If you want me, convert

[jon13lee]

So I was thinking about religion and relationships on my way home today and was wondering how people will think of the following situation:

You meet someone who you fall in love with. This individual is your ideal person to have a relationship with (i.e. good personality, physically attractive, etc.). However, this person is completely devoted to a certain faith/philosophy/religion and will only date you if you believe in the same faith, etc. Would you consider taking up that individual's faith or will you find someone else?

I personally don't identify with a religion and I found this scenario to be difficult to answer. I don't want to miss out on my ideal person...but I also don't want to lie about my own beliefs. What would you do?

 

[darkjimster]

No i would not change my faith nor would i want him to so he just wouldn't be the real deal for me

 

[XMan101]

No! You accept each other's personal beliefs (or lack of them) or you can never have a successful relationship. You may have to compromise certain aspects of lifestyle but some things you can't and you can't believe in something just because someone tells you to! It would be a lie anyway.

 

[rockstar]

Most of the major religion of the world prohibits homosexual, therefore, fuck it and just have sex.. its that simple.

 

[gb2000ie]

I think you question is flawed - if they insist on converting you they CAN'T be the ideal person for you! If you need to change to make it work, then it won't work, you are not compatible, move on!

Now - just because you don't share a religion does not make you uncompatible per-say, as long as neither partner pressures the other to convert it's all good. Myself and my partner have very different religious views - I'm an agnostic, he's a pagan. He respects that I don't believe, and I respect that he does. We joke about his 'hippie bullshit', but it's him who started using that term, not me. When I'd ask a silly question like 'why are you pouring some of that whiskey onto the fire' he'd say 'just hippy bullshit love and smile'. Which I know to be short for 'it's a religious thing'.

Anyhow, mixed faiths can work, forced conversion, just a giant big no-no IMO.

B.

 

[brmstn69]

Why should I bother to change for you? I'll just get bored with you in a few months and move on to the next thing that catches eye anyway...:rofl:

 

[diklik]

You meet someone who you fall in love with. This individual is your ideal person to have a relationship with (i.e. good personality, physically attractive, etc.). However, this person is completely devoted to a certain faith/philosophy/religion and will only date you if you believe in the same faith, etc. Would you consider taking up that individual's faith or will you find someone else?

That borders on the impossible relationship - since most religions demand total adherence to their teachings......and almost every religious belief system denounces homosexuality or even living together of any pair of partners outside of a formal marriage specified within the tenets of that religion. Personally, I wouldn't waste time with anyone (no matter how cute or hot or desirable), the moment that religious adherence comes into the discussion. If someone loves me or I love someone, it is only about them (or me) and not what we believe or adhere to in our personal philosophies. If I make love to someone, it is not because I like their faith or beliefs. So I would tell them (if I was in that scenario) that we are a couple because of mutual attractions, and anything else is not of interest. If that was the deal-breaker, then so be it.