Help: Guy trouble

[RefixnarcisM]

(con.) But that is all I felt for you. And now I need you to give me a straight answer. No ambiguous answer. Do you feel like the way I feel or not? Cause I felt really pathetic right now for hoping something that I couldn't have. If you doesn't have the feeling like I do then it still fine. We can still be friend and I will start my life again. I wanna do this cause I dont want you to be hurt by your feelings too. So please give me your answer right now.
There! It sound very teen novels indeed. And you have to be ready for whatever his answer. If he want to stay as a friend or doesn't have a same feeling like you do, you have to end this futile you-always-in-my mind thingy. Get rid of it and move on. I know its easy to say but you have to. This is your life.
Good luck!

 

[RefixnarcisM]

Absolutely! Confession through text is soo prehistoric, and its lame. He appreciate you more if you tell him right in front of his face. Drop the L bomb and see his gesture or expression. Most importantly tell him that you want a straight answer.
Its really painful to be strangle by love. Doesn't get the right answer if he love you or not. Toying someone feeling. Thats rude.

 

[Sk8erBoiZach]

Absolutely! Confession through text is soo prehistoric, and its lame. He appreciate you more if you tell him right in front of his face. Drop the L bomb and see his gesture or expression. Most importantly tell him that you want a straight answer.
Its really painful to be strangle by love. Doesn't get the right answer if he love you or not. Toying someone feeling. Thats rude.

alright i'm gonna ask him to meet me, his dorm is a good place right?

 

[josh_the_hot_boy]

Okay you want my opinion I think you need to be frank with him. Meet somewhere and be honest with him about your feelings and say that if he doesn't feel the same way then its okay but you would still love to be friends. I mean I think that's the only way this is going to get anywhere.

 

[Sk8erBoiZach]

Okay you want my opinion I think you need to be frank with him. Meet somewhere and be honest with him about your feelings and say that if he doesn't feel the same way then its okay but you would still love to be friends. I mean I think that's the only way this is going to get anywhere.

i sent him a text asking to meet on Wednesday, its been 4 hours....no response.

 

[josh_the_hot_boy]

oh okay yeah.

 

[Sinnerr]

If I would be in your situation I would write him something like that:
Dear XYZ,
It's hard to understand to me that you're ignoring me currently, althought we had very cool times together. I don't know whats happend, from which reason you're talking to me no more... Well, after all thats just your bussines.
I only wanted to say thank you for your companion, at least in this message.

Zack


Use your own words of course. Don't be too much pathetic. say that you're sorry that your friedship ended suddenly, without evident reason. Don't persuade him already!

 

[Sk8erBoiZach]

oh okay yeah.

he just txtedback saying hes going home for Thanksgiving and we can meet when he gets back. I'm tempted to just ask him over text message if hes interested or not and ask why hes being so vague about everything, is that a good idea or do i just wait till hes back and confront him in person?

 

[Sk8erBoiZach]

If I would be in your situation I would write him something like that:
Dear XYZ,
It's hard to understand to me that you're ignoring me currently, althought we had very cool times together. I don't know whats happend, from which reason you're talking to me no more... Well, after all thats just your bussines.
I only wanted to say thank you for your companion, at least in this message.

Zack


Use your own words of course. Don't be too much pathetic. say that you're sorry that your friedship ended suddenly, without evident reason. Don't persuade him already!

nothing has ended he just txted me saying we can meet once hes back from thanksgiving since i was insisting on meeting on Wednesday. So do you think i should just text him and ask why hes being so vague about the situation or do i ask him in person and tell him i really really wanna be more than friends.

 

[Sinnerr]

If he answered don't press on him. When you will be together you can ask him why is he was bit vague. Maybe He'll tell you without asking... Maybe hes already understood you'd like to be more than just friend. His agreement with meeting could be agreement with being more than friends... I think he was ignoring you cos He was thinking about it ...

 

[Sinnerr]

If you want to text him something at the moment, write just "Ok, I look forward to Wednesday ;-)"

 

[Sk8erBoiZach]

If he answered don't press on him. When you will be together you can ask him why is he was bit vague. Maybe He'll tell you without asking... Maybe hes already understood you'd like to be more than just friend. His agreement with meeting could be agreement with being more than friends... I think he was ignoring you cos He was thinking about it ...

do you agree that he wants to have this conversation or whatever in person, thats why hes been so vague? or not telling me everything? so what im thinking is if he wants to meet in person then ill just wait till he gets back from break (which will be another long week for me) and meet him in person. I just want to make sure, you dont think he's just playing nice about the situation when hes actually straight right? i mean why waste the energy when you can just tell me your not into guys and ill move on you know?

 

[tonka]

You'll find out.
Either
- he strait and likes your company
- he's gay and your nudge will get him going
- he's not sure. In this case, I hope you can suck a cock well enough to get him on to our side

 

[Sinnerr]

do you agree that he wants to have this conversation or whatever in person, thats why hes been so vague? or not telling me everything? so what im thinking is if he wants to meet in person then ill just wait till he gets back from break (which will be another long week for me) and meet him in person. I just want to make sure, you dont think he's just playing nice about the situation when hes actually straight right? i mean why waste the energy when you can just tell me your not into guys and ill move on you know?

He's not straight.
I think that reson why he is so vague now is that has found that You really want to be more than just friend. When a gay guy is in phase when he isn't sure about his orientation he can be pretty cofused. He is just living in enviroment of conformity whole his life and being gay is unconformal.
So it's quite possible he has some psychical barriere to admit he could be gay, and start to love relationship with a guy. But it doesn't mean that his feelings doesn't work in way he was born. An attractive friendly guy as you probably are is magnet for him (same as he is magnet for you) and in such companion, which is absolutely innocent as long as you were friends only He could find out that he also tend to be more than only your friend. It has to be great shock!
And whats up now! Pretty boy who has crush for me (And to be honest, I maybe has crush for him deep in my mind and balls)vs. what I've been always believeing in till now. What my parents awaits .... girlfriend > wife > family.
He just needed a rest from emotions what he was getting in your companion. And time to analize and think.

So thats what I think.

 

[XMan101]

I agree with the above, just let it settle for a week and see him when he's back. It might seem a long wait but if you push it you might push him away.

The week will pass very quickly, then you can see what happens

 

[RefixnarcisM]

Wait for him to come back and give him some time (means that you dont need to text him anymore, even to say how do you do or happy thanksgiving) is the best thing you can do. Like what people writes, that he's on dilemma right now.
OMG this waiting thingy is soo depressing already. Excruciating!

 

[Sk8erBoiZach]

You'll find out.
Either
- he strait and likes your company
- he's gay and your nudge will get him going
- he's not sure. In this case, I hope you can suck a cock well enough to get him on to our side

haha I do pretty well lol

 

[Sk8erBoiZach]

He's not straight.
I think that reson why he is so vague now is that has found that You really want to be more than just friend. When a gay guy is in phase when he isn't sure about his orientation he can be pretty cofused. He is just living in enviroment of conformity whole his life and being gay is unconformal.
So it's quite possible he has some psychical barriere to admit he could be gay, and start to love relationship with a guy. But it doesn't mean that his feelings doesn't work in way he was born. An attractive friendly guy as you probably are is magnet for him (same as he is magnet for you) and in such companion, which is absolutely innocent as long as you were friends only He could find out that he also tend to be more than only your friend. It has to be great shock!
And whats up now! Pretty boy who has crush for me (And to be honest, I maybe has crush for him deep in my mind and balls)vs. what I've been always believeing in till now. What my parents awaits .... girlfriend > wife > family.
He just needed a rest from emotions what he was getting in your companion. And time to analize and think.

So thats what I think.

I will give me time, we did end up texting about thanksgiving yesterday and i told him have a good break we can talk when you get back. he replied definitely(good sign), you too. after all this conversation must be hard with him never been with a guy, so i think I'll just ask to meet at his dorm when he gets back. Maybe i can get some work done while hes away....

 

[Sk8erBoiZach]

I agree with the above, just let it settle for a week and see him when he's back. It might seem a long wait but if you push it you might push him away.

The week will pass very quickly, then you can see what happens

do i ask him on sunday to meet monday or when do you think is a good time to ask him (again).

 

[Sk8erBoiZach]

Wait for him to come back and give him some time (means that you dont need to text him anymore, even to say how do you do or happy thanksgiving) is the best thing you can do. Like what people writes, that he's on dilemma right now.
OMG this waiting thingy is soo depressing already. Excruciating!

i know right? I liked him instantly on the first day, and ever since I've always thought about him but now its everyday....I buy coffee and listen to music and think about being with him. Hes just too damn cute, but the thing is i can never imagine peoples faces when i like someone. And im a sucker for valentines day even though im not overtly romantic i like all the little rituals but never spent it with a guy before, heres to hoping