How much support can I give to a friend? - NEED YOUR HELP!

[JonnyFantastico]

And sadly, she was able to really take on the role of "World's Best Actress":

I went over there yesterday to see her sister (who I'm good friends with as well) and to watch last night's "True Blood". As I was walking, I bumped into the ass - erm, - husband's car. I saw her and she told me she was headed up to a friend's house to grab her kids. When they got out of the car, something was... off. She wasn't acting like the woman who was planning to leave her husband, but I brushed it off as her having her mind elsewhere.

As we went upstairs, the feeling just stayed with me and I didn't know why.

While in her friend's house (who I also happen to know; really great chick), he went into the room to talk to her friend's husband and she and I went into the kitchen. We were sitting there with a group of people... she stepped off to have a conversation with someone else and I didn't hear it all, but I heard that her friend said, "...don't give it up so easily; make him work for it".

I knew what was coming. I knew what was coming before I even stepped into the elevator with the two of them. *sighs*

She sat down next to me at the table, alongside her friend's mother... I didn't pick up on everything, but I heard the friend's mother say, "Well, it's always good to give it one more try; not give it up so easily."

I looked at her, probably with a stronger look than I should have and said, "Is that where this is going?"

She looked down and smiled as if she were embarrassed.

I added, "Look, it's none of my business, if it is. I just want to know."

Again. Nothing.

So in short, she's STILL with him and everything she expressed not even a week prior was out the window... and she's working it out.

That was when I let it go.

I made the choice yesterday to officially remove myself from their business. I'm not upset with her... OK, there is a slight bit of heavy disappointment, but at the end of the day, it's her choice. And I'm officially taken you guys' advice to leave it alone and let her deal with her issues. For whatever reason, it's apparent that she can't leave his side and for the sake of my own sanity, it's officially her issue on her own. If there is another problem, she's brought it onto herself and I'm keeping myself sane. I think that's the best choice of action.

Thanks for listening, guys.

 

[bodle]

I think that your friend is fucked and since she is going through such a tough time right now it would be wrong to abandon her. She needs your support and friendship now more than ever even if her shitty situation right now is largely her fault.

 

[JonnyFantastico]

I'm not abandoning her, Bodie; that's not how I operate. I just will be taking a much smaller scene when it comes to her problems with the husband. She's made her choice and it's something she has to deal with without people constantly screaming in her ear. It's unfortunate that she put herself right back in that decision, but I'm simply using an extended "time out" when it comes to that situation, not our friendship.