Do you believe in marriage?

[ThatGayForum]

I love him so much that i wanna marry him. is that normal? or its just a hormonal thing?
do u believe in marriage?

I do. How long have you been with him?

 

[ospubis]

I'm in a happy relationship for more than 17 years. We both do not believe in marriage. We believe that its takes some effort to be happy together. Marriage may let you think, that you belong to each other by law and you may come to a point where you miss the effort to keep your love alive.

 

[gb2000ie]

I'm in a happy relationship for more than 17 years. We both do not believe in marriage. We believe that its takes some effort to be happy together. Marriage may let you think, that you belong to each other by law and you may come to a point where you miss the effort to keep your love alive.

What a strange view of marriage. I don't think anyone thinks it's about replacing the constant work it takes to keep a relationship going. It's about the practical things like inheritance rights and visitation rights. We live on a world where legal status has practical effect. It's about the law recognising the fact that you are in a committed relationship, not a glue!

B.

 

[VersaJay]

Marriage - Why not...

I can't say that it would do all that much for me...but I don't have anything against it.

While there is the potential benefit for immigration status to the USA, my partner of 20 yrs and I are just fine as we are. We live together and certainly are in love.

I think the best result of actually having a wedding would be to finally get some gifts from my straight friends who invite me to their weddings!!!!

:butslap:

 

[nanah]

yep yep

 

[madguy7]

I would love a relationship like my parents, that have been married for 27 years. But I see people my age divorced or in unhappy marragies. I have never been a big fan of being with one person for the rest of my life. It just sounds boring, whether you're in love or not. Too many people fall out of love to quickly and confuse love for lust. But you never know.

 

[Tiamar]

I am married as it is leagal here and I enjoy it. If it works or not... we will see, but I think it is the same as with heteros.

 

[edkiko]

yes

 

[dannydog79]

absolutely

 

[dargelos]

When I was a little boy this tune was on the radio all the time and while it was playing my parents would usually be fighting. So the hokey lyrics of this song forever recall the screaming and breaking bottles that formed the soundtrack to my days of innocence.
Love and marriage my fucking arse.
Didn't stop me falling in love though, it's heading toward thirty years husband and husband, and it don't seem a day too much.
We are unbreakable but it's not a marriage, I wouldn't debase our love by using the word, it's something better than that.

 

[gb2000ie]

We are unbreakable but it's not a marriage, I wouldn't debase our love by using the word, it's something better than that.

Just because your parents had a very bad marriage (and clearly should have split), that does NOT mean that you have a right to debase the word marriage! A good marriage is a great thing, lets be fair!

B.

 

[loveless92]

Yes, not in the religious context... at all, but like tying the knot and being with the one you truly love forever *sighs*

 

[jason_hf]

yup

 

[eLondon]

Isn't it funny that marriage seems to be more popular with people on the political right, when usually they like the state to stay out of everything? Whereas people on the political left tend to opt out of "official" marriages?

Personally I am all for commitment and long-term relationships, but I don't think I'd be tempted to go through any kind of religious or official ceremony unless there was some kind of need - for a pension or to be next of kin, something like that.

 

[dargelos]

Dear gb2000ie , we are so close to being in agreement here; about the first (divorce) part, yes indeed, you could hardly be more right there, and the last bit similarly, a good marriage is A Very Good Thing. We fall out in the middle; I seem to have no right to mock the m word. So sorry, please don't be offended,

 

[cummer7]

I just don't believe in marriage, just the love.

 

[popsoda]

its a waste of money tbh

 

[gb2000ie]

Personally I am all for commitment and long-term relationships, but I don't think I'd be tempted to go through any kind of religious or official ceremony unless there was some kind of need - for a pension or to be next of kin, something like that.

Well - in the real world there are a million reasons to marry in the eyes of the government. You want to be sure to get your tax ducks in a row, you want visitation rights, you want next of kin rights, you want inheritance rights, and you want to be treated as a couple when it comes to retirement homes etc. as you approach the end of your life. The very last thing you want is to live your whole life together only to be separated in your final years.

If you are in a committed relationship, it should be recognised, and for that you need to formally commit to each other.

B.

 

[8oclockcoffee]

I believe in arranged marriages.

Now I just need someone to arrange for Chris Evans to marry me. :rofl:



I suppose I should be grateful this lousy country I live in didn't allow me to get married to the guy I was involved with for eight years, because in the end it was hard enough getting out of his clutches without having to deal with the courts. During the first few years, I almost certainly would have married him if it had been legal. What a mistake that would have been! (Although perhaps he would have tried harder to make things work--as it was, I was the only one working at keeping the relationship up. He made it difficult when I left him more because of how his family felt about me--they adored me--than over any real desire to remain together. I 'made him look bad' :? by ending things when I couldn't take his mistreatment any more.)

 

[json11]

I do very much believe in marriage should the right guy come along.