Cock Size Question

[bfdjon]

Hi Guys,

I am far from being a size queen but I am going out on a second date this evening with a guy I really like. Discussion this past week over dinner was about cock size as he said he is very insecure that he is 4" when erect.

I would think tonight we will be getting more intimate but since he brought this issue up (no pun) should I comment on it or not say a word? The last thing I want is for him to feel insecure.

Thanks and sorry for the odd question.

 

[Giangiacomo]

I'm 7" but had no problem with a boyfriend with 4-5". Everything went fine.

 

[gb2000ie]

I think porn has a lot to answer for - it implies the average penis is 6 to 7 inches long, when the real average is only about 5". 4" is just fine, sure, it's the lower side of average, but not by much.

What ever insecurities he may have are unfounded, so don't feed them in any way.

I'd say you should say nothing, and just concentrate on make it give him as much pleasure as you can!

B.

 

[bfdjon]

Thanks for the insights. Greatly appreciated.

 

[Shelter]

I'll totally agree with GB. Don't say anything. I think you will not only love his cock but the whole person.

 

[bfdjon]

Thanks again for the responses.

I agree. My only thinking is he said something because someone in the past must have had an issue with his size. I have not seen it yet but I can say I would prefer it over something Huge. Who knows I might become a bottom yet.

Also I think he might have brought it up as there is a strong connection where I think the possibility of ltr might be on the table.

 

[Lucas88]

I can be rather picky when it comes to a guy's junk if I'm only looking for casual sex. But when it comes to relationships, such superficial attributes are less important. But at the same time, you shouldn't be sweeping things under the rug, especially if you're in it for the long haul. Obviously, you have doubts about whether or not his size will be enough for you. If you find it to be an issue, you should be honest with him. Relationships built on white lies and undiscussed matters will inevitably crumble. I learnt that the hard way.

 

[lhardwick69]

size doesn't make the guy..i been fucked by guys 8 to 11 inches then I met david 4 inches of rock solid cock..he made me realize its not the size but how move it..

but age race size doesn't matter all cock need attention no matter it he is 3 inches or 11

 

[jyotib]

A second date is not the right time to discuss things like the cock size and the insecurities related with it being average or small. A second date is more about enjoying, giving and getting pleasure and a little bit of trust building. Giving a small lecture on how much you care for him and not bothered about his cock size will definitely ruin your date and scare him away. So it's better not to talk about it and show him by your actions that the size doesn't matter to you. This may lead to a third date and maybe further more dates and most importantly it would help him to be a little more confident with you.

If the dating thing leads to a relationship in the future and he is still worried and is still insecure about his penile length then only it is suggested that you give him a verbal assurance stating your nonchalance about the size of the penis and your care & love for him. That will help both of you.

The size of the penis is definitely a myth and the bigger the size more the pleasure concept is absolutely rubbish. Love never happens looking at the penis. It's a feeling that grows with time. Physical pleasure is thing that comes from the proper use of the proper body parts in proper place and time. The more innovative and involved you are with each other, more the pleasure you would feel and that will lead to your mental pleasure.

Of course relationships based on lies never last. But not telling somebody something at a certain point of time is not lying. There is a right time for everything. A second date is simply not the right time for these sort of discussions only and only if he wants to drift away from you because of his insecurities and you really do want to cling to him then assure him verbally.

We never know what future holds for us ahead. It's the uncertainty that makes life so beautiful and we want to live. Maybe in the future you would be in a relationship with him and at that time you won't require any discussion of this sort because he will be confident and you will be the person responsible for him being so. Isn't that wonderful!

So, Best of luck!!

 

[bfdjon]

Thanks again.

As I said at the beginning I am not a size queen. It is the least of my worries in a partner. I have been in two ltrs 10 & 12 years. I just thought it must really be an issue for him that he wanted to discuss it prior to taking our clothes off.

Enjoyable drinks and dinner last night. Decided to go away next weekend. I like the slow and steady. About 3 months back and forth online (schedules finally clicked) two get togethers and now a forthcoming weekend.

 

[AdenaTG]

I am 6 inches when hard but I really don't care about mine, would rather make my man happy and pay attention to his and not mine lol