Read things before responding to them!

[jeansGuyOZ]

I received this private message on a spanking fetish site to which I belong:

was going through profiles on here and i found yours, Am searching for a daddy for a loving and spanking relationship. am cool and down to earth if interested i can be reached on (email address)

I checked his profile. He lives in Florida, and is submissive (i.e. he takes spankings, does not give).

I have a profile on that site, which I took some time and trouble to fill out, but the guy clearly has not read it in full. Had he done so, he would have seen that (a) I am in Australia, therefore a physical relationship is out of the question; (b) While I will "switch" on occasion, I am more interested in being spanked than in spanking someone else, and in particular I am not interested in being someone's "Daddy", a term that irritates me and makes me slightly uncomfortable.

I get the impression that he saw my profile, saw that I am a certain age and reasonably fit, and thought "Aha, there's my daddy", without even bothering to read any further.

This is symptomatic of a general phenomenon I find these days: people don't actually READ a post or a profile before shooting off a response. It's as though they are unable to read past the first sentence. So many times I have hadthe following kind of scenario:

- I send an email asking some questions;
- I get a reply that half answers one of the questions, or is irrelevant;
- I respond "you didn't answer my questions, read my email again."
- They respond "Oh sorry, yes I should have read further."

Gawd.

Now I am not someone who believes in unnecessarily long prose - this post is one of the longest I have made on this site, and my belief is that if you can say something in 50 words, don't string it out to 500. Still when I am doing something like filling out a profile, I will take the trouble to tell the other person the things I think are important, that they need to know, and I think they should show me the same consideration by reading the entire thing before sending off a half-cocked response.

My only consolation is that if this guy can't assimilate more than one line of text before giving up, he is probably not someone I would get along well with in person anyway.

 

[Spartacus_x]

I totally get what you're saying.
I have a profile on a website and I've been getting a lot of cock pics. Since a cock alone will hardly make me interested if I don't know how the rest of its owner looks like, I asked people not to send me such pics if they don't include anything else.
And guess what? It didn't make a difference. I still get those pics, except that I now automatically put those who send them to ignore.
Just like those who send a message saying "Hi, what are you into?", when I've already explained what I am into, which they would have known if they had read my profile.

So, my rule is: if you can't be bothered to spend a couple of minutes to find out about the person you want to communicate with, I can't be bothered to communicate with you.

 

[777]

So, my rule is: if you can't be bothered to spend a couple of minutes to find out about the person you want to communicate with, I can't be bothered to communicate with you.

Good rule!

 

[jeansGuyOZ]

Just like those who send a message saying "Hi, what are you into?", when I've already explained what I am into, which they would have known if they had read my profile.

I get that too.

What am I into? I have a fetish for jeans, surprise surprise. Not that you would ever guess it from my name.

 

[hyacinthos]

Dear jeansGuyOZ,

the first message was, most likely, sent by a bot. Then, the bot owner noticed that someone has actually responded, and continued writing messages manually. It's a common practice - mass message people first then wait for response, whatever it would be.