can you retain your boner?

[Shelter]

In many porn films I can see that the bottom, during he will be fucked, has during all the time a thick, strong and hard boner.

I'm jealous. I can't! I have a hard one during all the foreplay but as soon as my BF penetrates me, my little friend will be very soon soft and is slapping back and forth. My BF loves it - but after seeing all these hard porn bottoms I'm jealous.

How it is with you , your bottoms here?

 

[lovetosuckcock]

For me it all depends on my mood and the guy I'm with. I've had times when I've stayed hard throughout foreplay, initial penetration, and fucking. At other times I've gone flaccid as soon as the guy gets his cock into me. Then there are times when I've been flaccid at the start and gotten hard as soon as I've felt the guy's cock touch my ass. No matter the state of my cock I've always loved getting fucked and the longer a guy can stay in me the better I like it.

 

[clemh01]

When younger I could stay hard most of the time. Age has caught up with me and, without help, mostly not hard. I suspect that Viagra or one of its chemical relatives helps maintain those erections.

 

[stephenhaines]

In many porn films I can see that the bottom, during he will be fucked, has during all the time a thick, strong and hard boner.

I'm jealous. I can't! I have a hard one during all the foreplay but as soon as my BF penetrates me, my little friend will be very soon soft and is slapping back and forth. My BF loves it - but after seeing all these hard porn bottoms I'm jealous.

How it is with you , your bottoms here?

Not only can I, but my husband is convinced I get even harder once he's penetrated.

I prefer doggie-style, but he likes me sit-style facing him so he can bring me to conclusion himself while he's inside, and I confess, it's tough to hold back.

I am genuinely sympathetic to your frustration; you should not have to do without this joyous element of closeness with another man. You don't say whether you've tried, or had any kind of success using a sex toy when alone. But even if not, you can take control of the situation if you can get your BF on board about how important this is to you.

Here, I think sit-style is the way to go at first, once already hard, lowering yourself onto him while stroking, and lifting off if necessary to regain your erection, and also re-lube if needed. Thus this is going require much patience on your BF's part, because it's about putting you at ease, to reach the place where your abandon and trust allows you to give yourself over to what is truly an expression of surrender. He'll have be willing to make his contentment secondarily, at least temporarily, because what you're at here is really a remedial measure. You're both entitled to all the joy sex can offer any male couple. Open communication with one another is vital.

I wish you both good luck. :thumbs up:

 

[Shelter]

Not only can I, but my husband is convinced I get even harder once he's penetrated.

I prefer doggie-style, but he likes me sit-style facing him so he can bring me to conclusion himself while he's inside, and I confess, it's tough to hold back.

I am genuinely sympathetic to your frustration; you should not have to do without this joyous element of closeness with another man. You don't say whether you've tried, or had any kind of success using a sex toy when alone. But even if not, you can take control of the situation if you can get your BF on board about how important this is to you.

Here, I think sit-style is the way to go at first, once already hard, lowering yourself onto him while stroking, and lifting off if necessary to regain your erection, and also re-lube if needed. Thus this is going require much patience on your BF's part, because it's about putting you at ease, to reach the place where your abandon and trust allows you to give yourself over to what is truly an expression of surrender. He'll have be willing to make his contentment secondarily, at least temporarily, because what you're at here is really a remedial measure. You're both entitled to all the joy sex can offer any male couple. Open communication with one another is vital.

I wish you both good luck. :thumbs up:

Thank you Stephenhaines for this profound and appreciative post. Thank you really very much. I (we!) will try it! p

 

[dargelos]

Have you seen the cheap disposable vibrating cockrings, they are in all kinds of convenience stores here, next to the condoms. Made of elastic jelly, one size fits all, should help to keep you boned up. If you liked it then you can get one of the good quality ones, if you dont like the effect its only cost you the price of a coffee.

 

[cdninweho]

My partner never stays hard when getting fucked, I do about 75% of the time (depends on the position).

Nothing like blowing your load while a cock is still sliding in and out of your ass.

 

[perrymason12]

I can usually stay hard when my husband is fucking me. Not always tho. Mostly it seems to be what position we are in. My favorite is being on my side and him behind me.

 

[OLMPKY]

I had a dildo one time from amazon and i couldnt even retain myne.I think it was the little bit of the pain that i felt when i was in action on that thing though :/ Oh well.

 

[kwhotboi]

I am a total bottom and am never hard while being fucked.

 

[Shelter]

I am a total bottom and am never hard while being fucked.

Thank you so much Kwhotboi you gave back to me my self-confidence. As my BF always says: don't look always to the porn movies! But perhaps you will have understand myself. I must ask if it will happen to other bottoms as well.
And my BF has said to me that he will be growing horny if my cock is clacking back and forth while he is fucking me doggy style.

 

[wretch]

for me it's all a mind thing

the taste and smell, the touching and caressing

all go to the mood

his face as he slides his cock in and out keep me hard

and we are so comfortable with each other

enjoy as we do

 

[Otage]

I'm vers and am almost always hard when being fucked. Of course if it feels uncomfortable, then I go soft. Brolly depends lot about penis. Some guys when hard, aren't all that rock hard. But when aroused, my cock is really rock hard