Today was a very sad day

[Tjerk12]

Today was a very sad day. My son telephoned me at my work that he missed his exam at school. He has to travel by train. First the train was delayed by half an hour, than the train stopped suddenly because somebody killed himself by jumping before the train. They had to leave the train, so he saw the body parts. A horrible experience. But the most tragic part is that he heard early this evening that it was a friend who was the jumper. Sometimes life is hard and not fair. As I said, today was a very sad day.

 

[c750dt]

My condolences; that's sad to hear. Is there something he can do about the exam? Be glad it's not him that went under the train; seeing a person drop is a good reason for one to appreciate his/her life more.

 

[richym]

Wow I am so sorry to hear that, is a tough day for you but such a difficult day for your son. Let me encourage him to talk to a councellor or someone. Seeing the body parts would be traumatic enough, but then to find out it was a friend would really be difficult. It might help him to be able to talk that through with a professional.
I hope tomorrow is a much better day.

 

[bloop2]

OMG OMG OMG!! IM SO SORRY!! OMG!!! That news is very hard to take in!! .. holy crap i would burst out crying!! my sincerest condolence to you and your son!

 

[JonnyFantastico]

My condolences; that's sad to hear. Is there something he can do about the exam? Be glad it's not him that went under the train; seeing a person drop is a good reason for one to appreciate his/her life more.

A very strong, but very true statement. I'm sorry he had to view that and I send my deepest condolences to you both. I hope you hugged your son as tightly as you could before you let your head hit the pillow tonight.

 

[slimjim]

What a terribly sad day indeed. My condolences and thoughts are with you both. It is a blessing that at least your son was not aware of the identity until after being a witness to such a traumatic event.

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[jw4833]

My condolences are with you and your son. What a tragic situation for him to see the body parts of the individual who jumped from the train and then to find out it was someone he knew. May God be with you both during this horrible time.

 

[Tjerk12]

Thank you boys for all the nice words. The first chock is over now for my son. Together with some friends of the boy we could analyze that it was a well prepared act and he kept it fully secret. A big tragedy for such a young life. Last week he gave suddenly a party for his friends. Now we know that it was his way to say goodbye.

 

[mrduke]

Jesus, I think there are just some things in life no one should have to witness. When I was taking drivers education in High School, a boy was crossing the street to get to school and was run over and killed (because of dense fog). The boy sat in front of me in this class. A hard lesson to learn, but I am sorry your son had to experience it. My hope as a Father is that you can explain in life things happen, whether or not we like it. And how one deals with the unexpected in life determines the well adjusted young man or adult. I am so sorry this happened.

Duke

 

[slimjim]

Hey Tj.... We who remain may never know the plans of those who have left.

When my father died of a stroke a few years ago it was noted afterwards by the family that many things had been "organised". My Dad had been shopping and had fully stocked the cupboards and larder so that my Mum" wouldn't have to worry for a while".. all bills were paid in full and in advance/ credit

Were we reading too much into this... was it concidence - or was he aware that he had a short time left with us and wanted to get things in order?? I/we will never know... I know that after the event it gave my mother great comfort to think/know that my father was aware and prepared for his end and I suppose that all of us will grasp at whatever straws we can to help us through the pain of grief and bereavment.

I guess what I am trying to say is that ... jeez Tj I have no idea what I am trying/failing to say... except that I won't patronise you with the " I know what you and your son is going going through".. nobody does.. we all deal with loss in our own way.... some bottle it up inside (me), some blame ourselves, some wail and cry ... but whatever we do we get have to get through it and we have to move forward .. and generally with the support and comfort ot those we love. So as JonnyF said before, big hugs to you and your boy.. I feel for you both, be strong and you will hopefully both find a way forward

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[Tjerk12]

You are right Jim. My son visited the parents. We got a better picture now. A brain is the most private part of a human being. Normally it helps you to exist. Sometimes it doesn't.

 

[Ioanna]

Sad story T'jerk ... sorry that I take it such a long time after data again from the dust but I wanted to respond.
I address this letter to all who know more, I mean, I've read the subjects of T'jerk a bit and it seems like a very interesting and wise man but I read that his last activity dates back to August of last year and as a moderator .... I also read that he is already 68 ... everything is still okay with him? ... well I hope anyway.

 

[Otage]

A friends suicide is always hard. It often leaves too many guestions. I wondered that should I have noticed somenthing, was I good enough friend etc. There's no real closure. But I'm glad to hear that the first shock is over, the healing of time can begin.