Raw sex?

[tonib]

So I just started seeing a guy. We have not hooked up yet but as we discussed what we like, he states he prefers raw sex. I am the opposite that until we are in a committed and monogamous relationship, I want to use protection during sex. This is becoming an issue and I am totally going to stand my ground on the issue. However, this is the second guy I been on dates with who wants immediate unprotected sex.

This seems unnecessarily risky to me, and frankly, down right foolish. I am I just jaded?

 

[yoyo888]

Hey Dude,

Definately keep your guard up!

As you say maybe later on in the relationship. But not now! If they dont want to take your considerations to heart, well what does that say about the other person regardless how HOT they are?

If you do hook up with this guys and they as OK we will play safe. Just make sure they do. And if you are still not 100% look into PrEP. But if you do go on PrEP, DONT tell the oher person (just yet) or they will thnk you are fair game and go Rubber Free with or without your permission/knowledge.

Just investigate horror stories out there. That hairdresser knowly tampered with condoms or removed them without the other guy knowing. And he passed on HIV.

Just my two cents wirth

YOYO

 

[ILuv2rim]

you are posting a message wanting to know what we think you should do--but seems like you already made up your mind--
i got fucked one time by a guy wearing a condom and it broke me out--come to find out i am allergic to latex-- so i had to take antibiotics and use a lotion and finger myself for the sores this damn condom made inside me--since then i never let a guy near me with a condom--back then the types of condoms available wasnt like they are today--

i been fucked by so many times by a numerous amount of me--wont say how many or at least give idea how many as i never counted-----and here i am many years later and never had any std's at all--
i know i been lucky on that part i guess----

so compromise with him---tell him first few times have to use a condom that way you see if he is like alot of men out there that just wanna fuck and disappear because alot of men are afraid the the 'c' word--hell theres guys out there dont want any contact but to suck fuck and run--


sex is based on one thing from the minute start kissing and making out until the end where both climax and satisfy each others needs---and that is trust--- and i learned that a few times when a guy with a bigger than average cock would slam it inside me after me telling him to go slow---if a guy cant do it on a mutual thing then dont need to be with him--

 

[anarren]

Stand. Your. Ground.

If he's allergic to latex, there are polyurethane condoms that will work (just don't use the 'natural' or lambskin ones - those don't block viruses) and they're also thinner and feel better.

And yeah, I've had plenty of guys who wanna go raw or not at all, and I'm like sorry no. Even being on PreP, there's lots of other things I don't want (chlamydia, hepatitis, herpes, etc.).

YOUR body, YOUR decision.

 

[phxwilly]

I've run into a number of potential sex partners recently who are insisting on bareback fucking. One guy uses Oraquick for testing prior to sex which seems reasonable. I've also thought about getting Prep on demand which seems very effective and doesn't require you to take on a daily basis (only prior to and immediately after getting fucked). I'm also allergic to latex (not as bad reaction as ILuv2Rim) but still uncomfortable so I always have a supply of poly condoms.

As for the guy who posted the original question, I say "Stand Your Ground". If he's not going to compromise on safe sex, he doesn't sound like a great find anyway.

 

[topdog]

YOUR body, YOUR decision.

This is the bottom line. Sex is a negotiation, but whether or not you will be safe never is. It is a given.

 

[wretch]

Coercion should never be guiding point
Go with your instincts
If you're unsure err to caution

 

[dancerinthedark]

Protect yourself. It‘s not worth it. Otherwise let him go.