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SimplyJakeAndAlex
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Alright I personally find those statements a little out of context... I understand the needs of gay couples to be treated equally in society, because I am made of the same leather... but trying to minuend the natural way of how things should be it's a little farfetched. Although my dude can sometime be mislead for a girl due to his girlish appearance (he's so fucking cuteI think it funny that the male-female parenting thing comes as the best model at the hands of all others. Maybe it's just because we live in a heterosexual normed world. Maybe it's because raising a fully functioning heterosexual child is a sign of success that makes it so. If a child turns out to be gay it is a sign that parenting was likely at fault. When it's a heterosexual set of parents who've raised a gay child it's the fact that the father didn't spend enough time with the boy, or the mother smothered him. If a gay male couple have raised a gay boy it's the fact that he's been normalized to homosexualty and would thus follow. When a gay boy results from a lesbian couple it's because he didn't have "enough of a male influence." To say that heterosexual couples are best is the feed into the idea that creating a heterosexual child is the goal and anything less has been a mistake. A girl who is a tom boy, or an effeminate boy line up as against the norm and are a result of bad parenting. It's not true and I refuse to believe that gays are any less capable parents.
So here's something a little bit more accurate... yes heterosexual parents do expect their son or daughter to be heterosexual (I find that just normal, can you really blame them?), most gay parents do not expect their children to become gay because they know the great deal they had to accept their own sexuality and they surely don't want their sons or daughters to go through that. As a dad I really really hope they would not and Alex and I are not raising my little dude to become gay, he's 10 years old and unless he really have the feeling that he might be gay we are going to help him go through it and accept is desires with the same value of a hetero kid.
If I have my son having a bath with a little cousin of his and he decide to play kiss kiss penis on the other boy, neither I or Alex will go "awwww that's so cute" because we are gay, hell no, we'll do just like normal parents would and we'll intervene and perhaps give punishment as this is not allowed for a 10 years old in my mind to do such thing...
So please don't mix the concept here, parents raise their children according to the values they receive or learned themselves, not according to pejorative preconceptions of gay raise gays, and hetero raise hetero. :cheers: