Life can be so cruel :(

[gb2000ie]

Feel free to ignore this post - I'm just venting because I think it will help.

How terrible nature is to strike down even the un-born. After 5 weeks of a battle, my un-born niece died on Saturday, before being born into this world on Sunday, only to be buried a few days later.

That poor little girl didn't even get a chance at happiness, and I feel so sorry for my sister in law, who had to endure labour with a child everyone knew was dead. I can't think of anything more horrible than that. My brother couldn't even describe the ordeal to me.

I'm going home for the burial early tomorrow, and I'm both keen to get there and support the family, and dreading it all at the same time. I don't think I'll be able to hold it together as they bury the tiny coffin.

Life is just not fair.

B.

 

[XMan101]

My sympathies too Bart !

Don't worry about venting, we're all friends here

I'm sure you'll be a great support, but life has these unpleasant twists.

Hugs xx

 

[retro2263]

I am so sorry for your families lose. As a father, it hurts when I learn of a young life taken from us.
I'm sure your presence there will be a great comfort for them.

 

[iotbg]

My sympathies also,B.

 

[RefixnarcisM]

You have my condolences too. I hope the family of the lose one can get up from their grieves soon.

 

[c750dt]

It would seem 2011 hasn't been the kindest of years.

Best wishes to you and your family. May all of you come out of this stronger.

 

[garth33]

How terrible - I'm so sorry GB Be strong for your sister in-law - we have your back here. (and can lend you an ear anytime you want to vent)

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[Whisper]

I'm so sorry for you and your family and I wish you all strength to get through this *hugs*

We haven't talked, but if you ever need someone to talk with, I'm here.


*******

 

[mikey11]

This is just heart-breaking. I symphatise with you GB.

 

[Tjerk12]

That is really sad Gb200ie. Life is not fair and will never be. Maybe that is the main reason why people yearn for a second chance in reincarnation or heaven.

To lose a child is terrible. After our two kids my wife had a miscarriage (after five month, it was a triplet). Although it was for both of us a big shock, it was for her more dramatic. Since that moment she had depressions and they never vanished.
It is important for a husband to support the partner unreservedly, even when the demands seem unrealistic.

My warm feelings,
Tjerk.

 

[gb2000ie]

Thanks so much everyone - I really appreciate all the good wishes.

The burial was today, and it was, as expected, very sad and upsetting. You can't prepare yourself for seeing the tiny little white coffin, it's just not right.

I rarely say good things about the Catholic Church, but I have nothing but praise for the local parish priest, and for how far the church has advanced in the last few decades in Ireland. There was a time, not that long ago, that un-baptised people could not be buried in consecrated ground, so they'd have to be buried outside the cemetery. That's all changed now, and the priest was very supportive and said prayers and blessed the grave. I'm not at all religious, but my sister in law is, so it meant a lot to me that her church were so supportive.

Thanks again for your all your kind words.

B.

 

[XMan101]

I'm glad it went well Bart. I've never been to a baby's funeral, and can only imagine how heartbreaking it must have been.

Like I said, we're all friends here and you're welcome to contact me anytime if you need to

 

[Whisper]

It's good to hear that everything went well. It is hard to find words but once again I wish strength for you and your family and remember this: you are not alone here if you need to talk or anything *hugs*

 

[smallsleepyrascalcat]

I am very sorry to hear this.
My little sister lost her unborn 2 years ago when she was in the 7th month.
I know how you feel.

 

[etilit]

sorry to hear this