How can you tell if a guy is GAY???

[Candyman09]

Okay so here is my situation im 18 and i'm still in High School (almost out though) and, theres this kid (who is also 18!!) and when we had class we both were very quiet he never talks to people he doesnt know,, same with me, and i think he is sooooo cutte and adorable and i cant tell if he is gay or not,:worried: the reason i suspect it is becuase sometimes i glance over at him becuase he soo perfect, and i see him staring at me and when i look at him he quickly looks away, (weird i know) i tried to talk to him becuase belive it or not we had PE class and he was always like distant of me, he did sometime try and talk to me but i can tell he was very nervous and i mean VERY nervous!! I guess its hard for to tell if he is gay or not because he does come from a very religous family, i hate when like straight guys are so perfect!! X( becuase i think i might be crushing on this guy and i cant tell if he is gay or he's not!! have any of you guys been in a situation like mine?? please comment, i need to hear some info i dont talk about this with my real friends becuase they wouldnt want to hear this becuase there straight!:thumbs up:

 

[Thor]

well, from my experience there is no way to tell if someone is gay. you just have to ask them!! or let yourself be honest with them, and tell them who you are

I think one of the hardest things to do is just to be ourselves!!

were all afraid of rejection, but it happens whatever we do...so i say "be honest with yourself and all others" LOL

 

[an25108]

Obligatory joke:

Q: How can you tell when a guy is gay?

A: When you suck his dick it tastes like shit.



Seriously though, you won't ever know for sure unless you ask and odds are unless he's comfortable being gay (unlikely given his cirstances) he will just be scared and say "no".

You have to become his friend, a close friend, and open up to him first then if you are truly his friend he might open up to you. Shouldn't take more than a few months.

Be careful around people who come from strict religious families as may be seen as "temptation" or worse.

 

[SWAGGA]

Just go for it - ask him to hang or just start talking to him start by sitting next to him in class. The only way to find out for sure to make yourself available to him.You said he stares at you alot he probably likes you. That or try making friends with his friends and then befriend him.


Then if it works out let us know cuz we all love hearing stories

 

[intensepump]

Bois from strict religious families, me formally being one, take a very long time to become comfortable with the idea of being gay. Now that's not to say, they don't get tempted and try lots of things with people, but as far as long term things....I'm still struggling with it myself....many many many years later.

Approach him on the religious level; like are there any gay friendly churches in your area....ask him what he thinks about those kind of churches and those kind of people....just a safe way to talk about the subject.

 

[flyboy26]

Others may laugh but observing his actions and being covert is best. Watch him drink coffee or a soda; see if he crooks his little finger. Ask him who are his favorite female singers; does he watch the TV show Ellen. I agree with the magazine method; does he read DNA or GQ. Ask him if he likes to watch champion ship swimming and diving; gymnastics and greco roman wrestling. You can comment on how Phelps wore suits so small they showed his pubes even on TV. Tell him you would be embarassed to do that, would he. After pt in the locker room change in front of him so he can see all of you, do some idle chatter about sports while naked for a few seconds before you redress. I don't advise anything overt until he gives off good signals. I was in the military for 26 yrs and I could spot a closet gay in a heartbeat. Had to be real careful during my time. Good luck

 

[XMan101]

You can't always tell but there are little signals. Guys in their teens can go through an odd phase, basically a bi phase while they're growing up & learning.

I had a cute friend at school and he gave out all the signals that he liked me, one example was sitting on the bus. He let his leg touch up against mine for quite a while. He then pulled it away and pretended to be disgusted.

He didn't turn out to be gay but was going through that stage. I suspect he'd have run a mile if I'd responded to him. This was a long time ago and the world was a little different then.

 

[Sauron]

The best thing you could do is an indirect approach by mail/msn and phone as the last step. I advise this because I've used it and it worked perfectly :thumbs up:.

 

[Puddlefoot]

I believe the eyes give it away every time, pay attention to who they are looking at & how long. I am typically oblivious to females but am fully aware of most every manbeast. I'll see a woman but I will LOOK AT(up, down & around) a man. If you get the chance to track his eyes, that may be helpful.

 

[Wes2475]

The way he talk and hand movement. If he can dress better than anybody and like to go shopping, then he's Gay...LOL..

 

[brmstn69]

The way he talk and hand movement. If he can dress better than anybody and like to go shopping, then he's Gay...LOL..

Oh well, then I can't be gay, I don't dress well enough...

 

[intensepump]

I have never worn a dress...

there was that one time at band camp I wore a skirt..er..kilt

 

[ori0n]

I would suggest talking to him privately and just asking him.
Tell him you like him, and ask if he reciprocates.

 

[joparoke]

Guys, c'mon, you don't just walk up to a dude and ask him if he's gay!

And I'm a little insulted by some of the stereotypical comments assuming all gay men are fans of ice skating and Ellen. OMFG!

If this guy is gay (big IF) and in the closet, then you will not get an honest answer if ask him directly anyway, and you can kiss any chance of a friendship goodbye.

The best thing to do is to gradually befriend him. Start by saying "Hi" and smiling. Open yourself up to him. If he responds then start with some small talk. Perhaps eventually you can hang out together. After spending some time with him you may get a sense of his sexuality. If you then feel confident in your relationship, and only then, you can admit to him that you're gay. But only do so if you are willing to be outed and open about it.

There is no quick fix to a problem like yours. But if he is worth the risk, then give it a shot. Slowly and patiently.

Goodluck!

 

[cond_dracula]

guys, im not here a long time, but i have the same problem....
i met 2 guys, they are HOTTTT, they are always together, almost every saturday we go out or we watch movie here at my place and every time they(BOTH of them) talk, they keep looking at me.... im shy and i cant look at them couse i get all horny, strange and my head stop working, all in the same time. somethimes they speak some gay joke, lagh and stuffs.

what u guys think? im sorry but i h8 gay guys that act more like girls them men, i always keep it Professional (HUAAHUAUHAHU) and guys i need help, i live in a reallllyyy small and tradicional town, i still live at my parent house and IDK what i do. do we have some psicologisty here?

uAHhUAUHA

Thanks guys i hope someone answer me

 

[brmstn69]

Well, on the next "movie night" you can always play a "gay themed" movie or something with alot of homoerotic content (like The Covent) or better yet get "Torchwood" (a british TV series, based on Dr.Who, where almost all the main characters are gay or Bi), and see what their reaction is...

 

[sqa]

i mostly agree with joparoke xD

i do sometimes have a false gaydar but then again to prove someone sometimes i put it a test using myself, like telling him that im gay (im very open btw to all my frenz and cousins but not generation above me - mom n dad aunt etc)

and see how they react , but theres a risk and i know what wil happen but i just think that if they dont wanna befriend with me than its their lost but this is my personality,

i just keep thinking if is my doing is wrong and bad?

 

[manymoney22]

I actually agree with what Puddlefoot said:

I believe the eyes give it away every time, pay attention to who they are looking at & how long. I am typically oblivious to females but am fully aware of most every manbeast. I'll see a woman but I will LOOK AT(up, down & around) a man. If you get the chance to track his eyes, that may be helpful.

I saw a guy today and as i was passing by he looked intensely at another man he was passing by. Even after they passed each other, the guy looked over his shoulder, and took a glanse at the manns backside, if you know what i mean...

 

[Shuugo]

See, I think the eye tracking thing works. My "ex-crush" ALWAYS stared into my eyes intensely, would flirt me up in all kind of funny ways. And he even said one time that he had no problem sexing up guys. It wouldnt have ever worked because of "how he lives his life on the wild side".

 

[halbard]

Be his friend - it sounds as though he needs one, and you like him so you should want to be kind to him. Maybe there will never be anything romantic or sexual between you but friendship in itself a wonderful thing. I have a great friend of 20 years who I first befriended because i was interested in him and (mistakenly) thought he had the same interest in me. we never had a sexual relationship but he is the closest thing I have to a brother and that's so good. be a good friend first, if anything else is meant to happen, it will.