Meeting guys online on a casual basis. Does it affect you?

[lawjaime]

Hi, I'm 22 and signed up on some dating sites but haven't had much luck. I met three or four guys and not really clicked, I never thought that I would even consider it an option but am now thinking about nsa sex. There seems to be a fair bit of it happening but I'm worried about firstly safety, stds etc, but also whether I will enjoy it or if it would just leave me hollow. I'm not normally an emotional kind of guy but I haven't really got anyone I feel comfortable talking to this about. Do you think this is worth trying?

 

[Casanova]

I've never found the appeal in no strings attached sex as it's not my thing, but if you are curious about it, try it! Who knows, you may like it! The proof of the pudding IS in the eating!

And remember, you've got one life to live - we are not guaranteed tomorrows. Just play safe and take the necessary precautions.

Remember, although you are an emotional guy, you are also a sexual being. Enjoy it now, and when you do find Mr Right, you will know, just give things time

 

[topdog]

Re: Dating sites

Try switching your goal from trying to meet Mr. Right to trying to make new friends. It takes a lot of pressure off these meetings and makes each one potentially valuable. Use the sites to find people who like the things you like and then do stuff with them. Meet their friends. The person you meet online may not be husband material - but he may know someone who is and might introduce you.

Re: Sex sites

Remember the old New York joke: How do you get to Carnegie Hall? Practice, practice, practice!

You are single - the perfect time to expand your horizons sexually. And at 22 it's probably a safe bet that you have barely scratched the surface of what you are capable of, sexually. I say go for it. (See my advice on how to write an ad here.) As Gypsy said, be safe and then come back here and tell us all about it.

(Details! We want details!)

 

[hawtsean]

Remember, although you are an emotional guy, you are also a sexual being. Enjoy it now, and when you do find Mr Right, you will know, just give things time

There's Mr. Right, and then there's Mr. Right NOW! Rather than short change your libido, take some pleasure in short flings, without looking for attachment. When the right man comes along, you will know for sure, as Gypsy said.

 

[boyeur]

What IS Mr. Right? Mr. Right is YOURSELF. There is NO completing yourself through another. Sex is sex. Love is lasting and long. It goes beyond romantic infatuation.

If sex is the only fixing element there is no real mystery. It lies with the person.

Go to events, associations, auctions, symphonies where you will meet gay men. Then fall in love with someone. They will be physically imperfect but metaphysically perfect.

 

[afrayedknot]

I'm single. I will probably always be single. Both by choice and because I am singularly difficult to deal with in concentrated doses. I find little appeal in the Love or Romance Constructs -- I often envy those who do, but I really just don't think I was designed to be someone's significant other (and yes I have tried it).
I am kinda fond of sex. So... do I have sex with various guys, risk stds and rejection and go LONG LONG LONG periods of time with out it, but then you get it and it's with a guy that really turns you on and you really turn him on and you smile like you've had great sex... anyway.
OR do I follow the standard paradigm and find a partner and settle down (saddle myself with a relationship) and try to make myself believe that I "love" some guy and yes he's great and cute and smart and funny... but only about an hour and a half a day really, after that he's cranky and kinda smelly and often in my way.
OR do I go to gayheaven.com and stream a hot flick two or three times a week and take matters into my own hands sexually, decide all by myself what I am going to cook myself for dinner, what movie I am going to watch on netflicks later, with my ear buds in and my covers pulled up to my chin... oh wait, that is what I do actually. AND I LOVE IT!!!

 

[etilit]

i say go for it be safe and have fun lol

if i were 22 again..thats what id do i missed out on it the first time..and still a regret on my part lol

 

[XMan101]

I'm single. I will probably always be single. Both by choice and because I am singularly difficult to deal with in concentrated doses. I find little appeal in the Love or Romance Constructs -- I often envy those who do, but I really just don't think I was designed to be someone's significant other (and yes I have tried it).
I am kinda fond of sex. So... do I have sex with various guys, risk stds and rejection and go LONG LONG LONG periods of time with out it, but then you get it and it's with a guy that really turns you on and you really turn him on and you smile like you've had great sex... anyway.
OR do I follow the standard paradigm and find a partner and settle down (saddle myself with a relationship) and try to make myself believe that I "love" some guy and yes he's great and cute and smart and funny... but only about an hour and a half a day really, after that he's cranky and kinda smelly and often in my way.
OR do I go to gayheaven.com and stream a hot flick two or three times a week and take matters into my own hands sexually, decide all by myself what I am going to cook myself for dinner, what movie I am going to watch on netflicks later, with my ear buds in and my covers pulled up to my chin... oh wait, that is what I do actually. AND I LOVE IT!!!

Love it )

I long ago got bored with casual sex, it's fun for a while but in the end it does just get boring! I'd always rather meet anyone now as just a friend and if more develops it's far more rewarding, but it's not something I'm really interested in or look for.

It's like beer, the thought of a pint is nice, but the reality is often just a quick drink and that's it, an empty glass

My suggestion is concentrate on friendships without looking for anything else - what might happen afterwards will be so much better

 

[lawjaime]

Thanks guys, gives me a lot to think about.

Also:

As Gypsy said, be safe and then come back here and tell us all about it.

(Details! We want details!)

Hahaha, you horn dog!

 

[XMan101]

We're all horn dogs, or we wouldn't be here