Sex or love?

[Rebel7]

when you find out the person you have a BIG crush on is after someone else...:'(

 

[AleXXX UK]

true love is very hard to come by. Most of us will be lucky if come across one or two people in our lives we truly connect to. Sex is much more readily available and it's best when we don't pretend it's anything more.

 

[grant12]

Love definitely for me because it may be hard to come by but everything, not just sex, is so much better when you have a life to share.

 

[roamer]

Both if possible

 

[tyan]

absolutely love.
if u love each other, u can share everything even sex.

but only sex? well just find one stand man out there for a rest of your life, then u get lonely when u getting older

 

[Cerno]

LOVE! Coz it's almost impossible to find....
Sex? You can get it everywhere and anytime!

 

[Cerno]

Love impossible to find... perhaps if you'd make yourself more loveable, more open to others difference, you'd find love as easy as finding sex. Love is difficult to find when you make it hard to be loved.

Now who's judging you? Who's generalizing?
You do NOT know anything about me

Look, be grateful you live in America. And you happen to live in a gay place too, from what I can gather from your comments.

I happen to live in a backward country where gay is still sinful and illness. Everyday I have to bear reading homophobic comments in local forums and websites. Local gays too prefer vaginas when they're old enough to marry. true, there's FEW gays here who want to be gay but they're PICKY. They want handsome bf, muscled, big dicked, rich, succesful, bla bla bla.

Me? I'm very open. Too open I sometimes think I sell myself cheap. I would even welcome ugly old gay man! coz I'm desperate to feel love! But alas! Gays here marry women. What should I do?

Sure, I turn to the internet. But ALL gay men I knew prefer local love. They keep telling me they need someone close to hold (and to fuck). I'm not picky either! I chat with old daddies even when they turn me off. The ones who said they loved me turn out to be spammers and players.

So excuse me.... I've done my VERY best to find love! If you want to help me, then please stop judging me. Call me paranoid but I feel that you don't like me... I have NOT seen you agree to my opinion, not even once.

And whenever u show up, someone ALWAYS give thanks to your judgment over me. So far, as far as I know, noone has ever given me thanks to my response to you. It's liek they all fear you.... I can see why now.


EDIT: Thanks Sinnerr for the thanks

 

[DoubleU]

I vote for love. I'm one where I need to know a person very well before I have sex. I have had one night stands but to me it feels totally empty and not satisfying. That's just how it feels for me.

 

[alexfot55]

Both is best.In case of emergency , sex hoping to evolve in love.

 

[efimera]

both

 

[bluefish22]

What's with all the "both" answers? I take it as a given that we'd want both. The whole point of this thread and exercise is to make the difficult decision of actually picking one over the other.

I choose love.

 

[subbrew]

Sex only last a few minutes, love stay around(hopefully)

 

[joshp23]

love all the way

 

[expressboy]

Exactly. Here are some good reasons why sex may trump love in some instances.

1. You're confused about your sexuality and need to experiment
2. You're young, single and free, why commit yourself at at early age?
3. You may not be in a relationship at a later age and therefore not committed
4. Love isn't easy to come by. Do you stay celibate until Mr Right pops along?
5. You've ended a relationship and need a some time, space to recuperate, find yourself, you're single free.
6. People have physical needs. Great Sex feels great.
7. Sometimes you gotta screw a few frogs until you find your prince.

For me it's I've found myself switching from one to a other at various stages in life.

People have physical needs? Yes, they have, but that doesn't mean you have to have sex every time you are horny. Usually guys do that.


Anyway, love is the most important thing. I think there is no more true love, everything is about sex and some other things. People marry people because of status, fame and money. Everybody cheat in relationships and marriages. I don't understand why do people end up in relationship or marriage if they are not able to be faithful.

 

[trencherman]

Always on the look out for love but will settle for just sex.

 

[bobman6969]

Both