What Types of Sexual Acts Do You Prefer/Enjoy?

[logan222]

Okay, I have a question for everyone here. What types of sex do you all prefer?

I get confused myself about my own sexuality because I feel like I would not be into any type of penetrative sex. I've never had penetrative sex, and when I get sexual desires, they aren't of penetrative fantasies.

When I visualize sex, I picture it with another man - a lot of touching, rubbing, massaging, fellatio (oral sex), and mutual masturbation. Anal sex doesn't really fall into the equation for me.

So, what does this mean? Am I abnormal for not wanting or desiring anal sex? Sure, I am attracted to male butts, but mostly to touch, massage, and caress - but I am not into penetrating another man's butt and DEFINITELY not being penetrated myself. I haven't even "anally violated" myself and have had no real desires to do so. I feel like an desire for anal sex is something integral in homosexuality, so I was just wondering if it was normal for me to not really be into it. I think I'd try it just to see if maybe it's one of those things you have to try to like...but really, I'd be okay with never taking part with it.

But then, technically, it's like not having "real sex," because "real sex" is usually associated to penetrative intercourse.

So, what are your preferences for sexual acts?

I've only had fellatio and rubbing and I enjoyed it very much, but anal sex has never interested me...

 

[SimplyJakeAndAlex]

Okay, I have a question for everyone here. What types of sex do you all prefer?

I get confused myself about my own sexuality because I feel like I would not be into any type of penetrative sex. I've never had penetrative sex, and when I get sexual desires, they aren't of penetrative fantasies.

When I visualize sex, I picture it with another man - a lot of touching, rubbing, massaging, fellatio (oral sex), and mutual masturbation. Anal sex doesn't really fall into the equation for me.

So, what does this mean? Am I abnormal for not wanting or desiring anal sex? Sure, I am attracted to male butts, but mostly to touch, massage, and caress - but I am not into penetrating another man's butt and DEFINITELY not being penetrated myself. I haven't even "anally violated" myself and have had no real desires to do so. I feel like an desire for anal sex is something integral in homosexuality, so I was just wondering if it was normal for me to not really be into it. I think I'd try it just to see if maybe it's one of those things you have to try to like...but really, I'd be okay with never taking part with it.

But then, technically, it's like not having "real sex," because "real sex" is usually associated to penetrative intercourse.

So, what are your preferences for sexual acts?

I've only had fellatio and rubbing and I enjoyed it very much, but anal sex has never interested me...

First let me tell you that I am happy to have read your message because you've just unearthed an eternal stereotypical question as of gay= anal sex. Gay by definition is that you like the company of a man as opposed of a woman, it means that you have the same feelings that a straight dude would have for a woman toward a man, it has no sexual annotations whatsoever. Therefore is it normal that your not into anal sex? The answer is YES.

Too many people believes that penetration is the apogee of a sexual act in both sexual preferences, but it isn't. Having sex isn't the act of penetrating one another, it's the act of sexually pleasuring one another by caress, kissing, speaking, rubbing and sometimes fellatio, it also can just be mutual jerking off, but penetrating isn't the summon of having sex.

If one refers to a porno movies, it does quite often suggest that penetration is the ultimate goal of having a sexual relation, and this is for the same reasons that Pornographic movies are called entertainment, they are all but real. You'd be surprised how many porn actors aren't into penetrations in their real life. Back in my days of performing, you'd believe that because I was a power top, I wouldn't accept a cock in my ass, but yet I would and I can take pretty much every size.

In a gay relationship, having anal sex implies a lot of preparation, since nobody (except those who likes it) would like to engage their phallus in a sea of shit. Not everyone is anally receptive and not everyone likes it. In fact there's a good 20% of the gay population that isn't into anal sex... this of course is an old survey dating far about 16 years old, and trends may have changed since porn movies often suggest that penetration is the REAL sex act, many youths that enter into adulthood and start having sex, just reproduce what they've seen on these movies, even though they were not anally receptive in the first place.

Therefore no my dude, you are not odd, abnormal or a freak for not liking to penetrate or being penetrated, and as you mentioned above, if even by yourself you wouldn't go near your asshole with a toy, this definitely means that you are not a bottom or a top for that matter and I really don't see any harms in that at all. "Normality" is a mathematical term which implies that it is normal that 1 + 1 =2, normality should not be applied to human being behaviors because what is normal for you, may as well be very odd for somebody else.

 

[HotDougBunz]

jaketoronto2004 did a fine job of pointing out that you are quite normal. From my perspective you have defined your sexuality and also your sexual interests. Congratulations on identifying what you like and not doing something you really are not into. I am for the greater part a solo sexualist which means jerking off to porn is the bulk of my "sex life". If I am with my partner or someone else (open relationship) we/I most often engage in mutual masturbation with a person of interest. Sometimes it will go further but I typically will not engage in anal unless it is just one of those rare times that I have an over powering need to get my pelvic slip-slide going. My partner likes anal from time to time but that is far from our sexual routine.

Be comfy with how you are Logan, you are just fine

 

[logan222]

Thanks to both of you! I really appreciate the feedback. I guess I was worried that once I become openly gay, will I be severely limiting my options if I am so opposed to anal sex? Like you said, there's appears to be a very small percentage of gay men that aren't into anal sex, and the gay community is already SO small! I hope I'm not digging myself a grave here; I would eventually like to have a relationship.

 

[XMan101]

It's something you might actually feel you want to do in the future when you feel really close to someone, but you'll know if or when that time comes.

In the meantime have fun , you'll find it's not as big an issue as you think. Not all guys want it, and not all guys want it all the time. There are so many things you can do without that that are just as stimulating, all it takes is imagination and experimentation.

I've always said it's my least favourite part of sex, and has never been necessary for me. With many I met over time we didn't always indulge in that side, it's a question of how you feel. Not everyone expects it, trust me

 

[ciccio80ft]

i think that everythink can be tried in sex... try to be penetrated: it can be a great sorprice... i try at first with my fingther or with a pen or some ortage... then, with my boyfriend's huge cock and it is incredible... i can't resist to scream by pain but then it is a hot fatisfation, expecially when he s in mu hole.

 

[HotDougBunz]

Thanks to both of you! I really appreciate the feedback. I guess I was worried that once I become openly gay, will I be severely limiting my options if I am so opposed to anal sex? Like you said, there's appears to be a very small percentage of gay men that aren't into anal sex, and the gay community is already SO small! I hope I'm not digging myself a grave here; I would eventually like to have a relationship.

The first hurdle you should cross is coming out! Your world will be so much better once you do. Not knowing how your family will react or your network of friends, it is easy to say that. I personally built a great support group of friends for fear of my christian family reacting adversely to the news. They did, my friends were most helpful to get me through a tough time.

I think you will find that you do not severely limit your options but make yourself comfortable in the encounters you DO have. Just don't blurt out (when meeting someone) "I'm not into anal." Concentrate on sharing what you DO like and listen to what they are looking for. You will be surprised with how many guys do not make that priority one but save it for more intimate times. You may find too you want to explore when feeling closer to someone. Either way, nothing is wrong with want to or not wanting to "go there". Trust me on this, there are many, many men who have other interests. Being closeted is severely limiting you options more so than your sexual limits as they stand right now.

I most encourage playing safe. There is always some level of risk but you can make it minimal. :cheers:

 

[Casanova]

Sexual intercourse is technically penetrative sex, and no it does not strictly mean anal sex. Fingering is penetrative, oral sex is penetrative, but that's just the technical definition to sex.

Sex is generally human contact that is possibly sexually gratifying. It can be anything from dry humping (clothed) to full-on anal action. There is a school of thought that kissing is a sexual act depending on the situation, scenario and where things will lead to.

In my opinion, you define sex because sex defines you. It is a personal act which makes sexuality an amazing thing. For a foot lover, tickling his feet may/may not be sexually pleasing - for an armpit fan, making love to a man's pits is a sexual act. There are no strict rules to sex - you just enjoy what you like as long as it is consensual and hurts no one.

If you ask me what sexual acts I enjoy, you'd be surprised to discover that I have very few limits as I have tried a lot of things and would do them again. But even I have my limits as there are some things I just will never get into and never try.

The human body is an amazing creation with many sexual parts and places, why restrict an act that is as wide as the universe itself to just one small box? Explore yourself, you'll find exactly what suits your fancy.

 

[lovetosuckcock]

As others have pointed out sex is very individualistic in what one likes. My username is a good indication of what I like, but I also love anal sex. I'm a bottom only and sometimes I think I cannot get enough of taking a cock in me. I don't like kissing at all though. It's just something that I don't do. I would say to anyone to do what you like and not what others want to force you to do. Be comfortable with yourself and everything else will fall into place.

 

[logan222]

I think you guys are right that I am limiting myself regarding my sexuality by being closeted, but in all actuality, I don't think I'll be having too much sex even when I'm out. I'm definitely not religious or anything like that, but I think real sex is something you don't just give away for the sake of it. I want to find a special person, not really be experimenting around with sex with others. I don't think finding that special person is going to be easy. I've met a lot of gay people and am friends with them, but I haven't been attracted to any of them, and I've noticed many of them aren't the settling down type. Once I'm out, hopefully, I'll be able to have a more thorough look and begin experimenting with the bounds of my sexual preferences with him (once I find him).

 

[tomik776655]

:thinking: ... Every single person is a different. Everyone has their interests, preferences, interests and everyone likes something different. So I think it is quite normal if you do not like any kind of sexual act like having anal sex for example. For me it is unimaginable to have fisting or BDSM techniques but other people love it and they can't imagine their sexual life without it. It is strongly individual.

What about me I didn't love anal sex until my ex-partner 8 years ago didn't show me how pleasant it may be. It was very difficult to persuade me to try it. For me it was something painful, cause in my youth I tried it with candle (I was curious how it feels) without any lubricant and it was awful... :hypnotized: .. after that experience my decision was clear :no: ... to my ass...

... once when my ex was massaging me he started to kiss my back and then slowly dropped with his lips to my ass... my reaction was very fast... NO... he said, "relax my boy, just tell me if you feel pain, cause I'm sure all I'll do will not hurt... btw, to feel his lips on my butts was very pleasant so I let him continue. Everything was very slowly, he started to rim my ass (btw, for the first time in my life) I was shocked how pleasant it is, it helped me to relax.
Then he started to play with his dick around my ass... when he penetrated me I felt unpleasant pressure but I don't know how he always knew when to stop it.... it really didn't hurt and thank him that he was so patient with me... when it was after he asked: "... did it hurt?????".... :blushing:... p cause it really didn't. After that experience I was always horny for new experience making anal sex (different positions) and now it's normal part of my sexual life...

... so never say never, maybe sometimes it's good to try it with someone who knows how to do it... ... :thumbs up:

 

[SimplyJakeAndAlex]

So you see Logan it all comes down to experimenting and desires, I am not a fan of BDSM, but Alex is, Foot Fetish annoyed me (I'm super duper ticklish, you just have to mimic that you'll tickle me and I'll start laughing nervously - doesn't always work though LOL, try attacking or hurting my Alex and try to tickle me for fun, you're dead LOL). Of course it's just an example. Foot fetish annoyed me because I just didn't understand what was so exciting about feet, I used to be on Cam4 and doing shows with Alex and they would fucking interrupt us and ask to show our feet. But on a day Alex and I were rediscovery our mutual bodies for the 50th thousands time (we do fuck a lot) , he's my barbie dude boy-toy and I'm his long shaft kit kat dude:rofl:; I couldn't stop playing with his feet, kissing them, massaging them and I started understanding what is exciting about feet... but yet it's not my forte, but I have a new appreciation for them, and seeing how Alex would loose it when I'd do that to him I believe was a very good reason to do it again.

When I was younger I hated kissing, don't know why, but kissing wasn't my forte, but today Alex and I can spend hours just kissing (no sex) just kissing. Anal sex can be indeed scary, but it is still one of the most erogenous area on a dude, i made Alex come hand free just by rimming his ass.

Therefore you maybe limiting yourself now, but I believe that you're not yet very experimented and you need to give yourself the chance to discover your desires a little more (who knows, you could become a porn star down the road lol). I understand and praise the magical thinking about love and passion, but having sex and experimenting with someone you love and appreciate is Love and Passion (well a part of it). Everyone has to start somewhere and what you believe to be today, can and will completely be different later on. Never did I believe that someday I would have had on my record over 200 sexual relations during my escorting and porn "career" and I was the first one to say how bad it was to be in porn, how degrading it is to sell oneself but hey I did anyway and I do not regret it at all... but that was the past.

Open up your horizons, and you'll discover breath taking panoramas.:cheers:

 

[annden]

"De gustibus non disputandum est."
("tastes are not disputable")
Julius Caesar

 

[SimplyJakeAndAlex]

"De gustibus non disputandum est."
("tastes are not disputable")
Julius Caesar

Alea jacta est (So be it)

 

[annden]

The picture of the eye is just great.....I have a dirty mind!!

 

[Rebel7]

Okay, I have a question for everyone here. What types of sex do you all prefer?

I get confused myself about my own sexuality because I feel like I would not be into any type of penetrative sex. I've never had penetrative sex, and when I get sexual desires, they aren't of penetrative fantasies.

When I visualize sex, I picture it with another man - a lot of touching, rubbing, massaging, fellatio (oral sex), and mutual masturbation. Anal sex doesn't really fall into the equation for me.

So, what does this mean? Am I abnormal for not wanting or desiring anal sex? Sure, I am attracted to male butts, but mostly to touch, massage, and caress - but I am not into penetrating another man's butt and DEFINITELY not being penetrated myself. I haven't even "anally violated" myself and have had no real desires to do so. I feel like an desire for anal sex is something integral in homosexuality, so I was just wondering if it was normal for me to not really be into it. I think I'd try it just to see if maybe it's one of those things you have to try to like...but really, I'd be okay with never taking part with it.

But then, technically, it's like not having "real sex," because "real sex" is usually associated to penetrative intercourse.

So, what are your preferences for sexual acts?

I've only had fellatio and rubbing and I enjoyed it very much, but anal sex has never interested me...

I'm glad you bring this topic., i was very hesitant to pose the question myself.
I feel just as you. I'm bisexual, been with girls and recently a guy, never done anal with either I'm just not into it. But hey, i still had exciting moments exploring other avenues

 

[Whtrbbit]

rimming!

 

[logan222]

So you see Logan it all comes down to experimenting and desires, I am not a fan of BDSM, but Alex is, Foot Fetish annoyed me (I'm super duper ticklish, you just have to mimic that you'll tickle me and I'll start laughing nervously - doesn't always work though LOL, try attacking or hurting my Alex and try to tickle me for fun, you're dead LOL). Of course it's just an example. Foot fetish annoyed me because I just didn't understand what was so exciting about feet, I used to be on Cam4 and doing shows with Alex and they would fucking interrupt us and ask to show our feet. But on a day Alex and I were rediscovery our mutual bodies for the 50th thousands time (we do fuck a lot) , he's my barbie dude boy-toy and I'm his long shaft kit kat dude:rofl:; I couldn't stop playing with his feet, kissing them, massaging them and I started understanding what is exciting about feet... but yet it's not my forte, but I have a new appreciation for them, and seeing how Alex would loose it when I'd do that to him I believe was a very good reason to do it again.

When I was younger I hated kissing, don't know why, but kissing wasn't my forte, but today Alex and I can spend hours just kissing (no sex) just kissing. Anal sex can be indeed scary, but it is still one of the most erogenous area on a dude, i made Alex come hand free just by rimming his ass.

Therefore you maybe limiting yourself now, but I believe that you're not yet very experimented and you need to give yourself the chance to discover your desires a little more (who knows, you could become a porn star down the road lol). I understand and praise the magical thinking about love and passion, but having sex and experimenting with someone you love and appreciate is Love and Passion (well a part of it). Everyone has to start somewhere and what you believe to be today, can and will completely be different later on. Never did I believe that someday I would have had on my record over 200 sexual relations during my escorting and porn "career" and I was the first one to say how bad it was to be in porn, how degrading it is to sell oneself but hey I did anyway and I do not regret it at all... but that was the past.

Open up your horizons, and you'll discover breath taking panoramas.:cheers:

Yeah, you're totally right. There's no telling what we'll be like in a few years. We can take dramatic shifts of preferences and beliefs.

Wow, I can't believe some people don't like kissing. I think kissing is the best, especially if it's with someone with a clean mouth...lol
I just love some feeling of it and the smell and the breath of his nose emitting itself from his nose onto your upper lip. AH!

 

[bigsal]

I think it's a matter of chemistry. If there is mutual attraction, unthinkable limits are transgressed, even with someone does not seem attractive, but expresses a strong sexuality.

I have no particular preference, sex is more satisfying in full.