I am HIV negative, but my ex has AIDS. He was diagnosed two years into our 8 year relationship when he was hospitalized for pneumonia. This was back in 1998. At the time, his doctor thought he might have a year left to live, but he responded quickly to medication, and within 6 months his viral load was undetectable. As far as I know, it still is, but I broke up with him several years ago (not because of his illness, he was just an asshole! LOL).
He had some gastro-intestinal issues, but his doctor switched him to a different drug 'cocktail' and that got better. Fat redistribution was another of his side effects. He had some anger issues when we first dated, but that got worse over the years. It wasn't a listed side effect of his medications, but most likely was a side effect of ineffective coping with his illness and surrounding issues. State of mind has a very powerful effect on overall health and wellness, both of the mind and the body.
I actually had to deal with the social stigma more than he did, because he made me go to the pharmacy to pick up his medications, and just deal with things in general for him, so a lot of assumptions were made about my health, which was disconcerting for me, but I just learned to not give a fuck what ignorant strangers or acquaintances thought.
We had a pretty active sex life for most of our years together, and there are plenty of sero-discordant (one partner positive/one negative) couples out there, so transmission can certainly be prevented with safe/safer sex and some common sense. Not to generalize my experience onto anyone here, but everyone I have ever personally known who is HIV positive or has AIDS was/is a drug user. Most have been promiscuous (a few lied about that, but the truth later came out), but drug/alcohol abuse are quite damaging to the immune system and there is a lot of cir
stantial evidence that it is a factor in transmission of HIV/seroconversion (and I am not talking about IV drug users sharing infected needles). Marijuana may help with nausea for some people, but it does have negative physical effects.
Safe sex. Monogamy. Good nutrition. Exercise. All are things that are good for physical and mental well-being!
Take care and best of luck to you!