are kids less respectful today..

[Thor]

are kids less respectful today..

I had to go to a high school function the other day (family thing)
but I noticed that most of the kids there were not respectful to the adults.
maybe its just me, but they seem to resent them!! even there parents

I don't remember EVER being rude to an adult as a kid, and none of my friends did..

so has times changed that much? or am I just gettin old and out of touch?

 

[mikawa]

its not your imagination, trust me... they arent respectful to anything

 

[goejavin]

I think as a general rule kids are definitely less respectful today. I also think adults are less respectful to other adults though which doesn't help the kids' cause. Throw in the internet, the ipods and the cell phones, all of which zone kids out and have little social redeeming value and its seems respect has gone by the wayside, for the most part.

I'm real old and when I was a kid if I spoke to my parents/adults in ways my nephews/nieces do, my ass would hurt for a week...of course that was before kids start suing their parents for assault X_X

 

[ritsuka]

Well, if their parents and teachers, other adults etc. aren't receiving good regards from these people, it is because they haven't earned it, in a myriad of ways. It is also is a case of you likely being out of touch with people that age, and not interested in sympathizing with teenagers.

Just because someone is older doesn't mean they automatically deserve some special respect regardless of what they do. How sad it must be to never have been rude to one of the arrogant, obnoxious, cruel pricks that walk around bullying those younger than them. I certainly told a few of them off, and didn't respond to hostility and false claims of authority with "respect." I highly applaud that minors have more rights than they used to.

 

[sweetuttsada]

Every time I hear this argument, I remember this quote:

"The children now love luxury; they have bad manners, contempt for authority; they show disrespect for elders and love chatter in place of exercise. Children are now tyrants, not the servants of their households. They no longer rise when elders enter the room. They contradict their parents, chatter before company, gobble up dainties,
at the table, cross their legs, and tyrannize their teachers." -SOCRATES


This has been said of youth for centuries. There is clearly some merit to the fact that we have created a culture of narcissistic self-absorption , but honestly I encounter just as many rude, self-centered adults as I do teens. So I'm not surprised when I meet their rude, self-centered children. It's not always a generational problem!

 

[XMan101]

Nothing really changes that much. I remember hearing a tape recording of my Grandad & Great Grandad talking in 1960. Same old stuff "don't know what the world's coming to" , so not much has altered in at least 50 years. I think the older you get the more you perceive things to be different.

 

[mikawa]

well its obvious that when an adult who doesnt worth my respect, it cant have it but for example you have to be respectful with your teacher because if the teacher doesnt have any authority its impossible that he/she could do his/her job. There are a lot of examples more but damn its obvious that the things has changed, im only 18 years old and i can see the change perfectly. And anyway, even it would havent changed, even if it was in that way since before, i dont think it can be normal the behaviour of the people.

Do you think is normal that kids around ten years old [when i say around ten, i mean kids with 12 but with 7 or 8 too] talking about porn cause their elder brother or friend showed them? and im not talking of kids who knows about sex, i meant kids who share by phone their porn vids.

Do you think is normal that 12 and 13 years old meet every weekend to smoke marihuana and get drunk and fuck without condoms even on the street? And im not talking just about sex, rapish too

Do you think is normal that a 15 years old hit their mother because she dont let him go out with friends because he didnt pass any exam, neither got 3/10 points on any subject?

Adults have a very questionable behaviour too, but i think its logic, they learn since they were kids so, if you think they behave bad now, imagne whats gonna happen on the future

 

[XMan101]

The liberal attitudes of the 1960s helped changed things somewhat, and those kids are now parents and it goes down the line. The one big change is a lack of discipline and the removal of the fear barrier. Add to this the faster and faster way of communication in all walks of life, news and personal information travels quicker.

All this releases the natural animal instincts that are within everyone when uncontrolled or not educated enough. We have a higher population and more crowded cities and the ways to influence, despite any control parents might have, is increased.

I do not believe this is all young people, it's just the ones we notice. I still reckon that most are inheritantly good.

Ritsuka has a valid point too. Gone are the days, thankfully, in decent society where kids can be abused and be at the mercy of violent or abusive adults and get away with it. Maybe it's because they got away with it for so long that the disease has now come out in other ways.

I still maintain not a lot has changed. The early part of the 20th century was a little different but you go back to Socrates quote from Sweets above, well that goes way back! I think we are comparing things with the austere and bleak period up to 1950, but the Victorian attitudes had replaced the more violent times previously. Maybe in a way we are just reverting , as a society, to those former ways!

 

[intensepump]

Many kids in America today...are nothing but spoiled brats...mine included. When I was a kid...I had to work for everything I got, didn't expect anything without doing something for it. It taught you to respect things and ppl because...you didn't get stuff unless you did.

Now, it's like kids think adults owe them anything they want....and they don't respect ppl or things...because they haven't had to do without...

arg...teenagers

yes, it has changed

 

[brmstn69]

I think the real problem is the attitude we have towards children. We over protect them and don't prepare them for the real world. Take little league, everyone who signs up now makes the team, because we don't want anyone left out. When they have a game, everyone gets a trophy, even the losers. We tell them that everyone is equal and just being there is good enough. In a perfect world that would be true, but this isn't a perfect world, it's the real world. As small children we fail to prepare them, we fail to teach them that they have to work for what they want. Then they get to High School, and find out that just loving to play the game and showing up isn't enough, you have to be better than everyone else. We tell them, sorry but your too fat and ugly to be a cheerleader. So what are they to think? That their whole live adults have lied to them, the truth is they are not all equal. That favoritism shines on the advantaged. Reality kicks in...

Then there's the whole body image thing that teens go through, which once again is the adults fault. Because we tell kids to be ashamed of their bodies, then they hit puberty and what happens? That's when their made to start dressing and showering for gym class, we tell them to have shame of their nudity and then at their most vulnerable moment we make them bare themselves to all their peers...

And to top it all off, by the time their 13, their expected to know what they want to do for the next 60 years of their lives and start working toward it, after being told when they were younger that hard work dosen't matter, everyone's equal....

With all this pressure thrust upon them at such a young age, is it any wonder that kids are so fucked up today? Is it any wonder that some of these kids snap and kill their classmates? Is it any wonder that after having failed to prepare them for the real world, that they have no respect for adults...:worried:

 

[Thor]

I agree in almost all you say brmstn69 It makes me sad...I question are future..lol

 

[mikawa]

adults dont put us under pressure, thats actually the problem. Are the teenagers who put under pressure the other because they want to make a piramid en which they can be on the top and feeling better cause they can make fun of those who are on the base.

i agree with that adult over protect kids and children and teenagers can get all without working for it, that's one o fthe main problems