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[wardell]

I said I would never do it but I'm sick of watching people have sex I want to hook up with son one but I dint know how to go about doing this and how do I stay safe do I put a add in CL is there a app to use and as far as staying safe I you tell someone were you are going and who you are with but is there any thing else I need to know and what about std's how do you know they are telling the truth about themselves any advice is welcome thanks

 

[Otage]

Grindr. Perfect for looking sex. Always let someone know where you go, and with whom. Check if the guy is tellling his true identity by checking his number.

STD's. Learn about them. And how can you trust someone random? Some people are very good lyers or just careless. Practice safe sex. Trust to someone random = not wise.

One is only helpless, if one lets himself to be. Be very carefull, and avoid risks as much as bossiple, but still there are some risks in this situation (as in life always) that you can't bropably control.

And isn't there gay scene? Can you try actual dating? It will give you time to know someone bit better before jumping into bed. There's great amount of wierd people imn the hook-up scene...

 

[Shelter]

Grindr. Perfect for looking sex. Always let someone know where you go, and with whom. Check if the guy is tellling his true identity by checking his number.

STD's. Learn about them. And how can you trust someone random? Some people are very good lyers or just careless. Practice safe sex. Trust to someone random = not wise.

One is only helpless, if one lets himself to be. Be very carefull, and avoid risks as much as bossiple, but still there are some risks in this situation (as in life always) that you can't bropably control.

And isn't there gay scene? Can you try actual dating? It will give you time to know someone bit better before jumping into bed. There's great amount of wierd people imn the hook-up scene...

:agree::agree::agree::agree::agree:

 

[wardell]

There is nothing gay were I live. I'm sure there are gay men some where I just don't know where to look since you bring up dating if I am out and about town and I see a guy I like now do I discreetly let him know I like him. I guess what I'm asking is how do I flirt.

 

[wardell]

I'm 30 years old I have never been on a date and I have never flirted with any one I'm new to all of this

 

[kwhotboi]

Both Grindr and Adam apps are great for hooking up. They show you who is closest to you and what they are looking for. Set up profiles in both with a face pic and you will hook up.
If you are worried about being safe say so in your profile.
For those into BB sex barebackrt is the app and site you want.
Any other questions PM me. I hook up regularly.

 

[topdog]

Well, making the decision to connect is the first step - and you have already done that.

There is life outside your apartment
I know it's hard to conceive
But there's life outside your apartment
And you're only gonna see it if you leave

There is cool shit to do
But it can't come to you
And who knows, dude
You might even score

There is life outside your apartment
But you got to open the door
- Avenue Q

This is, of course, a huge subject. Whole books have been written just on online dating, hookups, cruising, gay dating, etc. Here are a few initial online ideas:

• Don't do Craig's List. It's the most public, with the least information and interaction possible. Maybe try it later if you are adventurous and know your way around; but for "virgins" it's the most risk with the least chance of good sex. (If others with more CL experience want to comment or disagree, please feel free.)
• If you want to go slow, online dating / meetup sites are a good choice. These are sites that have extensive profiles and usually do some kind of matchmaking, giving you the chance write to people you are interested in. They are usually closed systems (Google can't index them), so your profile isn't viewable by the general public. I am in the US and here some examples are Adam4Adam and OK Cupid. These are places to find dates and make friends.
• For a sex partner online, use the hookup apps / sites. M4M, ManHunt, Grindr and Scruff are popular choices among my friends. M4M and ManHunt are profile and communication oriented web sites that are built to facilitate communication / flirting / hookups over time, while Grindr and Scruff are GPS based apps that focus on who is close-by right now.

Now, for meeting people in the real world, if you do these two things you will meet gay friends, potential boyfriends, and sex partners.

• Come out - when you meet people let them know (or at least drop a hint) that you are gay. This brings the interested guys to you. It sounds like you are doing this already. Great! Keep it up and make it consistent.
• Meet people who like the things you like. It could be sports, politics, photography, art, or volunteer work, to name a few. If it is primarily a gay group, so much the better. But even if it isn't, the gay men are there. If you are out, they will find you. Also, Meetup.com gives you access to lots of groups of like-minded people.

Tell us what sounds interesting and we can give more specific advise in that direction. Also, where are you? People may have knowledge of your area and can make local suggestions.

 

[wardell]

I prefer dating but to tell you the truth I don't think any one would date me or hook up because I think I look good at all. I don't think any one knows anything about Alabama

 

[topdog]

Well, I was just in Alabama last month! I had a great time.

So, check out those US dating & hookup sites. I just scoped out the Birmingham area on ManHunt and there were quite a few active guys looking for company.

Regarding your physical attributes:

• Yes, cute / handsome / studly guys get hit on more online than us average looking guys. However, that is not necessarily a good thing. An onslaught of responses can be overwhelming. You want to brush past the guys that don't want what you have to give, and focus on getting the guys that will be in to you. A narrower field is easier to deal with.
• People take their cues from how you feel about yourself. If you are comfortable in your own skin, then your personality and sexuality will shine through. If you don't like yourself, it's hard to have any basis for connecting with someone else. So what can you change about yourself to feel better? What isn't going to change that you need to learn to embrace?
• Average looking people fall in love and have sex all the time. (We just don't see it in the movies!) Have you seen all the gay couples getting engaged or married recently on the news? Not all of them are lookers, but they have all found love. So can you.

You are heading in the right direction; keep pushing a bit outside your comfort zone. You'll get there.

 

[fatty]

When I was young and in my prime
I used to do it all the time
But now that I am old and gay
I only do it once a day

 

[Shelter]

When I was young and in my prime
I used to do it all the time
But now that I am old and gay
I only do it once a day

Fatty that was great!!!!! I hope so much you are not too old to do it. :thumbs up::thumbs up

 

[wardell]

Well I have signed up to some app and my confidence has improved a lot of guys think I'm good looking problem is for reason they stoop talking to me we agree to meet up but then I ask where they stop talking it's weird its happened 3 times

 

[topdog]

It happens. You are weeding out the assholes. Stay your charming, flirty self. You want the guy that keeps coming back.

For tips on crafting an online dating profile, see my past suggestions here.