No. Imagine someone hot, who knows they're hot, who knows they turn you on. What are they experts at? Teasing. Enjoying the attention. Enjoying the power and control. Acting coy. Sweet, innocent and peachy. Knowing they're safe. That is he to a tee.
AleXXX:
WOW...my perspective would have been different if you had shared this piece of information earlier. Now, I totally understand why you responded the way you did. Actually, I knew someone like that. You've described the guy who had raped me that I've written on the forum about. You see, he too was extremely handsome and in his late 20's and like the attention that he got from both sexes. However, once he found out that I was gay, he found it very difficult to comprehend with the fact that I was not coming on to him. My behavior of treating him like a respectable individual made him pursue me even more. In fact, the first time that he visited my home alone over Christmas Eve of that year, we were drinking and having a pleasant conversation and he excused himself to go to the bathroom and when he came back, he was totally naked and trying to persuade me to have some form of sexual contact with him which at that time, he was into frottage and oral and kissing. What made him confused about me was that I turned him down and he was so dumbfounded that I actually did that to him. I remember he would question me about my sexuality once I came out to him because he could not understand why I did not make advances towards him. You see, I am not a fan of conceited, arrogant people and although I treat everyone with respect, I keep the relationship at that level. However, I'm full-blooded man and if this hot man wants to come on to me aggressively with constant nudity whenever he's in my presence with all of his cocky talk, I figured I will let him have the platform just to see if he can back up his talk.
Therefore, the more he was around me alone, the more he would try to push the envelope with teasing and coyness just to see if I would finally react the way he had been accustomed to. What I found intriguing about him was that he would come by my place every single day which involved him wanting to cuddle and laying on top of me in bed which evolved into him wanting to take me out to meet his male friends and when he saw that I got along great with them, it made him begin to have feelings for me that he was not expecting to happen. His game had gotten so transparent whenever he was around me that a couple of his friends could see the chemistry from him that made them curious of our relationship. You see, they knew I was gay, but they were not sure of his sexuality because he was always seen in public with beautiful women.
What I don't think I shared with you when I had initially told the forum about him was that one time, we did actually got sexual with each other a month prior to him sexually abusing me. And I have to tell you that like your guy, he just knew that once we got busy, he would have power over me. However, the situation reversed because what he failed to realize that because I was in my middle 30's and have had a few seasoned relationships with older men, I knew my way around the sex arena pretty well. Man, I had him yelling and squirming all over the bed and that was just with foreplay and oral sex. He began to tell me how much he loved me and how he has been dreaming and waiting for this moment to happen. What really got me after that night was that I had assumed that because of the confusion that appeared on his face the next morning, he would keep his distance and stop visiting me altogether. To my surprise, he started acting as if we were boyfriends especially out of the public's eye. There were many times though that when he and his buddies would invite me out, he would sit next to me and grab my hand and hold it tight under the table. When I would look up, he would be mouthing
"I am falling in love with you" or "I Love You So Much". He also began to talk in private about us becoming a couple. I declined to pursue it because I felt that he needed to some self-exploring because I knew that he was confused about the gay scene as well as embracing it, and I did not want to be a part of that or better yet, be accused of being the person to bring out into the gay scene even though I knew of him messing around in the closet with a couple of other guys.
Now that you've shared this little tidbit about your friend...my advice to you has changed.
BE CAREFUL!!! I still think you should be nice and cordial to him and I do believe that he does like you but I fail to think now with this new information that he does not like you the way you like him. He loves the attention that not only you are giving, but everyone else around him. And yes, he is very much aware of your interest in him. With that being said, if anything does evolve from this situation, would probably be just a sexual situation but not boyfriend material. In all honesty, he will hurt you more than what he has done already if you do not keep your guards up with him at all times. I hope I have not caused you any anger with what I am writing, but because I like you, I think I should be honest and have your back.
stances. I would have a much greater regret staying silent and missing that opportunity and watch him hook up with someone else. If I want someone I go for it. Sometimes it ends up in happiness sometimes it ends in pain. At the end of the day t least he knows how I feel and the ball was in his court.
