One night stands: when do you leave and how?

[aguycalledchris]

when i hook up with a random guy - as soons as i - im done - just get the hell outta here

 

[Shelter]

when i hook up with a random guy - as soons as i - im done - just get the hell outta here

Sounds not very romantic - it's only a satisfaction of lust. Sorry but that's something I don't like! :no:

 

[Shelter]

so how do you usually go about your random hook ups, after you do you cuddle and knock out?

Well to be honest - since a very long time I haven't had random hook ups - I'm in a very solid relationship. And I don't ache to do so. I really feel vintage - and that means too after the sex cuddle, tender kisses, caressing - a second time of sex and again cuddle ..... and as you have said "knock out"! So I'm experiencing LOVE which let me feel happy during the next day. And that will be the reason why I'm a deeply contented young man. Am I vintage? If everyone feels so - OK, I feel good. pp:heart::heart:

 

[brmstn69]

When the dome light comes on the party's over. Get out...:devil:

 

[Otage]

To me it doesn't really matter how or when the other or you leaves, more important to me is that, that you both know its just a one night stand. Luring someone with promises you aren't going to keep just to get sex makes you total a**hole. When both participants are clear on terms, then it's just sex. After that nothing matters

 

[drakepeter]

I have made my exit when the cirstances of the hook up dictated it and its always been mutual .

 

[Chrix]

I like to stay...

 

[jeansGuyOZ]

If I'm at someone else's place I do not expect to be invited to stay all night, but if I am invited, and it's convenient for me, then i probably wiill. If it's at my place, I generally prefer to have the bed to myself for sleeping, though there have been a couple of occasions I allowed the guy to stay over, the night being half gone anyway.

There is no right and wrong.

 

[trentw]

I think were all grown-ups. so when you want to leave, do. If you want them to leave ask them to. Honesty is best. I've had hookups in the past where we parted after ming and others where we fucked, cuddled and slept all weekend. It depends on the chemisty.

 

[jw4833]

I've have had one night stands prior to being in a relationship ... however, I tend to make it apparent prior to having sex that it is what it is so as to not have that individual assuming that there's a possibility for something more. I remember bartending and hanging out with a male stripper whom had frequent the club a lot. One particular night...he wound up staying with me for the weekend and yet even though I let it be known that it was just a fling...for some reason...that information went over his head and he just knew it was the start of something new which in my mind..it wasn't. Needless to say..he caused a lot of animosity towards me whenever he came to the club to dance for a while. From that experience, I have became very cool with a selected few who became f**k buddies and they know that's all it is besides maintaining a good friendship. Therefore, I would suggest to make it clear to that individual prior to having sex what's the deal is so that they know where you stand.

 

[HustleMe15]

Wow, there are a lot of good answers to this post. Interesting to read what the views are on when to leave. First off, just to let everyone know, my boyfriend and I are in an "open relationship". We love each other very much, no doubt about that. But at the same time it is hard to think of only being with ONE person for the rest of your life. The straight people have made that obvious with a 50% divorce rate.

But when I do a hook up, most of the time the conditions are set for what is going to happen before I get to their place. If I'm going to spend the night, I call my bf and let him know. Though 99% of the time when we are both satisfied sexually, I will get dressed and call it a night, get home, and cuddle up with the bf.

 

[Irishman25]

always better to leave the scene of the crime as soon as u can lol

 

[WarwickLad]

I would feel uncomfortable staying the night at a stranger's house. I guess if the chemistry was really good or if I had drank too much I might make an exception.

 

[dargelos]

I would feel uncomfortable staying the night at a stranger's house. I guess if the chemistry was really good or if I had drank too much I might make an exception.

I always drank too much, so the exception was the rule.

 

[Stonecold]

I always drank too much, so the exception was the rule.

So very true

 

[RufusMc]

Haven't had a one nighter for years, but usually they were wham bam thank you jobs.

 

[Stonecold]

Haven't had a one nighter for years, but usually they were wham bam thank you jobs.

It has been decades since I had one, but back in the day, I would say it was at least 50/50. mainly because neither party was in any shape to get up and go anywhere.

 

[dargelos]

If you like a man enough to want to make love to him, it is not asking too much, is it? that you show him a little bit of friendliness in the morning before you fuck off to go to work, hungover or not hungover.

 

[Stonecold]

TThere are times you want to stay to have more sex in the morning.

 

[cowboy73]

To me it doesn't really matter how or when the other or you leaves, more important to me is that, that you both know its just a one night stand. Luring someone with promises you aren't going to keep just to get sex makes you total a**hole. When both participants are clear on terms, then it's just sex. After that nothing matters

I would have to argue that unless something is said contradictory, that not saying anything to a trick, SHOULD imply that it is just a one night stand. If you start telling the person that you LOVE them and then you ghost them afterwards then you are correct, that is not cool at all. But you should never tell someone you love them on the first date anyway it's totally weird. But if you have just met someone on Grindr and you go over to their house and they are ass up waiting for you with the door propped open I don't think either person is expecting true love to come from this.