How to overcome the death of a person?

[Massie]

I had a neighbour. Had, because he's dead.

We were just neighbours, nothing more. He had a lover, a very jealous person. In the meantime that lover has found a new one. Within a month.
Mourning is for me because I miss him and found him nice and friendly. No, I didn't love him. Nevertheless, I lost something (someone???) that I can't describe.

How to overcome that??

 

[richym]

Hey mate, we each respond to death in different ways, and the healing process is different for each. My suggestion is to find someone you can talk about it with. Someone who will listen to how you are feeling. You probably don't need solutions from them, just for them to listen and to hear how you are feeling. And take as long as you need, don't feel bad if it takes some time, to lose someone special is a difficult thing.

 

[LuiM]

Time heals all wounds?

Yea, you took it from my mouth.

Time is the best doctor.

 

[mrduke]

I am no counselor, but I will chiime in after having lost all my grandparents, father and mother, a brother and most of my aunts and uncles, an unbelievable amount of friends to HIV AIDS, and a sister dying of bone cancer.

What you do is live with the memories of what you shared. Nothing can pervert those, they are what they are, good, bad and ugly.

Celebrate what they brought to your life, mourn what other's will miss, but by no means wish them back, because whatever took them was far more harmful.

Tears are for what you're missing, certainly not for the suffering.

Duke

 

[jw4833]

When I lost my bf a few years ago, it was the most devastating moment in my life besides the lost of my dad. I went into a deep depression and became a recluse. We had recorded our vacations, holidays, etc. and I would get up in the early hours of the morning and just watch them all on a consistent level as well as stare at photos of him over and over. It was suggested to me by one of my closest buddies to go into therapy which I wound up doing. Like IntegritasO said in his post..Time heals eventually, ..this year, I have started going out on dates occassionally ..but its a baby step process..but I am making progress..also the company of good friends who supports you helps a lot too...Everything will work out..You'll see...

 

[Massie]

Thanks all of you.

What rest are memories. Memories of a friendly person, who always was helpful. Who had a great knowledge. And a warm heart.
Once he said to me «My youth was a hell. I was beaten by class mates, because I was different. In that time I didn't even know that I was gay. That time learned me not to reject people just because they are different».

Perhaps it's that moderate kind of reaction that I will miss.

 

[alexfot55]

It will take its toll and go away.Life goes on but not unscratched.