Gospel Singer Says God Has Healed of Being Homosexual

[jw4833]

Hey Guys:

I want to share something with you and to get your opinion as well. Over the weekend, I had dinner with my sister and she is the only one in my family that has some acceptance of me being a gay man. When we arrived back at her home, she turned on the TV because she wanted me to check out this program that featured well known gospel singer, Donnie McClurkin who proclaimed that after many years of being sexually molested as a young boy by his uncle, the majority of his adulthood was him living a life as a homosexual man outside of the public. However, he also mentioned that he prayed on a consistent basis asking God to heal him of his homosexuality and God answered his prayers and now, he lives a life as a straight man.

I told my sister that what he is saying is totally ridiculous. My sister tend to believe him. I responded with the fact that there are millions of gay people who were not comfortable accepting the fact that they were gay and yet, they eventually not only accepted it, but embraced it as well. Therefore, if God was healing people from being gay, why are there so many gay people in the world?. Furthermore, out of all the people in the world that is gay, what makes him so special that God would do this for him and no one else in the world? There were also gay people in the Biblical days also which clarifies that there were gay people in those times also.

My sister revealed to me that she has a problem understanding why celebrities feel the need to "come out" with their sexual orientation. She believes that they should keep that information to themselves. I explained my perspective as to why gay celebrities make the decision to come out of the closet. However, she still thinks its not a good move. With this being said, I have to say that after re-living the conversation over in my head on the way home, I couldn't help but wonder how she really feel about me being gay and does she have the same feelings towards me as the rest of my family members?. What do you think? as always, thanks so much for reading my post...Peace, JW :cheers:

 

[richym]

Well mate, I guess the first thing to say is maybe this guy has been changed by God, but research would suggest it very rarely happens. I spent many years praying to God, and those feelings never left.
You seem to be comfortable with who you are, which is great. Sorry if the church has badly influenced how your family has reacted. Know that you are fine how you are, and hopefully your family will star to recognise that.

 

[bigsal]

The sad thing about this story is who, too many people think who a different sexual orientation is a disease or fault.

Who knows how many more years will have to pass because mankind open your mind, but I fear that this will never happen.

 

[ihno]

Well, I don't know how long it took you to tell your family you're gay. You have to grant your family time to accept you the way you are and overcome their fears and prejudices like you took time to overcome your own fears before.

However, if they don't accept you after years you might have to keep a healthy distance to them.

as for the gospel singers: US-Americans are crazy.

 

[jw4833]

Let me just say this about myself; my family found out about me being gay almost 20 years ago and that was from a "private" conversation that I had with my mom at the time which happened because she confronted me. Once my sexual identity was revealed, I received a lot of backlash from my family as a whole for years. Earlier, I did try to buy their love and acceptance. However, I did realize eventually that if they can't accept me genuinely, then, so be it. After receiving such harsh and cruel treatment/behavior from my family, I got tired of being hurt by their actions and decided to keep my distance. Therefore, after moving to the west side of my city, I did not hear or seen a family member for about five years. By this time, I've come to accept and embrace myself as a gay man and did not care what they thought of me as well. I have very, very little contact or interaction with my family after all of this time due to my sexual orientation and I am really fine with it. My youngest sister which I've mentioned in my previous post is the only family member that I speak to on a regular basis. Although, she does receive backlash for maintaining a relationship with me from the family, she still wants me in her life. However, there have been times when I have suggested to her to end our relationship because I know that she seeks the approval of my family and she likes having them in her life and yet, I don't want her to be ridiculed for being in my life. I am a very strong individual and I have maintained a life with out them and in a lot of ways . I do pray for them everyday and I leave it like that and move on. Its their loss...because I am a good person ...so be it...after all of these years, you learn to accept and respect their reasons and live your own life to the fullest without them.

 

[bigsal]

I ever followed with passion and interest your messages, and you know you can count on my support,, but you have to explain to your sister that there is nothing to heal, we are not sick or plague. If you do not accept this, then she is sick.
Excuse my frankness, and is not intended as a criticism of anyone.
As always I follow you with affection and continues to smile

 

[tonka]

Tell your sister that God loves gay people. Even the Pope has come to see that.

These "reform the gay" movements are a thing whose time has passed. Even the leaders of these movements end up as gay once again, because that is their nature. You can't pray yourself away. It doesn't work.

 

[W!nston]

The story about the gospel singer is not what it seems. He was a victim of a pedophile. He was psychologically damaged by that abuse by a trusted family member. He could not expose his uncle because children fear rejection and if he exposed his uncle he probably felt he would be found guilty as well. He knew what was happening was wrong but felt powerless to challenge an adult who the whole family thought well of. At least that is how I would interpret the story.

This child grew into an adult. He blamed himself for his childhood abuse. He felt he deserved to be punished. He did 'choose' to live a homosexual life. This is different from someone who is genuinely homosexual at their core. The same as straight men who go gay for pay. They engage in gay relationships and encounters but they are not homosexual. True homosexuals are innately different from heterosexuals in that they are predisposed to seek same sex coupling.

The gospel singer in this story was heterosexual all along. He hid his true sexuality for his own reasons. That does not mean 'God' intervened and 'cured' him of any condition. It means he hid his true feelings out of some misguided self image. He was never Gay so how could he be cured of being Gay?

I never trust stories such as this. In the first place he is a Gospel singer so he has already chosen to worship an extra-terrestrial being. That is a red flag right there. Secondly he failed to expose the uncle who molested him when it would have done some good. The Gospel singer probably was not the only child the uncle molested. Once the gospel singer grew up and moved away the uncle would have tried to find some new child to victimize. Did this gospel singer ever consider what the uncle was doing to other children? Did he act to stop the cycle of sexual abuse of children?

I suppose he would say he 'prayed' to his deity to help those other children. We can safely assume no such help ever came to the other children because as reasonable and logical adults we should all know better than to rely on prayers alone to save the victims of these situations.

This man is using his story to garner more attention and probably sell more CDs and become a bigger celebrity. He sounds like a manipulative person who cares very little for his fellow man. He sounds like a true homophobic bible thumper who let the uncle molest other children and blames only the uncle and not himself.

You should feel no guilt or shame. You are a good person with a strong mind. No matter how your relationship with your family changes you should remember the strong foundation your parents gave you. Even how they shunned you has made you even stronger based on the foundation you were taught as a child.

I admire your strength and courage.

Sniffit

 

[jw4833]

I ever followed with passion and interest your messages, and you know you can count on my support,, but you have to explain to your sister that there is nothing to heal, we are not sick or plague. If you do not accept this, then she is sick.
Excuse my frankness, and is not intended as a criticism of anyone.
As always I follow you with affection and continues to smile

Hey My Friend Big Sal:

No harm done...I agree with what you're saying and I know that you have my best interest at heart...:big hug:JW

 

[jw4833]

The story about the gospel singer is not what it seems. He was a victim of a pedophile. He was psychologically damaged by that abuse by a trusted family member. He could not expose his uncle because children fear rejection and if he exposed his uncle he probably felt he would be found guilty as well. He knew what was happening was wrong but felt powerless to challenge an adult who the whole family thought well of. At least that is how I would interpret the story.

This child grew into an adult. He blamed himself for his childhood abuse. He felt he deserved to be punished. He did 'choose' to live a homosexual life. This is different from someone who is genuinely homosexual at their core. The same as straight men who go gay for pay. They engage in gay relationships and encounters but they are not homosexual. True homosexuals are innately different from heterosexuals in that they are predisposed to seek same sex coupling.

The gospel singer in this story was heterosexual all along. He hid his true sexuality for his own reasons. That does not mean 'God' intervened and 'cured' him of any condition. It means he hid his true feelings out of some misguided self image. He was never Gay so how could he be cured of being Gay?

I never trust stories such as this. In the first place he is a Gospel singer so he has already chosen to worship an extra-terrestrial being. That is a red flag right there. Secondly he failed to expose the uncle who molested him when it would have done some good. The Gospel singer probably was not the only child the uncle molested. Once the gospel singer grew up and moved away the uncle would have tried to find some new child to victimize. Did this gospel singer ever consider what the uncle was doing to other children? Did he act to stop the cycle of sexual abuse of children?

I suppose he would say he 'prayed' to his deity to help those other children. We can safely assume no such help ever came to the other children because as reasonable and logical adults we should all know better than to rely on prayers alone to save the victims of these situations.

This man is using his story to garner more attention and probably sell more CDs and become a bigger celebrity. He sounds like a manipulative person who cares very little for his fellow man. He sounds like a true homophobic bible thumper who let the uncle molest other children and blames only the uncle and not himself.

You should feel no guilt or shame. You are a good person with a strong mind. No matter how your relationship with your family changes you should remember the strong foundation your parents gave you. Even how they shunned you has made you even stronger based on the foundation you were taught as a child.

I admire your strength and courage.

Sniffit

Hi Sniffit: Thanks for your thoughtful words and responding to my post. Although Mr. McClurkin did mentioned in the interview that he was sexually abused by an uncle as well as a couple of his sisters throughout his childhood. However, while in his mid-20's, he decided to write an autobiography where he mentioned the abuse. He also stated that once his parents found out they were very upset at him for sharing this information with the world and they were even in denial and accused him of lying on his uncle. Mr. McClurkin had mentioned in his book that he was involved in a gay relationship with another man as well as having sexual contact with other men as well. On the program, he did not go into greater detail about his homosexuality. He just mentioned that he did live a homosexual lifestyle and with the help of God, he is now healed of being homosexual. Thanks again for your kind words in regard to my family. I really appreciate it. JW:cheers:

 

[richym]

I am glad that you realise that you are a great guy, no matter what your family think. It is indeed their loss if they do not want to keep contact. The fact that your sister wants to keep that contact even though the rest of the family looks down on her should also encourage you that she thinks you are an awesome guy. Perhaps she is still wrestling with can you change, and why she showed you it. But just encourage her that you don't need to change. There are some good talks around by Christians suggesting that God really isn't against homosexuality. Maybe something like that might help her? Take care of yourself.