Random Sex Or Sexless Relationship?

[Squallmuzza]

This is an interesting one for me. Would you rather random shagging or a loving relationship that was sexless? Personally, I'd go for a full loving relationship that had no sex. Nothing beats that glow when you're all cuddled up and snug.

Will be interesting to hear some more thoughts on this =)

 

[XMan101]

I agree, although isn't that just one step further from a close friendship anyway?

I don't need sex all the time, quite happy with porn etc when the real thing isn't there. I got bored with random sex a long while ago. It might still happen on occasions, and not many would turn down an opportunity if you're single, but to do it regularly eventually becomes very boring, very unfulfilling and very empty. I'd rather not bother if that's all there was. I've never been unhappy being single or on my own, alone & lonely are not the same thing. It's easier to feel lonely with lots of casual sex than having none

So, a loving relationship without sex I'd not be unhappy with.

 

[taurus2904]

Been there, done both.

The random sex was usually fun and physically satisfying, but emotionally stifling. Suppressing emotions, not having an emotional connection with a sex partner, and not getting emotional feedback left me feeling empty. I noticed that I began to turn off emotion with family, friends, coworkers...everyone.

A sexless relationship would be too difficult for me. Even with a strong emotional connection -- with cuddling, conversation, genuine caring/concern for a partner, and shared experiences -- the physical is such a direct expression of intimacy, personally, that I missed it when it wasn't there. Honestly, it felt like a rejection of sorts when that part of the relationship disappeared.

I can be sexless on my own. I'll be the crazy cat lady fag and do the occasional hook up.

 

[Squallmuzza]

Hmmm, my ex always did say 'having you is like having a best friend that I have sex with' so yeah XD.

And I've gotta admit, casual sex does make you feel more lonely on the off-time. It's more heavy polar extremes. I tend to only jump on the few special one offs.

 

[nothan007]

Umm i would prefer "A sexless loving relationship" . I agree that sex is important but not at all . I like more snoging and cuddling

 

[goejavin]

Umm i would prefer "A sexless loving relationship" . I agree that sex is important but not at all . I like more snoging and cuddling

I'm just far to needy emotionally to randomly have sex with just anyone. If they start yelling out someones name while we're having sex I'd probably cry or if they take their pants off and their dick looks like a hoola hoop I'd probably laugh so it just doesnt work for me.
Not having sex with someone I love assuming its more than a friend would be tough though too. Although as long as I have GH, I could get along with just snogging and cuddling...

Oh, by the way, what is snogging? Whatever I can tell I would love it...

 

[Squallmuzza]

or if they take their pants off and their dick looks like a hoola hoop I'd probably laugh so it just doesnt work for me.


Oh, by the way, what is snogging? Whatever I can tell I would love it...

I laughed SO much at that XD

Oh, by the way, what is snogging? Whatever I can tell I would love it...

Tongue kissing

 

[XMan101]

Can't beat a good snog Trouble is my dick down below always responds instantly )