The prostate is a spherical ball with two lobes, roughly the size of a walnut. It lives inside your body at the base of your penis, underneath your bladder, pressing and subtly protruding against the wall of your rectum. It gets larger as you age and gets larger with sexual arousal. If you gently coax a finger or two in your bum (or the bum of your partner), you'll find the prostate about 3 1/2 to 4 inches in. If you gently bend your finger in a "come hither" gesture with your finger-tip facing toward your partner's belly button, you should hit the prostate right at the point the intestinal wall changes direction and begins to flatten out. The prostate is firmer than the surrounding tissue (like the tip of your nose compared to a supple cheek, the texture and consistency of a ripe plum).
The prostate, along with the seminal vesicles above it, produce nearly all of the fluid in semen. Only a small portion originates in the testicles. According to Charlie and Aislinn, prostate massage and other therapeutic techniques like pegging (penetrating a man with a strap-on dildo) or fucking-- done properly and with practice-- can allow men to experience multiple orgasms, even without the accompaniment of ejaculation. Proper massage can also build the amount of fluid in your semen and create more powerful orgasms.
How to do it:
Once you find the prostate, slowly massage and stroke it. Don't feel limited in your options. Drag your finger across it top to bottom, side to side like a windshield wiper or in small circles. Oddly enough, nearly everyone prefers a specific direction-- clockwise or counter-clockwise-- so be sure to ask your partner what works. You can also softly tap the prostate with your finger. Charlie and Aislinn's research also reveals that most men prefer a slow beat of around 120 beats per minute
as quick as possible... and that doesn't always involve penetration or the penis area 
