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Yes, social phobia and anxiety disorders run in my family. I know how hard it can be. Some days its hard to do simple stuff like go to the supermarket.
However, if i were in ur place i would leave this whole thing as txt flirting and not take it any further for a couple of reasons. A lot of ppl send txt lately fishing for conversation saying its someones old number. Idk what the deal is, apparently its like a trend or something. Some of them are trolls. Anyway, its kinda sketch!
I know its hard to meet ppl in person, ESPECIALLY approach them. But even though this might sound stupid, things like Grindr really helped me. You make of the app what u want. If u want to look for something serious, just to meet ppl, anything. Its a great first step to chat w ppl. However, at the same time its important not to take it personally bc there are a ton of assholes (90%) there. But if u just use it as a tool to practice to talk to ppl and maybe even start virtual flirting, its pretty useful!
Also, I wanna add that my anxiety, luckily, hasnt really hindered my personal relationships too much, but my sister has suffered a lot. Her medication helped her a TON! I dont know if u take any, but I highly recommend it if u dont. It will really douse the anxiety and allow u to REALLY be yourself.
Hope this helps! Best of luck!
However, if i were in ur place i would leave this whole thing as txt flirting and not take it any further for a couple of reasons. A lot of ppl send txt lately fishing for conversation saying its someones old number. Idk what the deal is, apparently its like a trend or something. Some of them are trolls. Anyway, its kinda sketch!
I know its hard to meet ppl in person, ESPECIALLY approach them. But even though this might sound stupid, things like Grindr really helped me. You make of the app what u want. If u want to look for something serious, just to meet ppl, anything. Its a great first step to chat w ppl. However, at the same time its important not to take it personally bc there are a ton of assholes (90%) there. But if u just use it as a tool to practice to talk to ppl and maybe even start virtual flirting, its pretty useful!
Also, I wanna add that my anxiety, luckily, hasnt really hindered my personal relationships too much, but my sister has suffered a lot. Her medication helped her a TON! I dont know if u take any, but I highly recommend it if u dont. It will really douse the anxiety and allow u to REALLY be yourself.
Hope this helps! Best of luck!
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If you don't notice a difference within like 2 months then they aren't having any effect. I was just put on an anti depressant like 8 weeks ago and I'm noticing a lot of changes.
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I agree with Josh. If you are still too anxious to interact with people, then the meds aren't working. It's time to try something else. Which way do you think you need to go:
It's kind of like tweaking the dial one way (soothing) or the other (energizing). Let your doctor know what you think is missing and have him/her recommend a change to take you in the direction you need to go.
It took me years to find just the right combination of drugs to boost my mood, without making me fat, sleepy, jittery, or impotent.
About the texting guy - there's no harm in continuing the electronic relationship. Be careful, though. He may just be screwing with your head while his buddies are laughing over his shoulder. Or he might be curious but doesn't want show that side to his friends. Either way, it's not great relationship material - but at best there may be some interesting sex to be had.
- Soothe your anxiety and control panic attacks?
- Boost your feelings about yourself so you can launch yourself into a social situation?
It's kind of like tweaking the dial one way (soothing) or the other (energizing). Let your doctor know what you think is missing and have him/her recommend a change to take you in the direction you need to go.
It took me years to find just the right combination of drugs to boost my mood, without making me fat, sleepy, jittery, or impotent.
About the texting guy - there's no harm in continuing the electronic relationship. Be careful, though. He may just be screwing with your head while his buddies are laughing over his shoulder. Or he might be curious but doesn't want show that side to his friends. Either way, it's not great relationship material - but at best there may be some interesting sex to be had.
. You have the time so carry on taking it nice and slow and see where you end up.
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Oh Jeez... I'm so very sorry to hear this news, people can be pure shits sometimes. I'm also relieved that your friends came round and gave you some comfort as I can only send you virtual hugs from afar :hug: C:C :hug: C:C
You will get over this - I know it doesn't seem like it right now, but you will, and you will be stronger for it. And you weren't stupid - you just had the misfortune to meet a prize bastard.
You will get over this - I know it doesn't seem like it right now, but you will, and you will be stronger for it. And you weren't stupid - you just had the misfortune to meet a prize bastard.
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There are two things that are a total waste of your time:
Both of these are essentially unknowable, unless you have a way of climbing into he other guy's head. And regardless, from a practical standpoint, it is irrelevant. The reasons don't matter. The only thing you can do is wish him well and move on.
If that seems impossible, then you have to ask yourself, why are you throwing yourself at someone who has no respect or consideration for you? This guy may be screwed up, but you're now the one who won't walk away.
What do you need most right now?
- Trying to figure out whether a guy who says he's straight is "really" straight (whatever that means)
- Trying to figure out why a guy that you like doesn't feel the same toward you
Both of these are essentially unknowable, unless you have a way of climbing into he other guy's head. And regardless, from a practical standpoint, it is irrelevant. The reasons don't matter. The only thing you can do is wish him well and move on.
If that seems impossible, then you have to ask yourself, why are you throwing yourself at someone who has no respect or consideration for you? This guy may be screwed up, but you're now the one who won't walk away.
What do you need most right now?
@Butt Boi - SlimJim and TopDog are giving you VERY GOOD advice. There is an entire world out there, with several people in it which offer love, laughter, trust, respect, warmth, any many other life benefits - and in all fairness, you should be prepared to offer the same - THAT is what friendship is!
