sex with a maaried man--would you have you or would you never...

[lhardwick69]

new guy at work began working over three months ago and i am openly gay but the thing is he confided in me how he and his wife is always fighting because he wants sex and she doesnt-he is 23 been married for 5 years and says his wife might let him fuck her once maybe twice a week but he wanted it more i jokingly told him that if i was his wife he could fuck me all he wanted--he was like really--anyhow since that night after i proved to him that he could fuck me all he wants he is like a walking horndog--in the last three weeks he has fucked me over 50 times and wants more.which is nice and all he is an excellant fuck not to mention i have kind of did other things he said he never thought he would do like let someone finger and rim his ass but after i rimmed him and had my finger deep inside him as i sucked him off resulting in him exploding in my mouth its like this sex is something that has turned on something inside him like it is fulfilling the sexual needs he has been having-i dont plan on stopping anytime soon but i wonder what you guys think about sex with married men and if ever done it

 

[brmstn69]

I would, have, and will do so again...

 

[darkjimster]

Just don't fall in love with him. Because the My wife and i fight all the time line is one of the oldest lines in the cheating manual.

 

[taurus2904]

I have in the past, when I was young and stupid. I've been the one being cheated with; I've been the one cheated on. So, I'm certainly no saint nor can I lay claim to any moral high ground. I have walked those roads before, and can give you an idea of the scenery.

Sure, the sex can be good and relatively easy, but like darkjimster said, the guy's using one of the oldest lines in the book. Whatever his problems at home and in that relationship, he's made a commitment/promise to another person. He and that person need to work out their problems -- either to resolve them and stay together or to go their separate ways. If he cheated with you, he would cheat on you.

As much as people say they don't get emotionally invested in these things, they do. When the wife finds out, and she will, whatever problems they had will be gone...and so will he. When she finds out, others will. Since this occurred in your mutual workplace, you both could be fired -- unless one of you owns the place, then the other is out on the curb. Your coworkers, friends and family will probably learn about it and your reputations (not to mention those relationships) could suffer.

Obviously, this is not for me. (Anymore, at least.) I'll play the part of the 'good angel' on your right shoulder.

 

[jw4833]

If you want me to be honest..I am basically the kind of dude who feels to each its own, but just be able to accept the drama and conflict that will come with this issue sooner or later. Nothing like this last forever without someone getting hurt. You can't let a guy fuck you over 50 times and to the extent of letting you explore different territories with him that more than likely his wife hasn't and yet, not to expect the feelings to get involved. I've had married guys hit on me at the club..however, the majority of them did not inform me that they were married and the few that did, I didn't feel good about being a second wheel or the down low lover.

Not too long ago, I met a guy online who was moving really fast and horny to say the least. In fact, he begged me to take him home or go to a hotel with him just as long as we fuck. Also, this guy worked in the building that I did and I would see him at the gym a lot. What took a turn with this, is that his wife discovered his online messages and contacted me. She literally cursed me out and just lashed out at me with all kinds of gay bashing language. I did explained to her my side of the story which prompted her to apologize to me. However, for me, it wasn't a good feeling. Like I stated at the beginning of this response, if you're cool with it, then by all means..you're a grown man. But just know that consequences will prevail and more than likely, you will be the one kicked to the curb. I just feel if I can't be the main course, then forget it..Good luck..

 

[kevmufc83]

I did but I did not now at the time. I met him in a chat online he told me he was single. So we met up a couple of times after the 3rd time he told me he was married and had kids. it went down hill from there

 

[lhardwick69]

the first blowjob happened at work from there on the biggest part of the sex has been at my place and in my truck after work off work grounds as no piece of ass is worth loosing my job

 

[jeansGuyOZ]

I'm sure that many of the men I have had sex with at the club are married, but it's only supposition on my part. I certainly would not feel comfortable with a guy I had sex with wanting to talk about his wife and his marriage. In particular I hate the way some married bi guys use gay men as a facility, something to put his dick into when a woman is not available or when for one reason or another the woman isn't satisfying him sexually.

If it was just a one-time casual sex, I suppose I could live with that - but I certainly have no wish to become - for want of a better term - romantically involved with someone who is already attached. If it came down to some kind of showdown and they had to choose beteween you and the wife, you know what the choice would be. So they are having problems in their married life... fine, they can sort themselves out first, make up their minds whether this marriage is right for them, in fact whether any marriage (to a woman) is right for them... then if not, make the break, then give me a call.

 

[gb2000ie]

As long as you know he's only interested in your for sex, and as long as that's OK with you, then I don't see the harm. Personally - I can't separate sex and love, so I couldn't do it - but that's just me.

B.

 

[iSlut]

When I was in college, most of the blokes I slept with were "straight" married older men in their thirties. It's a fact of life that many married men, after they've been in a marriage for a while, step out with women, men, or both. If they don't sleep with you, they'll get someone else. So I never let myself get caught up in a moral pretzel about it.

 

[loveless92]

No cheating here.

 

[smallsleepyrascalcat]

hehehe

I must honestly say that the idea of seducing an officially straight and married man would be something very, very nice.

 

[JonnyFantastico]

I have... well, sort of. He wasn't married, but he was in a very committed relationship with a woman and had a young son. In my defense, I didn't know the relationship was ongoing (we had been messing around for years and while I knew of the girlfriend, it was told to me that they had broken up). I have no problem with a man having kids, but for some reason; it made me feel like I was tearing up a family.

I guess I can understand the draw of seducing someone who is married, but it can bring about quite the guilty feeling. I think if I did end up in bed with one, I'd want total honesty... don't give me any BS about "oh, we're going through a rough patch and I'm thinking of leaving her". I'm not saying I'm gonna go out and do it, but if it did happen; I'd at least want the truth told at some point.

As for the guy I mentioned, his family did find out... it wasn't pretty. And even worse, he still comes after me from time to time to get some (I haven't done anything with him in a long time, in case anyone was wondering... too much drama and he got kind of boring after a while, anyway).

 

[Casanova]

No fucking way! Never have and never will! my father cheated on my mother when i was younger, and I swear I almost killed him that day! Any guy who was married or involved that wanted to even flirt with me wouldve gotten the full brunt of my anger, as I would never, ever, ever do that to their wife/girlfriend/husband/boyfriend, especially if that wife/husband is devoted and honest to them

 

[jer468]

You've had sex an average of 17 times a week? And nobody is suspicious?

I am.

 

[topdog]

Well, lhardwick69, you seem to be getting exactly what you want out of the relationship and so is he. For you, I don't see any problem.

Your friend, on the other hand, has some hard conversations coming with the wife.

Personally, I wouldn't beat him up about the marriage thing. Who the hell knows themselves well enough at 18 to bind them into one specific role for the rest of their lives? That is something that would only seem reasonable to a starry-eyed teenager. Your friend has learned a lot about himself sexually with you. That is the only way we learn these things is to try something new and see where it takes us.

The issue for him is, now that he knows more about his sexuality - how does he bring that into his life? That will probably be tough. An older, more experienced person would realize that the relationship with the partner has to change. In fact, it has already changed. Out of respect for himself and his wife, he should sit down and talk about what this means. What does he want out of the marriage? Can they redefine their relationship in a way that works for both of them? If not, then they need to end it and move on.

But 23 is still really young and he probably won't be mature enough to do any of that. Which means you're going to have the typical path of sneaking around until the wife finds out, at which point everything blows up and all parties are left emotionally scarred.

But, as I said at the beginning, that is not your problem. It's his problem - unless you don't want to go on this particular ride, knowing how it is all going to turn out.

 

[BHcolin]

I have had sex with married men before. When I was in my 20's and would cruise the downtown area after getting off work, or going out I hooked up with many guys - quite a few married (at least they had rings on their fingers). Also, I hooked up quite a bit online too and know a few of those guys were married too. Boy I was a slut. Sometimes I felt bad, other times I didn't give it a thought at all. Now being in my 30's I don't think I'd do it - I'd feel bad. I don't have a boyfriend now but date here and there and don't feel the need for all the random hook ups I used to have. Though I have slipped up here and there with the occasional random just no where near my younger days -- I try to keep it strictly gay guys

 

[BHcolin]

and I guess why I'd feel bad now vs. back in my 20's my sister is married now and has kids and I would just hate to see my bro-in-law sleeping around behind her back.

 

[Askani]

I ended up having "affairs" with married men a few times when I was younger (15y.o.+) but always found out when it was too late already xD but the last one... Still kills me, he and my friend just had a baby together in november and I ended up sleeping with him on my bday, we did make out b4 but I wasnt friends with the girl yet...

 

[sexon4]

my opinion is that married are a big turn on...
its like being fucked by straight somehow..
and like that already been said by others,
if i wont enjoy this married dick, he will go and find someone else, so im not feeling guilty