Please let me understand my friend

[herod]

Man, sorry the bad english... but i maybe passing the same thing...

Like 1 year i got to know someone wich i belivied to be my best friend, onde day in a joke i discovered him had a thing with another guy... from that day on i discovered that i liked him... i told him by FB, and he said he not have more things with man, i tried other times and no no and no, but still we keep a closer friendship.

One day after July, 2 to 3 weeks withou seeing him, after a party i slept at his house again and we had sex (frot). He confused said it was beacause he was low because of a NO of a girl. More later i said to him we could only have fun... and we had other time sex... he said him dont feel well staying with me... But still we had another 2 times, in the last one we had anal sex.. in the end we had a chat and he said like other times him dont see him as gay yet or dont like it, but i was not the person wich wold make him make sure he wanted to stay with a man... the last time we had sex he said it was only better than masturbate... Still, we still keep the friendship, and like you i always cant say NO for anything...

Him have similar attitudes like yours friend at front of other people...

No i dont have a solution, but i can say it only make you feel BAD, fucking bad.... for this year i dont know whats is going to happen.

Thanks for digging out this fantastic post. Lots of good story in here

 

[hugmebear]

@jw4833

Your experience hit really close to home. I've been in similar situations but with very negative outcomes. Have you considered looking him up on facebook?

@sephitorh

I'm sorry you faced such duality. People such as the person you described, seem to never be aware of the hurt and turmoil they inflict upon others, and tend to react with "Why would you think that? You took things the wrong way."

 

[hugmebear]

From my experience, the best way to overcome this is to actually talk to him. There are literally 100 possible reasons for his actions, but you'll never know for sure. The only way to get an idea is to ask him. I know that there's always so much fear and anxiety involved even thinking about that option, but feeling that strong fear for a short period of time is betting than torturing yourself for months.

When I look back at my life, most of the things I regret aren't things I did, but the things I didn't do.

Confronting him may accomplish nothing but cause ill feelings since he may be dishonest or unsure of his feelings.