bullet for finding true love and happiness. You know the saying about the other man's grass.

 

[warrenxx]

I think like most I speak from experience and the only option is to move on. However, it is alot easier said than done. I can not put into words the abject misery and heartache I have experienced coming to terms with the fact that my feelings will never be reciprocated. Personally, I do not think there is any worse feeling than that of unrequited love. At times it is all consuming. Maybe, I am particularly sensitive, but it has happened to me a couple of times and it never gets any easier. Time is a great healer and that is the only cure I've found. Although riding it out is one of the biggest endurance tests you can undertake. Nobody can stop themselves falling in love, but the experience is always tainted for me. It always fills me with a feeling of dread and spoils what should be a joyous experience. I can only imagine what it is like to receive it back, and that thought is what keeps me going.