Widd
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Thank you all for your contributions.
It’s been a while but I real all your messages, and they were helpful (especially topdog).
What happened is that we talked about it. I kinda made him understand that I knew about his habits and I told him how it made me feel - insecure, that I wasn’t enough. He actually explained me he l has always watched a lot of porn, being in a relationship or not, and that it is indeed a habit. Coming back from work, watching porn, napping, welcoming me at home. He also told me he would try to watch less, at least to see if he can get hard with me more easily. I know he didn’t watch for at least a week, so the “addiction” term was me freaking out. He started watching again, I don’t know the frequency, but he told me. And I’m trying to be ok with it, because he explained me he loves me, my body, and porn is just porn. Nothing to compare with what we have, he doesn’t want me to go to gym to have a hot body like porn actors because, well, it turns out he thinks I’m hot the way I am. So I guess I’ll try to focus on that. I don’t have to feel a competition with the guys from the porn he watches. I’ll just have to see it as a habit, something that has nothing to do with me and that he needs, as his personal time. I have to because asking him not to watch ever again is unrealistic and it could obviously hurt our relationship. Thank you, all. Be sure I’ll post again when my brain will start being annoying again.
It’s been a while but I real all your messages, and they were helpful (especially topdog).
What happened is that we talked about it. I kinda made him understand that I knew about his habits and I told him how it made me feel - insecure, that I wasn’t enough. He actually explained me he l has always watched a lot of porn, being in a relationship or not, and that it is indeed a habit. Coming back from work, watching porn, napping, welcoming me at home. He also told me he would try to watch less, at least to see if he can get hard with me more easily. I know he didn’t watch for at least a week, so the “addiction” term was me freaking out. He started watching again, I don’t know the frequency, but he told me. And I’m trying to be ok with it, because he explained me he loves me, my body, and porn is just porn. Nothing to compare with what we have, he doesn’t want me to go to gym to have a hot body like porn actors because, well, it turns out he thinks I’m hot the way I am. So I guess I’ll try to focus on that. I don’t have to feel a competition with the guys from the porn he watches. I’ll just have to see it as a habit, something that has nothing to do with me and that he needs, as his personal time. I have to because asking him not to watch ever again is unrealistic and it could obviously hurt our relationship. Thank you, all. Be sure I’ll post again when my brain will start being annoying again.
