Sexual dysfunction

[sweetuttsada]

just after 3 weeks of antidepressant im having sexual dysfunction
i wank about 2 hours to
and i dont have orgasm anymore

 

[Jamie]

oh, sorry to hear about that sweet! The question is: why are you depressed? And second: are you getting enough excitement before wanking? cause sometimes it happens to me too... when I just want to wank without any "material" like videos or whatever , it just doesn`t work! it doesn`t last 2 hours though...just about 25-30 min and the orgasm is no orgasm at all..it`s just ejaculation and arm pains
Maybe you just need more excitement before you wank...
If the problem persists, please consult your doctor...

 

[sweetuttsada]

i tried to kill myself few weeks ago.....LOL
im depressed~~

 

[XMan101]

I think a lot of medication can have side effects like this.

You could go to see your doctor, see if might be able to put you on different pills. they do understand about this sort of thing.

If possible see if you can actually wheen yourself off them as soon as you can.

 

[Jamie]

Are you out of your mind sweet? What do you mean kill yourself? No matter what happens in this life, suicide is not an option!Trust me, i`ve been through a lot til now and never thought of suicide ever. You can cry instead ...or break something...or hit something until you get strenghtless... but no suicidal thoughts!

 

[XMan101]

I think he's alright now Jamie, he had lots of hugs from us He knows we'd be very upset if he tries it again !!

 

[roane1980]

I understand what your going through, I have been on 8 types of anti-depressents and they all make it hard for you to . I usually take about an hour to , and sometimes I just give up after awhile. ( arm gets to sore..lol) It really does help if you get yourself worked up redal good before sex or masterbation. If you have any questions I can help you with email. I have been down the same road.

 

[Thor]

I stopped taking mine for same reason sweets, i just couldent get hard and

im not sure what to tell you, my doc said to give it time..I was just to fuckin horny

playing with my little dicky makes me happy...so thats what i do...lol

 

[garth33]

Had a lot of friends take anti-d's and report the same things 'Sweets...it SUCKS! You have to weigh if it makes you feel better and don't mnd a limp dick or you want a hard-on and can find other ways to deal with feeling bad...a shitty choice but for now, it's one or the other...

I don't know why they can't combine a decent anti-d with viagra to make you feel happy all the time with a 4 hour hard-on...now THAT would be an advance in medical science!

peace buddy,
g33

 

[brmstn69]

I get the impression that getting it up isn't the problem, it's actually getting off that's the issue. I know from experience that some med's have strange sexual side effects, when I was on anti-depressants my dick would get hard if a slight breeze blew between my legs and I'd jack it till my dick was sore and raw with no relief. Finally I got to the point that I just ignored it for two or three days at a time and that led to favorable results.

And I would not recommend stopping your med's, instead talk to your doctor about changing your 'script if it becomes too much of an issue for you. Hell if need be tell him that not being able to get a load out has made you even more depressed than before...

 

[intensepump]

I have experienced the same thing...the no orgasm part....due to anti-depression drugs...some really suck and mess you up with their side effects...

Tell your doctor about the problem and ask for a different drug. For most people, it takes a long time to find the right drug and dosage. Don't take no for an answer!

BTW, viagra will not solve this problem

Ask your doc about Wellbutrin (bupropion) extended release, it seems to have the lowest side effects for most people.

 

[sweetuttsada]

My doctor says,
all his drugs will cause sexual dysfunction
and he also brushed my complain away
bcoz im not married yet
LOL

BTW he tried to change my sexuality~
what should i do?
should i follow him?

 

[intensepump]

My doctor says,
all his drugs will cause sexual dysfunction
and he also brushed my complain away
bcoz im not married yet
LOL

BTW he tried to change my sexuality~
what should i do?
should i follow him?

Seriously get a new doc.
Do you have a therapist, or just a medical doc?

 

[sweetuttsada]

a therapist,
He's The best in my country

 

[brmstn69]

a therapist,
He's The best in my country

Obviously he is not the best because he lets his religious beliefs cloud his professional judgment. If he were a good doctor he would set aside his personal feelings on this issue and do whats best for his patient. Given this I'd be very reluctant to discuss any thing personal with him, he might go running his mouth to the clerics.

I suggest you find a new doctor immediately, and I also suggest finding one that's a foreigner and not Muslim. A doctor of European, American, or Asian decent should be more open to gay issues, not that all doctors of Muslim decent aren't, they are just harder to find.

And finally, if it's anything like it is over here, sometimes it's very difficult to get in to see a new doctor, their schedules are tight, So if you tell them right away that your gay and afraid to talk to other doctors they might be more willing to accept a new patient.

 

[sweetuttsada]

I dunt really know what to do...He seems nice
He did ask me whether i want to change or not...
And i did tell him that i always wanted to change myself...but i just dont know how...
Im really attracted to men, the only way to remove that feeling is to erase my memory

But according to him my sexuality is not the problem causing me depression
Its my obsessive thought of finding a true lover, a soulmate.
Bcoz of that i always felt lonely and sad
and I give too much love to a person who would never be my partner...str8 ppl
when im rejected, it hurts me so badly

I think he's right
I just dont know whether i want to change or not...
its a huge decision to make

 

[Thor]

sweets, are you talking changing your sex?

 

[XMan101]

I doubt it It's his sexuality he was talking about, and that's impossible to change !

 

[Thor]

how the heck do you change your sexuality? isn't that impossible?

I mean, even if i wanted to be with a girl, and i have, it wasn't what i am, i could never change my feelings for guys

 

[intensepump]

I dunt really know what to do...He seems nice
He did ask me whether i want to change or not...
And i did tell him that i always wanted to change myself...but i just dont know how...
Im really attracted to men, the only way to remove that feeling is to erase my memory

But according to him my sexuality is not the problem causing me depression
Its my obsessive thought of finding a true lover, a soulmate.
Bcoz of that i always felt lonely and sad
and I give too much love to a person who would never be my partner...str8 ppl
when im rejected, it hurts me so badly

I think he's right
I just dont know whether i want to change or not...
its a huge decision to make

hmm...maybe we are soulmates...

It just sound like you have a special passion to love others...nothing wrong with that...except you do have to learn how to support yourself....not give up everything...keep a little bit of love for yourself:hug::hug:

I don't believe in the whole change thing...been there done that and it doesn't work. I'm bi...and i can't ignore either side of my desires, or I'm very unhappy.

But I do understand it is hard to be lonely when you want to be so close and connected to someone, it does cause depression...I and many others on the forum know first hand.:hug::hug:

You need to find someone who is also a giver, a true selfless lover (do they exist?) Stay away from takers...or you will find deeper and darker depression than what you have already known.

"when im rejected, it hurts me so badly"
Just remember...the lack of a connection or rejection...isn't a negative outcome...it is a positive outcome, you weren't meant to be with that person...don't take it personal. Also, remember, there is a segment of the population, a large segment, that are just assholes, its not a negative thing to be rejected by them...it's a blessing.

a therapist,
He's The best in my country
Sorry to break this to you, but from what you have said...this guy SUCKS. Find a new doc, brmstn69 had some good suggestions. I don't know about there, but here you can work with you medical doctor on getting your meds right and work with your therapist for issues. I know it's hard in Muslim countries to find resources that aren't anti-gay, don't be afraid, but be careful.

The link below is a page to gay resources in Malaysia, including ways to contact local gay friendly health resources who can maybe help you directly or refer you to someone else who can. Wow...also lots of info on pickup places, etc.

Anonym zu www.utopia-asia.com/malapena.htm

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