sex with a maaried man--would you have you or would you never...

[wynedger]

I have 3 married guys I do fairly regularly. Just blow jobs. I'm in a committed relationship, and have great sex with my partner. (we've been together for over 20 years!)
He knows I have a this thing about sucking off 'straight' men. He doesn't have a problem with it because he knows they'll never become anything more. And I don't have a problem with it because I love sucking cock, and I wouldn't be doing them if they were getting it at home.

 

[Behrluvr]

I went through a period of being addicted to a gay sex chat line. I hooked up with more guys on phone chat than I ever did in a bar.

A good percentage were married guys. Many times I hooked up with them more than once. I could always tell they were married 'cause they would be on the line at odd times, like 5AM. They used the excuse of going to the gym before work. Or Saturday morning - trip to the hardware store excuse. I even gave one of them my key so he could just come over and wake me up for a quickie.

These guys were fun, serious, focused, it was good sex, most were extremely hot (although 1 dog slipped in). They wanted to get blowed or to fuck me. Never kissed and rarely got fucked themselves. Each had their own little kinky perversion which I found cool. One guy liked looking at stroke books while getting blown, another liked rough, gruff, locker room talk.

Heh, we each got what we wanted. I wonder if any of them stayed married?

 

[HustleMe15]

Sex With Married Men.....Yep

I've had sex with plenty of married men. Hopefully though I'm not the cause of any breakups. But since I wasn't the one doing the cheating, I wasn't going to say anything. Nick and I have always been VERY open in our relationship. We may have sex with others, but we are not cheating. Cheating is when you have a relationship outside of your current boyfriend/girlfriend and you keep it a secret. Nick and I tell each other everything. Who we met, where we went, what we did, and what we thought of it all. And when we were hustling, how much we made.

It was always interesting to get to some guys house and walk through seeing all the pictures of the wife and kids, sometimes the grandkids, knowing that we were on the way to the bedroom to get it on. We nearly got caught quite a few times, and thankfully most houses have back doors. It's quite a thing to hear the wife or kids drive up, get tossed your clothes and shoes while your still buck ass naked, and have to get dressed in the dark, outside, and then sneak off the property with nobody looking.

Fun times!

 

[Otage]

I have always refused sex with person who I know is with someone, doesn't matter are they gay, straight, dating or married. I don't ever wanna be involved in cheating someone, even though I'm not the 'one' doing the actual cheating. I'm just happy I have always been able to stick to my principal, even though sometimes it has been hard... I don't wanna stick my pole in to a pile of shit

 

[Shelter]

I have always refused sex with person who I know is with someone, doesn't matter are they gay, straight, dating or married. I don't ever wanna be involved in cheating someone, even though I'm not the 'one' doing the actual cheating. I'm just happy I have always been able to stick to my principal, even though sometimes it has been hard... I don't wanna stick my pole in to a pile of shit

:agree::agree::agree::agree::agree::agree::agree:

 

[Lucas88]

Why gay guys marry straight women is beyond me. He needs to grow some balls and come out of the closet.

 

[cban]

I used to meet with a hot delivery driver regularly who was in to everything ... and I mean everything. One day I noticed a present in his van and he said his wife had asked him to pick it up for their daughter. That was a curve ball.

 

[Wohltorf]

He did tell me once, coming up for air, that the most exciting sex he had ever had was with his wife. It was a little hard to know where to go with that. Cured me of that fascination no matter how erotic the moves were.

 

[platinumblk2]

For me, its a complete and utter waste of time dating a married man. If its just sex and a one off, most ppl don't really seem to care if your gay, bi or straight or married. But to date, that to me is a complete waste of time. The only person that will get hurt is you!

I just don't get why so many gay guys want to settle for that kinda shit....your always second best to his wife, kids and family commitments and just stand by a few snatch moments when he has time!...WTF is that?....I would rather be on my own

 

[netdick]

for the last 5 years I've been seeing a very fit married man in his forties once every month or so. Initially it was innocent, then I masturbated him, progressing to sucking him off, and eventually he was interested in making me too.

We then moved on to me slipping a finger in his ass just before he came, then earlier, then two fingers. He would always the hardest with his ring strecthed wide.

Then I shocked him by rimming him and slowly working in three finger to his bum with lots of dirty talk about how my cock would feel even better.

The last time I saw him - he almost backed into the room like a randy cat and demanded to get fucked! Who am I to resist temptation? It was a deeply intense fuck that didn't need to last long. He was on his back with my cock buried deep in his ass and he came into his chin and hair with a force I'd not seen before. It's not that he's married that turns me on - just that we've been on a journey of discovery about his body and he's given me all his mansex virginity.

I can't wait to see him again, but I'm not in love - it is purely a physical thing.

 

[stephenhaines]

re: sex with a married man--would you have you or would you never...

Whether it's a straight relationship or a gay one, domesticity has always been the natural enemy of passion and excitement.

Your married man with his wife of five years, probably did it far more often at first until daily life settled on paying bills, deciding what to have for dinner, fighting over money, maybe dealing with kids (you don't mention), appliances that bust for no reason, and maybe leaky drains. He could have had a boyfriend for just as long and now be just as itchy for an untroubled fresh alliance. You are naturally going to be more exciting for him because the two of you don't share those same at-home headaches.

Not even bisexuals who have pledged a commitment are entitled to a lifetime of one from column A and one from column B. The other poster(s) ahead of me who warn you not to fall in love know what they're talking about.

Even if your man left his wife and family for you, it would not likely be smooth sailing.

My late best buddy, at two different times in his life, set up housekeeping with lovers that had just exited hetero marriages with children. In each case, it was obvious that the newly free man sought to replicate the security of 'home' he'd just given up, but soon equally clear that he had not yet really sown his gay 'wild oates,' which ultimately put my buddy's heart behind an 8 ball.

I won't try to talk you out of having your fun, but be careful with your heart.

 

[lhardwick69]

sure the my wife and I are fighting is oldest line in book but I witnessed them fighting--she bitched him out one day I was at his house because he left the toilet seat up-throwing shit like he had killed someone or tried killing her--he was like sorry honey sorry---I was like--all you had to do is reach out put the seat down its not heavy

so I had witness few fights between them and a lot of it was stupid shit

 

[stephenhaines]

sex with a married man--would you have you or would you never...

sure the my wife and I are fighting is oldest line in book but I witnessed them fighting--she bitched him out one day I was at his house because he left the toilet seat up-throwing shit like he had killed someone or tried killing her--he was like sorry honey sorry---I was like--all you had to do is reach out put the seat down its not heavy

so I had witness few fights between them and a lot of it was stupid shit

That's very different. You didn't mention in your originating post that you actually knew the wife, let alone had been to their home.

My experience with straight guys on the downlow to whatever degree, was a tendency to choose prospects who have no acquaintance with any relatives of theirs, and keep that part of their life compartmentalized away. Especially if they have children. There are always some exceptions however who aren't shy living dangerously. More the likely with someone only 23, as you say he is.

Since you've already been incorporated into his home life, it might be all the more suspicious if you disappeared from among those friends he brings home. And how certain are you that you're the first or only buddy-with-benefits he's had? You don't specifically say, but if you are as "openly gay" to the wife's knowledge as you have been to the husband's luck, I think I'm dry of points and suggestions beyond Be Careful.

 

[warrenxx]

He seems confused to me. However, if you are both having fun and know the score, then what is the harm? It is his wife that I feel sorry for. Is he bi or closet gay? Either way, I doubt he is going to give her up for you. As long as it is pure lust, on both your parts, and no love or long term expectations then that is fine. I think on your part it could spill over into love and that is when the heartache will set in. Something so joyous can quickly turn into soul destroying pain. It is not a good idea to become involved in his family life and you should divorce yourself from that. It isn't fair on his wife to begin with. If he is clost gay, I doubt you are his first extra marital affair or his last. If he is bi, then definately not. There has probably been other women too. I get the impression he wants his cake and eat it too.

 

[skoosh]

i dick is a dick.... is and a dick in the ass is scrumtious