Can someone cheat with porn?

[Otage]

Can one cheat someone with porn? Like is masturbating to porn sometimes (very rarely) cheating, for example towards your boyfriend?

And in this totally hypothetical situation (beliefs who will) the sex between the two is amazing and frequent, but the porn and masturbation has also played big part in ones life, and it's just feels like an totally different kinda sexual experience. I mean real sex is many times better, but sometimes when alone, it's kinda fun just to masterbate to some kinky porn

 

[Shelter]

Dear Otage - so very often I've said here that I'll stay for fidelity. Cheating is the most horrible thing in a real true relationship.

But porn? Let me tell you that my BF and myself we are watching from time to time horny porn films and mostly still during the film we make our own porn. Both of us than we are horny and have rock-hard boners.

And sometimes my BF has to go to a seminar which is lasting mostly for a week. I'll miss him during this time and I'm watching porn and I'm wanking during such a porn film and mostly I'm totally naked in front of the film. But I don't think that with this action I'm cheating my BF.

But on the other hand - if you need more porn to than with your friend, than I think too it is not cheating but a too much addiction to porn - and that could be dangerous to a relationship.

 

[jimid]

I don't think that jerking off by yourself to porn is cheating. As long as it doesn't interfere with your sex life with your boyfriend

 

[Hyp]

Relationships are complicated, and what works for one person may not work for another. As long as you're honest with each other about what your needs and desires are, it should work out. It's when you hide something from your partner that things start to go bad.

 

[gb2000ie]

Can one cheat someone with porn? Like is masturbating to porn sometimes (very rarely) cheating, for example towards your boyfriend?

It depends on the relationship - if it's something you've talked about, and you've agreed not to do it, then it is cheating. If it's something you've taked about and agreed it's OK, then it's not.

If, unwisely IMO, you've not talked about it as a couple, then perhaps it will be interpreted as cheating by the other party, but really, it's all just perception if you've not talked about it.

Being open about all things sex with your partner just makes everything easier.

B.

 

[Wohltorf]

Even in a stable, monogamous relationship there are times when either partner chooses to be selfish about going for his own pleasure at his own speed. It's the nature of our autonomy and it's not a bad thing. If all sex were that way, then there'd be little reason to have a committed partner. But it's not. Sex is complicated. Almost all studies point out that some of the most intense orgasms are masturbatory; that's not cheating--it's good practice. If you watch enough porn, you get the impression that EVERY orgasm is produced by masturbation rather than mutual satisfaction. Thank the fuck gods that that is also not the truth.

 

[wretch]

sometimes your by yourself and need the release
jerking off to porn is just that, a release
it's not cheating, it's just treating yourself to a little pleasure
when he's in my arms the last thing i'm thinking about is the computer
he's got the hard drive i love

 

[lhardwick69]

cheating is sex with another person so in my opinion no--watch porn is cool with me its only when he decides to take his dick out let another man or woman suck it or get fucked by it only then its considered cheating in my book

 

[Shelter]

cheating is sex with another person so in my opinion no--watch porn is cool with me its only when he decides to take his dick out let another man or woman suck it or get fucked by it only then its considered cheating in my book

:agree::agree::agree::agree::thumbs up:

 

[gb2000ie]

cheating is sex with another person so in my opinion no--watch porn is cool with me its only when he decides to take his dick out let another man or woman suck it or get fucked by it only then its considered cheating in my book

On average, I think that definition of cheating works for most couples today. But, that's a side effect not a definition.

Cheating has always been, and will always be, about a breach of trust. It's doing something behind your partner's back that they would not approve of for sexual gratification.

Today, most people are OK with porn, so today, porn is not cheating in most cases, but not in all.

If you were dating someone who you knew felt very strongly that porn was wrong, and who had asked you not to engage, and you had agreed, then viewing porn would be cheating. Your partner trusted you not to, you did, you cheated!

It would also arguably be cheating if you knew your partner was really against porn, and was left with the impression you agreed, even if no explicit promises were made.

It works the other way too - sleeping around it not cheating if you have your partner's permission!

So, the only definition of cheating that acutally means anything is that you are cheating if you breach your partner's trust for sexual gratification.

There is no global definition, because every relationship is different.

B.

 

[lhardwick69]

if I had a boyfriend showing pics of his dick to other men or women I wouldn't care just as long as I got to be the one to suck it

 

[iscemte]

I'd say no, at least that's how I see it

 

[HustleMe15]

Cheating With Porn

I certainly would not call porn cheating. First off while Nick is doing school work, or playing a game, I'll be either on here, or one of the tube sites looking for new porn to watch. Then when I find some really good porn that I think he'd like too we will sit and watch together. So it's not really cheating if he is there with me, right?

Now, on the other hand, if I was being secret about watching the porn, that's a different thing. Say if he was in playing in the other room, and he though I was watching a movie on TV, or doing some stuff online, while I was actually secretly watching porn behind his back, then I think that could be considered cheating.

Personally, I would just feel bad if I was the one that was being cheated on with the porn. Am I not cute enough for you? Do I not perform well enough in bed that you have to jack off while I'm not around? I know if I was the person in that position I would be crushed. I certainly don't want Nick thinking that way, and he knows he does a wonderful job in bed too. But we are open about our sexuality towards each other, and for other people. For most people, that type of relationship wouldn't work. For us, I think it makes us stronger.

One other thing about watching porn, and maybe it being cheating, is how you are watching it. Are you sitting there with your pants pulled up and your belt tight, or are you naked from the waist down? Most of the time, believe it or not, I don't have my pants down watching porn. Sure, I get horny, but I don't need to constantly have my dick in my hand either. If there is one that I find that is jack off worthy, I will usually wait until Nick is done so he can join in, or I'll go tap him on the shoulder and have him see what I found.

I've always thought that the key with cheating, or not, is how open you are about your sexuality with your partner. If you are sneaking around, trying to hide what you are doing, then that is cheating. If you are open about it, try not to hide it, disclose who your partners have been, or what you're planning on doing when meeting up, then that is not cheating in my book. That is an understanding.

OK, so didn't mean to get all long winded on this one. The debate is open!! lol

 

[gb2000ie]

I certainly would not call porn cheating. First off while Nick is doing school work, or playing a game, I'll be either on here, or one of the tube sites looking for new porn to watch. Then when I find some really good porn that I think he'd like too we will sit and watch together. So it's not really cheating if he is there with me, right?

Definitely not - something is only cheating if you do it behind your partner's back, and that sounds like the oposite of that!

Now, on the other hand, if I was being secret about watching the porn, that's a different thing. Say if he was in playing in the other room, and he though I was watching a movie on TV, or doing some stuff online, while I was actually secretly watching porn behind his back, then I think that could be considered cheating.

Especially if you were to know he didn't approve of that kind of thing.

Personally, I would just feel bad if I was the one that was being cheated on with the porn. Am I not cute enough for you? Do I not perform well enough in bed that you have to jack off while I'm not around? I know if I was the person in that position I would be crushed. I certainly don't want Nick thinking that way, and he knows he does a wonderful job in bed too. But we are open about our sexuality towards each other, and for other people. For most people, that type of relationship wouldn't work. For us, I think it makes us stronger.

I think hollywood has a lot to answer for. The attitude that if you jack off there is something wrong with the partner is just nuts! At this stage it's well know that masturbation is a part of a healthy relationship.

Why should two people's sex drives be perfectly symmetrical and in sync just because you are married/dating?

I've always thought that the key with cheating, or not, is how open you are about your sexuality with your partner. If you are sneaking around, trying to hide what you are doing, then that is cheating. If you are open about it, try not to hide it, disclose who your partners have been, or what you're planning on doing when meeting up, then that is not cheating in my book.

Very well put!

B.

 

[jw4833]

I remember one boyfriend that I had who was very uncomfortable with me watching porn. In fact, he did not like the idea of us watching porn period because he said it made him feel a lot of insecurities about his place in our relationship which I mentioned over and over that this was not the case. An interesting fact is that he had sisters who loved porn and watching it with their spouses and there were occasions that two of them would come and visit me during the weekend while he was at work and bring wine and watch gay porn with me and we had a good time. Unfortunately, he did not like this as well. I just assumed that couples watching porn just enhanced the relationship in some ways and did not look at this as something of a negative nature. Nonetheless...everyone has their own perspectives of this which is different from mine. Therefore, to keep our relationship drama free...I honored his feelings.