The great mysteries of sex/dating websites

[Spartacus_x]

It's really nice how most of these websites or at least the ones I ran across cater to the following types:

1) Yeah, this REALLY is my picture, it just LOOKS like it's Pavel Novotny - no comment.

2) I'm 100% straight-acting and look for the same - totally redundant, 98% say the same thing. Besides, will someone finally define "straight-acting"?

3) I have no picture or only a picture of my left toe, but I insist you show me all of your pictures at once - suuuure.

4) new message: "hi, wanna fuck?" - yeah, I'm on my way to you as we speak!

5) I'm so insanely hot that none of you are even remotely in my league and don't even dare contact me if you're not at least 8 times hotter than me - OK, have fun masturbating to you own image in a mirror

/end rant

There are some really great guys out there too, fortunately.

 

[yussamahal]

I've tried to use dating sites or chat sites, but I've fail miserably every time I do so.

I enter gay chatrooms cause I want to do that, chat with someone, not to just have a cyber hookup . I don't have any gay friends and I am not really experience in anything related with the gay life, and that's the reason I try to look for people who actually want to share some experiences and hear me out. But instead, every time I try to start a conversation, the other person gets bored and leaves which is really sad...

 

[jeansGuyOZ]

I have used a few chat sites, and have had a (very small) number of actual hookups through them. I am not interested in meeting however unless I have had a bit of discussion first with the other - two or more chat sessions on different nights, perhaps a few messages. A bit of info on the profile is nice. I am so over guys whose profile says "I'm not very good at this sort of thing". (i.e. writing about myself) or "Ask me what you want to know". Uh-uh. Nothing doing. Put it on your profile, that's what the profile is for, and by the way thank you very much for wasting my time and making me use up one of my limited number of profile viewings. You think I am going to go to all 10,000 members of this site and ask each of them to tell me all this stuff about themselves that they can't be arsed to put on their profile?

My favourite though is the guy who enters the chat room, lurks for 20 minutes while others try to get conversation going, then says "this chat is boring, goodbye" and leaves.

 

[diklik]

My favourite though is the guy who enters the chat room, lurks for 20 minutes while others try to get conversation going, then says "this chat is boring, goodbye" and leaves.

Been there, experienced that, tend not to go to chat rooms because of the childish behavior often found there. If someone wants to hookup, then go to a specific room for that purpose. I have personally never used a dating service. Not that I am so hot or sexy (OMFG that's not me at all ); but rather that I have never needed one in order to link up with interested playmates. Somehow they seem to find me and communicate via email or the phone. Yeah, my basic profile, info, likes and dislikes are listed on a small local site, and have been for a bunch of years.

 

[Spartacus_x]

I am so over guys whose profile says "I'm not very good at this sort of thing". (i.e. writing about myself) or "Ask me what you want to know".

This. Yes, I'm going to waste my time trying to get some information and possibly not be interested, while you can't even take a couple of minutes to write down some very basic info.
Also those completely obsessed with age. Yeah, I know people have preferences, I have them too, but all this nitpicking is really amusing. Apparently if you're 25, tough luck! Everyone either wants those under 25 or over 26. Come again in a year or two! Apparently some kind of magic happens once your hit your birthday.
Oh, and I really like how there seems to be a disproportionate number of guys who are 29 or 39.

 

[jeansGuyOZ]

Oh, and I really like how there seems to be a disproportionate number of guys who are 29 or 39.

I am more bothered by the number who are "just 18" or "barely 18". I sometimes wonder whether it's some kind of code saying "I'm actually underage, nudge nudge, wink wink."

Of course 16 is the age of consent in Australia and most other countries (even lower in some European countries), but for some reason the U.S. seems to call the shots in the matter of what is allowed on the Internet.

 

[diklik]

Of course 16 is the age of consent in Australia and most other countries (even lower in some European countries), but for some reason the U.S. seems to call the shots in the matter of what is allowed on the Internet.

That's mainly due to the majority of traffic from those sites either originating in the USA (site is hosted on a server there), or passing thru the USA on it's cyber route to elsewhere. The law allows them to police any traffic appearing anywhere on publicly accessed circuits within the USA. If you owned a private fiber-optic line that no one else could access (and did not lease it to the general public), you might get away with doing whatever you wished. Major corps do that to enable the free flow of data without interference, between HQ and outlying corporate offices. Heavy duty encryption is another means of preventing the average law enforcement joe from spying and wanking to your traffic. Of course, that can't work here, since the level of server access and bandwidth would be excessive and cost-prohibitive. This has been thrashed around by several privacy groups, with no clear way out of big brother in the States controlling it.

 

[MartyMcGee]

it is a waste of time - everybody is a phoney

 

[loveless92]

I haven't had much luck with dating sites. Granted I'm very picky about my boys. My first boyfriend came from that a site, we had a 98% match and we barely talked to each other and broke up a week after. I think the match ratings shouldn't be listened to. I'm not into politics and I don't care if you are or not, I'm not religious and I don't care if you are or not, etc etc.

 

[jeansGuyOZ]

I haven't had much luck with dating sites. Granted I'm very picky about my boys. My first boyfriend came from that a site, we had a 98% match and we barely talked to each other and broke up a week after. I think the match ratings shouldn't be listened to. I'm not into politics and I don't care if you are or not, I'm not religious and I don't care if you are or not, etc etc.

that sounds like you are talking about a different kind of site from what I meant. I was actually thinking of sites like Gaydar and Recon where you do your own investigation and your own contacting, not sites where they give you some kind of score and match you with someone.

I am sceptical of any automated or semi-automated matching system, simply because people are far too complex to encapsulate the information in a set of ticked or unticked boxes.

As an example, I have fairly strong political beliefs, and I tend not to get along well with people at the other end of the political spectrum. I would not normally mention politics on my profile, because I don't think guys particularly want to read about that and I consider it a form of trolling. However, if I chat to someone several times in a chat room or exchange a few emails, we usually get some idea of how the other's mind works, even if we don't explicitly discuss political persuasions.

 

[btcollect]

I am more bothered by the number who are "just 18" or "barely 18". I sometimes wonder whether it's some kind of code saying "I'm actually underage, nudge nudge, wink wink."

barely 18 = at least 28
:rofl:

 

[Spartacus_x]

it is a waste of time - everybody is a phoney

Well, not everyone, but a great deal are, unfortunately.

My "favourite" situation is when you start chatting with someone and it seems to be going really well, and then the other person goes offline out of blue and doesn't get back afterwards. That's nice.

 

[loveless92]

I am sceptical of any automated or semi-automated matching system, simply because people are far too complex to encapsulate the information in a set of ticked or unticked boxes.

Yes this. I may as well be using that old Love Calculator site that was all the rage when I was in middle school. But it's better to talk and get to know the person then going, "low match? no thanks!" In fact I'm corresponding with a guy who I supposedly have a low LOW match rating with, but so far we are getting along extremely well.