What do you think when you look into the mirror?

[Tjerk12]

What do you think when you look into the mirror?
It is important for yourself that you can accept your reflection when you look into the mirror. I have learned to get friends with the picture I see. Not a model, nor a film star, but a nice guy. I like him. He is my best friend. What about you?

 

[Whisper]

I wrote this earlier to my "Falling down...."-thread, I think I managed describing at least something


One of the positive things that my illness has brought is that I have finally the courage to be ME and don't worry about what others think. I have always loved everything fantasy/dark/gothic-like things, but even dressing differently than most of people was too scary. Not anymore. I wear -and make- the clothes I like and look like I have always wanted (yesterday I bought a shirt with heavy spikes on the collar and chains on the back ). Many times when I look myself in the mirror I think "that's the real me, finally".

 

[etilit]

i think wtf? another pimple or ouch a new cut after shaving...lol

but most times i think...man your gettin old kiddo!!!!!

 

[XMan101]

I broke them all )

 

[iotbg]

What do you think when you look into the mirror?
It is important for yourself that you can accept your reflection when you look into the mirror. I have learned to get friends with the picture I see. Not a model, nor a film star, but a nice guy. I like him. He is my best friend. What about you?

the same here(mostly)

 

[hawtsean]

I am totally comfy and at peace with the man I see in the mirror. Other than a few wished-for cosmetic changes, I am content with the man who I am.

 

[Casanova]

I'm going to be honest and say that I try to avoid looking at myself in the mirror.

A lot of people have told me I'm an exceptionally good-looking guy, but I've never actually accepted the way I look. I've accepted my sexuality, my psychological/intellectual strength and the fact I'm quite witty, but physically I still retain the idea I'm one ugly mother-fucker.

 

[XMan101]

I'm going to be honest and say that I try to avoid looking at myself in the mirror.

A lot of people have told me I'm an exceptionally good-looking guy, but I've never actually accepted the way I look. I've accepted my sexuality, my psychological/intellectual strength and the fact I'm quite witty, but physically I still retain the idea I'm one ugly mother-fucker.

Well we can always judge for you

I'll bet you aren't remotely ugly, you have a personality that will hide any physical defects and by the time anyone notices them it's too late, you've captured their heart

 

[obichim]

king

 

[hawtsean]

I'm going to be honest and say that I try to avoid looking at myself in the mirror.

A lot of people have told me I'm an exceptionally good-looking guy, but I've never actually accepted the way I look. I've accepted my sexuality, my psychological/intellectual strength and the fact I'm quite witty, but physically I still retain the idea I'm one ugly mother-fucker.

I realize that asking for a facial pic may be more than you are willing to provide. But honestly that would be the way to have this forum affirm you as not being ugly. That word is so subjective and means so many different things dependent upon the person making an observation, that it's not valid for anyone to self-judge their outward appearance that way.

 

[XMan101]

Nobody is really ugly - I hate that personal condemnation.

I've been surprised how many find me attractive over the years, and like I said it's often the personality that takes over.

Be yourself always, and never give a damn what anyone else thinks of you

 

[gb2000ie]

I didn't used to like the guy in the mirror very much - he didn't have the hair I wanted or the looks I wanted, but I've come to be at peace with him, mostly. I just grew a beard for the first time a few weeks ago, and I have to say I like what I see! I'd been frantically trying to keep looking like a teen through out my 20s and now I'm happy to look like a man. I do still think that I need to get back on track with my plan to get back down to my ideal weight, but I'm realistic about it. I'm not obese, just a little over my ideal weight, so I want to change my life style a little to get that under control without extreme diets or any such rubbish.

B.

 

[hawtsean]

Nobody is really ugly - I hate that personal condemnation.

The word ugly LOOKS harsh and condemning to the eye. No matter what dictionary I check, the meaning of that word hinges on someone's personal judgment call on outward appearance. So there isn't a standard for ugly, just an opinion............and each of us has a slightly different opinion. Let me share from a very personal experience:

When I began playing more widely in BDSM circles, one of my first subs was the same age as me (mid twenties) and he thought of himself as very poor-looking, plain and undesireable - suitable only for submissiveness to Doms/Tops who would use him and then cast him away because he was "ugly". I could not bring myself to play with this boi, because it hurt me to hear him slice himself up verbally. I ordered him (remember I was the Dom in this scene) to stand in front of a full-length mirror in the room where we were about to do our stuff, and I made him strip, look at himself, and he was ordered to say to the mirror (and by reflection to me) that he liked the hot boi that was in view. It took about 5 times and he broke into tears. I pulled him to me, hugged him hard and long (we were both nude at this point), and I explained to him that I had been attracted to him and had hooked up precisely because of the twinkle in his eyes and his grin; and that looks were not part of the equation to begin with. It didn't take too long after that for his eyes to dry, and for us to get into the erotic play that we had planned.

So, to put a point on this, if a person thinks of themselves as ugly, logic says they are wrong. They cannot adequately or dispassionately judge themselves by the changeable and varied standards of others. My declaration on the subject would be to affirm that a man's or woman's physical features will always be most attractive to others, and always be under criticism from themselves and those who are jealous of them.

(P.S. - that boi and I partnered for three years monogomously until his employment took him too far away for us to stay properly connected. We still email and phone monthly, and he is happily espoused to a wonderful guy who cares deeply for him.)

 

[XMan101]

Sean, that really is a beatiful story, and you made my point so much better.

My only comparison is a guy I met many years ago who was not instantly attractive, until we spoke! Then, damn did I fall for him. I was in my 30s then, and he was older than me by a few years. He lived many miles (and another country) away sadly so it was difficult to keep in touch in the pre internet days. I still think about him though even now.

 

[Casanova]

Hey! I never said I hated myself lol.. It's just that don't like the way I look when I look into the mirror.. two different things!

Basically, I am everything I wouldn't go for in a guy physically. And I know why I feel the way I feel.. its a bit complicated to start explaining here... maybe some day when am in the mood I'll have a good ol' emo rant about it. Hahaha! Anyway, am way too happy with the person on the inside than what I see physically in the mirror so everything's ok in my world.

 

[XMan101]

Hey! I never said I hated myself lol.. It's just that don't like the way I look when I look into the mirror.. two different things!

Basically, I am everything I wouldn't go for in a guy physically. And I know why I feel the way I feel.. its a bit complicated to start explaining here... maybe some day when am in the mood I'll have a good ol' emo rant about it. Hahaha! Anyway, am way too happy with the person on the inside than what I see physically in the mirror so everything's ok in my world.

That's good to hear Gypsy, we only allow the beautiful people here

 

[ClearSky]

When I look into the mirror I think "OMG I lost my youth!" X_X

But what's inside us is the important thing, isn't it?

 

[Casanova]

What's on the inside is indeed the most important factor!

Physical beauty can be destroyed in a matter of minutes... accident, skin ailment, physical abuse.. anything can happen which we have no control over. Because in reality, what we can see or touch changes.. be it age, illness, or any other cirstance.

Sadly, in reality, almost everything is based on physical beauty.. the media pumps it into our faces and even the way we react to someone who is physically attractive proves the point, cuz in the end we are all human and we react to anything that is visually or aurally appealing.

Case in point! We are working in a store as a teller and an average looking guy and a really hot guy is waiting to be attended. Let's be honest, we all would love to attend to the hottie, and if we are lucky to attend to the hot guy, we can be naturally friendlier to him than the average looking guy.

The only positive thing in life with regards to beauty is that inner beauty is something we have complete control over and doesn't fade in time. Who we are as an individual is the most valuable! We may be teased, beaten, abused and hurt, but we are who we are! And our uniqueness, passion, inner charm and wit have enough power and strength to make or break any major war or catastrophe.

PS. Youth is overrated, cuz I fucking love older men

 

[8oclockcoffee]

I think I am "striking" looking, and for the most part I am happy with that. I have very few lines on my face (I'm 42), and those few lines are very faint. I have always had clear skin on my face, so that's a plus, and I love my eye color (ice-blue with amber and aqua-green flecks and dark grey around the outer edge of the iris).

I have had people tell me that I'm ugly, and I have had some people tell me I'm gorgeous (that always makes me laugh--it's one thing to say you find me attractive, or even very attractive, but gorgeous? NOT).

For the most part, I don't give a shit what others think of me or my looks. The exception? When I was 19, I met my favorite opera singer, and nearly fainted as she held my hands in hers. She then said how flattered she was to have "such a handsome young man swoon over [her]." I nearly fainted again! And then she pulled me close and sang in my ear! Bliss!

So if my greatest idol in the world thought I was handsome for that moment in time over two decades ago, then who gives a damn what the rest of the world thinks? (Of course, I am 6ft3 and was wearing a beautiful suit when I met her, so that may have colored her perception of my looks! Tall and well dressed goes a long way for a lot of people.)

(My avatar is my Navy boot camp portrait cartoonified through Photoshop, and I doubt that I'll ever post anything more recognizable than that on here! )

 

[Whisper]

As I said in my earlier post, I feel like I'm being me at last. But when "normal daylook" includes quite heavy make-up, there was another thing for me to learn: to like my face without make-up and to go out without this well, protective layer. Although I have to use a little make-up to protect my nearly white skin, but still, at first I felt naked, now, I don't give a s*it

Another problem I doubt you guys never will have ( ) is this: my birth-control pills were causing me killer migraines (record was 7 days of migraine) and so I had to stop taking them after almost 15 years. Now my body has gone crazy, especially my skin who thinks it's teenage time again X_X So, more challenge for me to go out without make-up :rofl:

For those who don't know: birth-control pills are used also for acne treatment