Recognizing someone u know in an amateur/cam video

[jw4833]

Hey Guys:

I was curious if any of you happen to browse through the Amateur video section and stumble across someone you know or have been acquainted with and better yet...someone whom proclaimed to be straight having sex in a video which causes you to be either startled or very surprised?

Last year, I browsed through this section and was very much surprised for discovering videos by guys that I have seen at the club or even so-called straight guys whom I was acquainted with. There was one in particular that I was very much taken a back seeing them in a video with an older guy who was giving him a blowjob that escalated into other acts (Immapartyboy was the name of the video). I kept viewing the images that were attached and even though they were kind of grimy looking...there were physical features about this guy that helped me come to the conclusion that there was a very strong possibility that this was this guy. However, when I went to download...it had expired. When I contacted the owner to re-upload it...he contacted me a few days later to inform me that he could not upload it again and misplaced the video altogether. Therefore, I was curious to see if any of you had come across a similar situation. Thanks in advance to all of whom have taken the time to respond to my post....I am very appreciative...take care..JW :thumbs up:

 

[gb2000ie]

I stumbled across an aquaintance on DudesNude once - there was no doubt at all it was him - he had really hot vids up showing his face as he shot his load all over himself

I never did have the balls to tell him what I'd seen - not sure how he would have taken it.

B.

 

[brmstn69]

Years ago I had temporary custody of 17 year old boy who's lesbian mother had kicked him out because her man hating girlfriend didn't like him. Almost ten years later I stumbled across an Active Duty dot com. video with him fucking and sucking another dude. As far as I know he only made the one video there.

I also once found a web cam clip of a former co-worker, but he had already left for another job.

 

[Otage]

Hey Guys:

I was curious if any of you happen to browse through the Amateur video section and stumble across someone you know or have been acquainted with and better yet...someone whom proclaimed to be straight having sex in a video which causes you to be either startled or very surprised?

Oh wow how thrilling image! I remember when being younger and it seemed nobody was gay in my little town or my circle of friends. Every one I had crush on were "straight" that time. It would have been (and still would be) so hot to stumble on some of these guys on gay cam:dreaming: Of course I'm not clinging on to these guys, but it would also be kinda funny. And hot hot hot!

 

[Shelter]

Oh wow how thrilling image! I remember when being younger and it seemed nobody was gay in my little town or my circle of friends. Every one I had crush on were "straight" that time. It would have been (and still would be) so hot to stumble on some of these guys on gay cam:dreaming: Of course I'm not clinging on to these guys, but it would also be kinda funny. And hot hot hot!

Lecher!

 

[jw4833]

The reason I was compelled to bring this topic to the discussion board is because this guy was the guy that raped, beat me and left me for dead. I did Google the guy behind the videos and I found out that this guy reside in the same city that this guy had relocated to after the incident. I also remember when two members of his immediate family had found out what had occurred ...they blamed me due to the fact that I was gay which they knew and assumed that I came on to him and took advantage of him which was far from the truth. Therefore, he kept insisting he was straight which I knew was a lie due to all the time he spent with me on an intimate level prior to the incident and for me to see this video, I was really startled. However, from seeing the images...I can tell that he was intoxicated and was not aware of him being filmed. Out of all the videos that I've discovered of people that I knew or acquainted with...this one as many of you could probably understand my position had startled me.

 

[Otage]

The reason I was compelled to bring this topic to the discussion board is because this guy was the guy that raped, beat me and left me for dead. I did Google the guy behind the videos and I found out that this guy reside in the same city that this guy had relocated to after the incident. I also remember when two members of his immediate family had found out what had occurred ...they blamed me due to the fact that I was gay which they knew and assumed that I came on to him and took advantage of him which was far from the truth. Therefore, he kept insisting he was straight which I knew was a lie due to all the time he spent with me on an intimate level prior to the incident and for me to see this video, I was really startled. However, from seeing the images...I can tell that he was intoxicated and was not aware of him being filmed. Out of all the videos that I've discovered of people that I knew or acquainted with...this one as many of you could probably understand my position had startled me.

I'm so sorry to hear what you have gone through. Have you had any kinda justice about the incident? Or have you at least had someone to whom to open up about the incident? The guy seems to be more an animal than a man. The lack of empathy of some people so often amazes me. I hope he feels guilt. And the fact that someone who is in closet, someone who hasn't got the guts to come out, has the guts to do somenthing so hurtfull to someone else... He can break the law and go against consciense, but can't go against some old social norm, isn't brave enough to be himself because of what everybody else thinks. It's his loss, and really, he will regret when his old.

 

[jw4833]

Hi Otage:

Thank you so much for your very thoughtful response to my initial post. To answer your question in regard to justice, I was in a coma for a little over six months and during that time ...he had relocated to another city to start a new beginning which I found out later that this move was encouraged by the family members who knew about my health status but did not want him to know..so they sent him away to protect him. In order to move on and gain better control of myself...I went through therapy for three years. One of my therapist happened to be a minister as well and I had begun to improve with my treatments. He began to speak to me about forgiveness...not for him ..but for me to be able to move forward. In fact, after several months of being able to talk again...I did contact his sister with the intent of meeting with him in order to obtain some answers to some questions that had pondered me over the years and to let him know that I forgive him for my peace of mind ....not his and also for my closure so to speak. Unfortunately, she would not allow that to happen. After I moved away from my old neighborhood and started my life over with my partner...I had ran into an old neighbor who had informed me that this guy did come back to town and was looking for me. Over the years, life has not been kind to him as he had assumed it would be. He even wound up arrested a couple of times as well. Therefore, as it stands now in my life, I am a very strong individual who has conquered all kinds of obstacles/achievements which I and my doctors thought would never come to pass. Honestly, I have really moved on with my life in so many ways that from time to time...over the years, I have been asked to speak to men who have been raped/sexually abused and are afraid or in denial when it comes to speaking out or sharing their experiences/true feelings about their experiences. It seems that a lot of them becomes more comfortable and relatable to see that someone is speaking out about overcoming and this gives them encouragement. Nonetheless, I am a human being and when I come across something or hear a song that was an important factor during the time that he and I had spent together prior to the incident...my mind and thoughts do travel back to that time...but each time it does...I am able to handle it a lot better than before.

 

[Otage]

Hi Otage:

Thank you so much for your very thoughtful response to my initial post. To answer your question in regard to justice, I was in a coma for a little over six months and during that time ...he had relocated to another city to start a new beginning which I found out later that this move was encouraged by the family members who knew about my health status but did not want him to know..so they sent him away to protect him. In order to move on and gain better control of myself...I went through therapy for three years. One of my therapist happened to be a minister as well and I had begun to improve with my treatments. He began to speak to me about forgiveness...not for him ..but for me to be able to move forward. In fact, after several months of being able to talk again...I did contact his sister with the intent of meeting with him in order to obtain some answers to some questions that had pondered me over the years and to let him know that I forgive him for my peace of mind ....not his and also for my closure so to speak. Unfortunately, she would not allow that to happen. After I moved away from my old neighborhood and started my life over with my partner...I had ran into an old neighbor who had informed me that this guy did come back to town and was looking for me. Over the years, life has not been kind to him as he had assumed it would be. He even wound up arrested a couple of times as well. Therefore, as it stands now in my life, I am a very strong individual who has conquered all kinds of obstacles/achievements which I and my doctors thought would never come to pass. Honestly, I have really moved on with my life in so many ways that from time to time...over the years, I have been asked to speak to men who have been raped/sexually abused and are afraid or in denial when it comes to speaking out or sharing their experiences/true feelings about their experiences. It seems that a lot of them becomes more comfortable and relatable to see that someone is speaking out about overcoming and this gives them encouragement. Nonetheless, I am a human being and when I come across something or hear a song that was an important factor during the time that he and I had spent together prior to the incident...my mind and thoughts do travel back to that time...but each time it does...I am able to handle it a lot better than before.

I'm so glad to hear that And forgivenes is quite often the good way to go, like your doctor said, it allows YOU to move on. Hate lingers forever and will burn you, not him. And you were in coma? And overcame it all with such wise approach... If I try to imiagine myself in your position, I would have brobably shielded myself with hate and maybe revenge, even though it could be fatal on my behalf. But I think the forgivenes and moving on is truly the right way to go, like you said. I rarely use this word, cause I think in reality tv everything always is this and the word has been over-used, but this I truly think is inspirational. Best true life example I've had of the fact, that forgivenes can be better than lingering hate and that with strong will we can overcome horrible events, that may fall upon each of us. Thank you for that.:big hug:

 

[jw4833]

I'm so glad to hear that And forgivenes is quite often the good way to go, like your doctor said, it allows YOU to move on. Hate lingers forever and will burn you, not him. And you were in coma? And overcame it all with such wise approach... If I try to imiagine myself in your position, I would have brobably shielded myself with hate and maybe revenge, even though it could be fatal on my behalf. But I think the forgivenes and moving on is truly the right way to go, like you said. I rarely use this word, cause I think in reality tv everything always is this and the word has been over-used, but this I truly think is inspirational. Best true life example I've had of the fact, that forgivenes can be better than lingering hate and that with strong will we can overcome horrible events, that may fall upon each of us. Thank you for that.:big hug:

Hi Otage:

You're welcome...however...I must tell you that I did go through a period of being very bitter and filled with so much hate for him that it had taken control over me in such a bad way because initially when I started therapy, there were a couple of therapists that I was assigned to that did not have any interest in helping me after finding out that I was a gay man believe it or not. The first therapist came to the conclusion that I made everything up and assumed I had a severe mental problem. Furthermore, he would fall asleep on me in future sessions until I told him off and decided not to see him anymore. Later on, I found out that he was a bisexual man and wanted to ask me out. Needless to say...he was fired...The second therapist had assumed that because I was gay and had a relationship with this guy prior to the incident that I initiated the attack and more than likely came on to him sexually which was far from the truth. He also confessed to me that he was very homophobic and did not have a desire to help me overcome my situation and considered me to be a loss cause. This caused me to go into a withdrawal period of public shame as well as becoming a manic depressive individual to say the least. I was constantly pursued by the center to give them one more chance with a new guy. After finally giving in ...fortunately...the third guy was the charm and worked very hard to help me with so much that I dealing with at the time. He and my late partner were the two individuals who have helped mold me into the guy that I am today. In fact, even though the therapist had relocated...he still keeps in contact with me on a regular basis. In conclusion...I am able to forgive now instantly...nonetheless...I don't forget...thanks again...:thumbs up: