Does gay porn reflect your real life sex?

[Lucas88]

I know for straight people, they say porn is far from real life sex. But what do you think about gay porn? And I'm not talking about unusual fetish stuff, just your average sex scene from one of the big companies.

I think those porn scenes do represent the sex I have in real life. I do pretty much everything they do: oral, anal, condom, bareback, missionary, doggy, cowboy, reverse cowboy, threesomes, biting, licking, kissing, deep-throat, facial, swallow, rim stuff, on ass and body etc.

If there was a cam in my bedroom, I would probably be able to pass off the footage as a sex scene from a porno...

 

[Shelter]

Hi Lucas I'm right there with you. I don't know how straight guys think of porn - but in the most parts my/our sex-life is the same like in these scenes of the porn flics. Surely there may be perhaps the one or the other practice which we don't do or don't want to do. As well we are no circus performers with hazardous positions.

But back to your question - yes mostly it is with us the same like in the "normal" gay-porns.

 

[Lucas88]

I think it's the women. If it were up to straight guys, their sex life would be like in the pornos. But women in real life probably want more sensual love-making as opposed to the rough -on-my-face banging depicted in pornos.

Gay guys on the other hand are more likely to do it like in the movies because guys are horndogs, no matter their sexuality

 

[Shelter]

I think it's the women. If it were up to straight guys, their sex life would be like in the pornos. But women in real life probably want more sensual love-making as opposed to the rough -on-my-face banging depicted in pornos.

Gay guys on the other hand are more likely to do it like in the movies because guys are horndogs, no matter their sexuality

I think Lucas, you are totally right. I've never fucked a girl - oh that's wrong! I think I was 16 or 17 when I've tried it. But it was only one time and neither me nor her liked it.

A fuck with a boy mostly is a little bit rough and hard and I think girls don't like that so very much. As well I think, not too many girls like it to be fucked in their ass.

But what I feel when I've seen a straight porn is, the guys always are big machos which are treating the girls only like a piece of meat. Well I've not seen so much straight porns, but that always was something what turned me off.

You may say that is the same in a gay porn. But I don't feel so. In a good gay porn too is very much tenderness. And if a boy is sucking the other boys cock you can see in his eyes how he enjoyed it to give his partner such pleasure.

The only thing is that very often the sucking guys disgorged the - that's always a big dissapointment for me.

 

[Wohltorf]

My sex life? Not even remotely like the film version. I suppose that's why I like to get off with them.

 

[gb2000ie]

I didn't want to be the first to pop in here and say "hell no"! But now that someone else has, I'll chime in.

Porn is about as much like real-life sex as your average soap opera is like real-life life IMO.

It's exaggerated and distorted so it makes better entertainment. It's not trying to be real, so it doesn't surprise me that it's not.

I'm of a generation where the internet didn't exist in my early teens, so I probably haven't been influenced by porn in the same way guys 10 or 20 years younger than me have been.

I don't doubt Lucas88 & Shelter are telling the truth, my experience is just very different.

How is it different - much much much more foreplay, anal is an optional extra that happens some times, and if anyone has to wank themselves off, you're doing it wrong IMO!

B.

 

[Shelter]

GB you are right too as well. I know a porn movie is a film like a film in the cinema. It is a fiction.
But if I will see a drama, I can be riveded by the story and feel a little bit with my own life. And I think so it is with a porn film. A good porn film (a good porn?) will show me love with caressing, kissing, foreplay and .... wham! And that is something what we all of us are doing - so I hope!

I know as well that film always is an illusion - but something of this illusion all of us are doing in the reality.

If I see a porn where they are kissing I suddenly have the necessity to kiss my BF as well and often we don't come to the end of the film because we are doing our own film.

 

[Lucas88]

How is it different - much much much more foreplay, anal is an optional extra that happens some times, and if anyone has to wank themselves off, you're doing it wrong IMO!

B.

Maybe I have a different approach to sex because I watched porn before I had sex? But I'm glad you said anal is optional. I wonder how many view it as optional? I neither love it nor hate it - I do it mainly because I assume people want it..

 

[gb2000ie]

Maybe I have a different approach to sex because I watched porn before I had sex?

I think it's a possibility. No way to prove it one way or another, but it seems plausible. If it is true, it's not necessarily a bad thing.

But I'm glad you said anal is optional. I wonder how many view it as optional? I neither love it nor hate it - I do it mainly because I assume people want it..

Do you assume people want it because it is so integral to porn sex?

Porn sex has a script that every studio seems to follow - kissing, jerking, sucking, fucking, ming.

If real sex is the same for many people, is that porn being realistic, or real sex being influenced by porn? I have no idea. Just an interesting thought.

B.

 

[lovetosuckcock]

I can only wish that my sex life reflects what one sees in porn. In fact I'd be ecstatic if I got even half as much action as what is in a typical porn movie.

 

[Mathrigo]

I dont think - its Film... Fiction.
And Fiction is not real.

 

[Shelter]

This is MY DREAM - but here I know definetly that it will be only fiction and only a dream - so a great pity!

 

[Shelter]

We all want to know which one you are in the picture.

Oh my dear Dargelos I would be so very happy to tell you this or that one am I. But nothing - it's a shot from a porn flick which I liked so much. I said it would be my day dream to be in such a group one day - but as I said it will be only my dream or I must try to be a member of such a studio. But there is the other problem - I don't know if I could get a boner with all the cameras and stage directions. So let me dream! And that always makes me a boner!:blushing::blushing::blushing:

 

[HustleMe15]

Wow, this was a harder one to answer than I thought it was going to be. I'm going to keep the answer narrowed down to the sex just between me and Nick. And for the most part, if you're watching scenes from like H@!ix or BC then it is pretty close. But most of the porn is a little too exaggerated. And for the most part so are the scenes from H and BC too. I think a lot of the big porn companies try to do a good job at making the sex realistic, but in in the end (pun) it's all about production value.

Just a bit ago I had my first attempt at real, staged, porn, and I couldn't go through with it. If you ever wonder why the guys aren't hard I now know the reason! So needless to say I will NOT be the next star on your screen lol.

The moans, and "oh yea's", and "fuck me" you hear in the porns are definitely not the way that Nick and I have sex. We are usually pretty quiet. You won't have to pound on the walls to tell us to be quiet if we are your neighbors.

We just pretty much go with the flow and know what each other wants to do by what we do with our bodies. When it is just me and him, there is no need for production value.

 

[Otage]

In porn sex usually follows certain, predictable pattern. Me and my bf's sex has way more variation. Some times it's more gentle and loving, some times bit rougher

But with many hook-ups I often felt like it was from some porn scene... Even with the fetish stuff. Some times I even laughed inside cause it felt so clichee

 

[Ard san Aer]

Does anyone have sensual sex? Loving sex? Ok your not making a baby but are all men about sex and not the connection?

 

[gb2000ie]

Does anyone have sensual sex? Loving sex? Ok your not making a baby but are all men about sex and not the connection?

Hell yes - that's the only sex worth having IMO

B.

 

[Stonecold]

I wasn't aware there was non sensual sex,please explain what that is.

 

[cgrif]

real life is more person

 

[topdog]

Hell yes - that's the only sex worth having IMO

B.

I'm not knocking love, but I've also had some pretty mind-blowing recreational sex. :thumbs up:

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