HELP: Cute guy i like at school invited me to his dorm

[Sinnerr]

Don't buy him a present, ask him out for a birthday drink - perfect opportunity to get him away from studies and into a relaxed social environment with just the two of you, but I suggest you look at him as just a good friend, until you know different

Perfect idea! 100% agreed

 

[josh_the_hot_boy]

One thing to remember, a good close friend lasts a lot longer than most lovers, and can be far more rewarding too !

But if you don't give it a go you never know what might have been. You could miss out on a great relationship.

 

[Sinnerr]

One thing to remember, a good close friend lasts a lot longer than most lovers, and can be far more rewarding too !

But if you don't give it a go you never know what might have been. You could miss out on a great relationship.

You both are right.

As I already wrote - "let it in free course". Also let yourself in free course a little bit. You know, don't be cold or better don't be frozen by fear. If he makes ballet it means he should be "cultural person" - not violant yokel. So if he would not be into guys - I very very doubt about it. - He wouldn't be angry or something to gay guy who likes him. He would say just "Sorry thats not my department" or something. And if he would go mad He wouldn't be neither good friend for you. So Be talkactive and heartly, I think you have nothing to loose. Good luck.

 

[Sk8erBoiZach]

You may be chasing a dream! If you're not careful you'll find he gets into your head and you can't shift him. I'd suggest backing down a little, however difficult it may seem, or you'll cause yourself a lot of pain. There is nothing worse than unrequited love! It's very painful and upsets your equilibrium.

Don't buy him a present, ask him out for a birthday drink - perfect opportunity to get him away from studies and into a relaxed social environment with just the two of you, but I suggest you look at him as just a good friend, until you know different

One thing to remember, a good close friend lasts a lot longer than most lovers, and can be far more rewarding too !

he suddenly has this like other guy that sits on the other side of him in calc now, i personally think that guys got nothing on me, but its just pathetic....i do think your right i may be investing too much time on him. The thing is i never am interested in someone that just comes easy, i mean ill sleep with them but ones i actually want to be with normally are shy and arent open about what theyre really about

 

[Sk8erBoiZach]

But if you don't give it a go you never know what might have been. You could miss out on a great relationship.

he has some girl that lives like 4 doors down...she is actually really nice and attractive but i dont think she feels too comfortable with our long study sessions....

 

[Sk8erBoiZach]

You both are right.

As I already wrote - "let it in free course". Also let yourself in free course a little bit. You know, don't be cold or better don't be frozen by fear. If he makes ballet it means he should be "cultural person" - not violant yokel. So if he would not be into guys - I very very doubt about it. - He wouldn't be angry or something to gay guy who likes him. He would say just "Sorry thats not my department" or something. And if he would go mad He wouldn't be neither good friend for you. So Be talkactive and heartly, I think you have nothing to loose. Good luck.

waittt, so do u think hes into me? he mentioned about dropping the class we're in together, if he liked me wont he try to still be enrolled in the class so we can sit and study together? as boring as that sounds....

 

[josh_the_hot_boy]

Look I say go for it. Tell him how you feel. The opportunity may not come again.

 

[Sinnerr]

waittt, so do u think hes into me? he mentioned about dropping the class we're in together, if he liked me wont he try to still be enrolled in the class so we can sit and study together? as boring as that sounds....

Maybe He is aroused to you so much that He can't concentrate in learning.
I just agree with Josh - go for it! I guess You have had enought stress from it already. So when you and him will be together alone again, just "put cards on the table". And you will see.

Bottom line from your wiew:

Cute boy I like...
- I'll let him know that and I will get him or not
or
- I Won't say it him and won't get him

Anyway. It's possible He wants go to other class cos He's already drained from this situation. So you don't look for reasons why not. Look for reasons why yes. It's not shame if your offer is refused. Shame is if you don't have courage to make this offer.

 

[Sk8erBoiZach]

Maybe He is aroused to you so much that He can't concentrate in learning.
I just agree with Josh - go for it! I guess You have had enought stress from it already. So when you and him will be together alone again, just "put cards on the table". And you will see.

Bottom line from your wiew:

Cute boy I like...
- I'll let him know that and I will get him or not
or
- I Won't say it him and won't get him

Anyway. It's possible He wants go to other class cos He's already drained from this situation. So you don't look for reasons why not. Look for reasons why yes. It's not shame if your offer is refused. Shame is if you don't have courage to make this offer.

call me a wussy but he very clearly introduced me to his gf, and said i was the first to know about this....so i dont wanna seem like a total ass asking him when hes in a relationship.

also just curious what do you guys think is a appropriate age gap for a gay couple?

 

[josh_the_hot_boy]

Its whatever you feel comfortable with (that is legal of course). Me I'm 25 and I go from 20-30. Much older than 30 and I don't feel like I can connect on a generational level.

 

[Sinnerr]

I'm adviísor only, do what you want.

appropriate age gap - difficult to say. Personally I'm into guys who are similar old as me, or a bit older. As I'm 21, range for potentional bf is cca 18-28. But I knowed guy who is into one generation older guys, 45 and more.

 

[Sk8erBoiZach]

Its whatever you feel comfortable with (that is legal of course). Me I'm 25 and I go from 20-30. Much older than 30 and I don't feel like I can connect on a generational level.

Im 18, i had been secretly seeing this guy thats 9 years older than me since i was 15....

btw P decided to drop the class now im stuck in this class with a completely illiterate teacher that i cant understand, i have 2 days to drop this one and get into the one he'll be in, should i do that or is that wayyyy too desperate on my behave?

 

[Sk8erBoiZach]

I'm adviísor only, do what you want.

appropriate age gap - difficult to say. Personally I'm into guys who are similar old as me, or a bit older. As I'm 21, range for potentional bf is cca 18-28. But I knowed guy who is into one generation older guys, 45 and more.

would i seem creepy if i got into the class he'll be in after dropping the current one?

 

[XMan101]

I think you should do the class that's going to be the most beneficial to your future!

It is getting a bit obsessive & stalkerish, don't you think ?

 

[josh_the_hot_boy]

Nah drop the class.

 

[Sinnerr]

would i seem creepy if i got into the class he'll be in after dropping the current one?

I don't know. But would it help you? What would you do there? Would you be more confident to express your feelings to your platonic love? As I still think you could try it, I think it's not necessary to be together in one class. Even it could be better for you both to be in various classes. You both need to be concentrated to learning. You will be still meeting each other, and can do some free time activities. Main thing, when you are with him, don't be cold, just be yourself. If you're introvert person, try to be more talkactive.

Anyway, Has He had some conflict or problem with anyone from the class, or any teacher? Did he told you why he want to left current class??

 

[Sk8erBoiZach]

I don't know. But would it help you? What would you do there? Would you be more confident to express your feelings to your platonic love? As I still think you could try it, I think it's not necessary to be together in one class. Even it could be better for you both to be in various classes. You both need to be concentrated to learning. You will be still meeting each other, and can do some free time activities. Main thing, when you are with him, don't be cold, just be yourself. If you're introvert person, try to be more talkactive.

Anyway, Has He had some conflict or problem with anyone from the class, or any teacher? Did he told you why he want to left current class??

he wanted to leave because the teacher is 72 and has a heavy hungarian accent, plus the material he had already covered in high school

 

[Sk8erBoiZach]

I think you should do the class that's going to be the most beneficial to your future!

It is getting a bit obsessive & stalkerish, don't you think ?

it is, but i just wanna know if itll work out or not, im sick of just sleeping around....ive had the same career goal since 6 yrs old, and ive worked hard to start college at 16 im not going to let a unfairly genetically blessed boy get in the way of that.

I dont think im stalking him, first of all i dont use any kind of social media...he told me in the morning what he was thinking of doing tomorrow (dropping the class) and after a few txts he implied i should do the same so we can study together

 

[Sk8erBoiZach]

Nah drop the class.

already made the appointment lol, but im gonna pick a different class time i think, i dont wanna seem desperate but just enough to wanna study together

 

[josh_the_hot_boy]

I think you should join his class show that your really interested. Again you never know what might have been.

he told me in the morning what he was thinking of doing tomorrow (dropping the class) and after a few txts he implied i should do the same so we can study together

See you should join him.