I know you're not.
There are very few actively sexist people left in the western world - thank goodness!
But despite the fact that there are very few sexists, there is still quite a lot of sexism. Most if it is not intentional, it's accidental.
We all make flash judgements about all sorts of things, and we almost never know why at the time. It's only when others nudge us to do a little self reflection that we realise that we've subconsciously picked up some biases that express themselves when we act on impulse.
Sometimes it's because we have limited personal experiences with a given group, and sometimes it's because our only experience with a group is through some kind of selection effect.
In Ireland there are lots of ethnicities which are very uncommon - you could live here for a decade and meet only one Sikh. There are ass-holes in every culture, so imagine you got unlucky and the one Sikh you interacted with happened to be an asshole. Your brain LOVES finding patters, but with limited data, it often finds and stores false correlations. Your brain, because of how it works, could easily link being an asshole with wearing a turban just because your only interaction with a Sikh happened to be negative. You have just become subconsciously and accidentally prone to making racist snap judgements. You're not a bad person, but if you act without thinking you might do something racist by pure accident.
As for the selection effect - imagine you are a white cop in a neighbourhood that is predominantly of a different race to the neighbourhood you live in. The crime rates are identical in both communities - both low. So, in your home life, you probably meet very few criminals. In your work life, by definition, you meet LOTS of criminals. Most of the non-criminals you interact with are your race, most of the criminals you interact with are a different race. THe reason is a selection effect, the crime rates are identical in both hypothetical communities remember. Our brains could easily make the false correlation between race and criminality purely because of the selection effect at play, turning our hypothetical cop into a potential accidental racist.
We're all human, our brains all work the same way, and we all register false correlations that create our internal biases. Those biases do not make us bad people, or racists, or sexists, or homophobes, or anything like that. They just make us POTENTIAL racists, and POTENTIAL sexists, and POTENTIAL homophobes. The difference between good people and bad people is whether they STRIVE to rise above their biology, or just go with the flow. Even with the best will in the world good people will fail from time to time.
I realised some time ago that I had become accidentally racist against people with bible-belt accents because most of the anti-gay hate speech I heard was uttered in that accent. Turns out there are lots of really good people who ALSO have that accent, and who I was unfairly dismissing as ignorant idiots just because they had the misfortune of sharing an accent with some assholes! I now know I have a tendency to that bias, so I can do my best to stop myself from acting on it.
The reason I point out stereotyping when I see it is because I rely on others to point it out to me when I do it. I need people to do that so I can become aware of my biases, and override them. We all need people to do that for us if we want to be fair and balanced in our opinions about the world and those we share it with.
Sorry if that's a little deep for a porn board, but as someone who often falls victim to people's accidental homophobia, I take the fight against stereotyping seriously.
B.
bed to the dreadful legal doctrin of crimen exceptum (let's say Germany, Scandinavia, England and Scotland), i.e. the doctrin that some specific crimes are so horrible that full proof can't be considered necessary, can't be described as anything but human disaster.
