During sex, BF said "Hurry up, lets get over it"

[luxferre]

i don't know why but it bother me so much, i'm not have sex with him over two weeks now, the memory of he saying that makes a really powerfull turn off for me. he said sorry for make me upset but not the action for accellerate sex.
he gave me a reason that he likes quick sex...that's bull!

anybody know why? your opinion is valuable 4 me!

thanks before

 

[garth33]

i don't know why but it bother me so much, i'm not have sex with him over two weeks now, the memory of he saying that makes a really powerfull turn off for me. he said sorry for make me upset but not the action for accellerate sex.
he gave me a reason that he likes quick sex...that's bull!

anybody know why? your opinion is valuable 4 me!

thanks before

Hi Lux - maybe some more details would be helpful. How long have you been together? How did you feel about him before this happened? Were you two cooling off sexually? Don't be too fast to judge because things like this can make a relationship spiral downward FAST and there are many things to consider...

g33

 

[luxferre]

Hi Lux - maybe some more details would be helpful. How long have you been together? How did you feel about him before this happened? Were you two cooling off sexually? Don't be too fast to judge because things like this can make a relationship spiral downward FAST and there are many things to consider...

g33

thanks,
1. 3 years on and off (just reunite 2 month ago)
2. love 2 death
3. for now, it keeps popping in my head...really powerfull turn off

 

[garth33]

thanks,
1. 3 years on and off (just reunite 2 month ago)
2. love 2 death
3. for now, it keeps popping in my head...really powerfull turn off

1 - who restarted it this last time - you or him?
2 - do you think your feelings for him are stronger than his feelings for you? That could explain number 3...
3- OR maybe he was just having a bad day or wasn't into it right then...we all feel that way sometimes. I know it's tough but maybe you could try to let it go and put it out of your head and see what happens next time...if he feels bad he'll probably try to make it up to you. If he's cold or indifferent you need to talk about it. Keeping these things inside will only poison how you feel about him and ultimately lead to the end of the relationship. I've been through exactly what you have and it didn't end well...I still regret not talking to him face to face but live and learn I guess. If he means that much to you...it IS worth effort on your part!

just my opinion buddy
g33

 

[jw4833]

Well..this is just my opinion..but it doesn't matter to me how long you two have been together or reunited..its just the fact that your bf had the audacity to tell you that leads me to believe that he's not that into you at all...I mean, for someone to tell you something like that during an intimate moment is insane to me..and I would not give him the satisfaction of wanting anything to do with him..Honestly, for two people to be into each other's lives the way you two have on and off..you would think that you would know each other's bodies by now as well as the likes and dislikes..so for me..the only exception I would see if something terrible was going on in his life..however, then why go through the formalities of having sex???...

To conclude with this: "Stop searching for a Neiman Marcus item inside a Dollar Store"!!!!..just saying...Peace...

 

[luxferre]

1 - who restarted it this last time - you or him?
2 - do you think your feelings for him are stronger than his feelings for you? That could explain number 3...
3- OR maybe he was just having a bad day or wasn't into it right then...we all feel that way sometimes. I know it's tough but maybe you could try to let it go and put it out of your head and see what happens next time...if he feels bad he'll probably try to make it up to you. If he's cold or indifferent you need to talk about it. Keeping these things inside will only poison how you feel about him and ultimately lead to the end of the relationship. I've been through exactly what you have and it didn't end well...I still regret not talking to him face to face but live and learn I guess. If he means that much to you...it IS worth effort on your part!

just my opinion buddy
g33

1. he did,
2. i guess so, his not people person
3. yes i was talking to him earlier after reading your last post
that's not end well ~X( ~X( point is just his nature to act like that , i must accept it in the name of love...... :duh: i guess kind have to, i do love him

Well..this is just my opinion..but it doesn't matter to me how long you two have been together or reunited..its just the fact that your bf had the audacity to tell you that leads me to believe that he's not that into you at all...I mean, for someone to tell you something like that during an intimate moment is insane to me..and I would not give him the satisfaction of wanting anything to do with him..Honestly, for two people to be into each other's lives the way you two have on and off..you would think that you would know each other's bodies by now as well as the likes and dislikes..so for me..the only exception I would see if something terrible was going on in his life..however, then why go through the formalities of having sex???...

To conclude with this: "Stop searching for a Neiman Marcus item inside a Dollar Store"!!!!..just saying...Peace...

yes 100% agree with you but in this time i have to be a bigger person or rather idiot....:duh: X_X

 

[jw4833]

1. he did,
2. i guess so, his not people person
3. yes i was talking to him earlier after reading your last post
that's not end well ~X( ~X( point is just his nature to act like that , i must accept it in the name of love...... :duh: i guess kind have to, i do love him



yes 100% agree with you but in this time i have to be a bigger person or rather idiot....:duh: X_X

Dude..don't beat yourself up...we all live and learn..the important thing is that YOU'VE LEARNED!!!..don't sell yourself short...everyone has the privilege of meeting or being involved with an ASSHOLE!!..you will soon see that there are too many guys out there for you to be humiliated by someone who is not worthy...again..just my opinion..its like a Baskin and Robbins..with sooo many flavors for you to get so hung up on one who don't care about YOU!!!...once u build up your self-esteem and confidence..you will see that when one door closes..something always better comes along. I just feel that for someone to come across that harsh within the moment of intimacy, then its not hard to move on...because eventually, he will realize its his lost..and actually, the more I review your story..the more I am realizing that this guy is messing around on you or confused about being torn between you and someone else...???? you feel me???...close that door, and open a new one for brighter opportunities to come your way...it will be alright..u will see..:slap:

 

[ritsuka]

Are you sure he wasn't feeling some physical discomfort and needed to stop? Especially if he was in a passive state at that time, perhaps he felt some pain or otherwise at the moment and so just needed it to end soon? I know I've felt such moments myself, and have asked people to stop or finish soon when it was really necessary. I understand that the remark felt really cold to you, but both partner's needs do have to be thought of in sex, and that isn't only emotional. You might talk about it a bit more before just breaking with him over this.

 

[bloop2]

Omg.. I can't believe your boyfriend said that.. ugh how rude! If that were me I'd hold off and make sure he gets blue balls! .. hmm he might end up cheating on you.. if he was a good boyfriend he'd make it up to you and ask whats wrong, you shoudl talk to him about this.. if not he'd cheat on you and go with someone else.. and if it were that case I'D LEAVE THAT MOTHER EFFER!.. sorry im a bad influence :3.

 

[bubbleswallower]

maybe the reason he said that was because he was in the heat of the moment & just popped out cause the last guy I bj-ed was a little sad that he came earlier then he wanted too.

 

[samos]

I have said this in the past, let me tell you for me it was simply I was over it. Not the relationship, but sex at that moment. I wasn't in the mood and was doing it for him. Rude? Yes I would agree it is, but I did do it because I didn't want to be there doing that at that moment anyway

 

[luxferre]

thanks guys for your input, after show him all this post in this thread, his finally understand want to try more loving, and for the very first time his not just said i love u, but let's make love not just sex but making love......

not quite there yet, but at very least his trying.....

god bless you all,
thanks for helpfull post...

 

[jw4833]

thanks guys for your input, after show him all this post in this thread, his finally understand want to try more loving, and for the very first time his not just said i love u, but let's make love not just sex but making love......

not quite there yet, but at very least his trying.....

god bless you all,
thanks for helpfull post...

Good luck dude..best wishes...hope all works out for you...:cheers: