Need some advice...

[ihno]

He wont share with me, I try and try, but he just wont...

What do you expect? That he shares his inner feelings with you? Seems like he doesn't know those himself. How should he share?

Lol, being jealous of ebay clients. :rofl:

 

[lskyus]

What do you expect? That he shares his inner feelings with you? Seems like he doesn't know those himself. How should he share?

Lol, being jealous of ebay clients. :rofl:

Then how do i get him open up? ...

I already know the answer though, I am not going to get him to open up, he doesnt have to, i give it to him on a plate, he doesnt have to do anything...

...sigh

 

[SimplyJakeAndAlex]

I agree with you, I am trying to find a way out, I dont want to hurt him. (god!)

Its the public activities in which we do that he changes, he is so rude to me, so that wont
work anyway.

He wont share with me, I try and try, but he just wont.

Again your right. I let him back in because i thought he might have changed after a couple of years, so far its just been a painful new years and christmas so far and I am the one crying my eyes out..sob...

Seriously get out of there dude nothing and I mean NOTHING good will come out of that relationship, you'll become frustrated and he'll just go about his way find another person to have sex with while you're trying to win him back. Those individuals are attention seekers, they want people to love them and admire them but they're not going to give much of themselve. If he's being rude in public to you that should just show you how much of a two sided coins he is and he definitely doesn't deserve 1. your love, 2. your friendship and 3. your attention. That all they want that's all that fuel them.

The person I was with back then I really though he was the one, because when we were alone it was almost magical, but yet can you believe that this guy have met all my friends and some members of my family and over a year of knowing him the only person from his camp I have met was only one of his fuck friend that he wanted us to have a three way with.

This dude cost me a bundle (yes I'm wealthy but is it really fear that I pay for everything and he barely pays for a single coffee), was it normal that I was always the one asking him to come by and be the one to go pick him up at his place and bring him back... the reason he gave me is that because he was living in the surrounding of Toronto he didn't know how to use the transit... yet it's only later that I've learned that when he was visiting his grandmothers he knew very well what bus to take and here's the best... his grandma was living at three subway station up my station. The only thing he could have done is calling me from that station and it would have been my pleasure to meet him halfway.

On text he was the kind of dude using one liner all the time... while you go all your way to tell how your day was the only thing I could get from him was " day is okay"... okar good but what have you done today "went to school" yeah I know that part of your schedule anything else... and than you would have a silence and until I'd sent back a message you wouldn't hear from him.

That just give you the perfect example of how poisonous the relationship was. I did end it... but then he came back and tried to get back in again... because what you don't know about those idiot is that if they come back it's because you're the only one who falls for their bullshit... so cut the bullshit... you don't deserve a person like that at all.

And the day I really moved on and got a new dude My Alex he tried to befriend alex... but Alex was much much different I knew everything there was to know about Alex in matter of weeks while the other dude I still have no idea what's his sister name and yet he have met mines.

Really dude it's not even a question of courage... it's a question of self-respect if you have the dignity and self-respect that he doesn't have for you apply it... for your own sake. There's plenty other beautiful dude on this earth with a better attitude.

 

[ihno]

This guy seems to have a very long journey before him. Are you openly gay and does he have a girlfriend?

 

[SimplyJakeAndAlex]

One additional thing... you don't want to hurt him you said... well my friend that exactly what he needs... to be hurt only then he will understand how he has been hurting people

 

[lskyus]

Im Bisexual (open) (dont laugh again), and Yes he has a girlfriend.

Unfortunately I quite like her, she suffers from anxiety attacks though, they tend to fight a fair bit...

So he literally has his cake and another slice later...

Self respect is right...

 

[lskyus]

One additional thing... you don't want to hurt him you said... well my friend that exactly what he needs... to be hurt only then he will understand how he has been hurting people

Even at the end, Im not thinking of myself, how crazy is that..lol

 

[SimplyJakeAndAlex]

Even at the end, Im not thinking of myself, how crazy is that..lol

Well that's because person like you and I have what we call a "code of honour"... Person like him doesn't know what honour means... and do not make yourself his teacher of the code you'll be wasting your time seriously.

 

[lskyus]

Seriously get out of there dude nothing and I mean NOTHING good will come out of that relationship, you'll become frustrated and he'll just go about his way find another person to have sex with while you're trying to win him back. Those individuals are attention seekers, they want people to love them and admire them but they're not going to give much of themselve. If he's being rude in public to you that should just show you how much of a two sided coins he is and he definitely doesn't deserve 1. your love, 2. your friendship and 3. your attention. That all they want that's all that fuel them.

The person I was with back then I really though he was the one, because when we were alone it was almost magical, but yet can you believe that this guy have met all my friends and some members of my family and over a year of knowing him the only person from his camp I have met was only one of his fuck friend that he wanted us to have a three way with.

This dude cost me a bundle (yes I'm wealthy but is it really fear that I pay for everything and he barely pays for a single coffee), was it normal that I was always the one asking him to come by and be the one to go pick him up at his place and bring him back... the reason he gave me is that because he was living in the surrounding of Toronto he didn't know how to use the transit... yet it's only later that I've learned that when he was visiting his grandmothers he knew very well what bus to take and here's the best... his grandma was living at three subway station up my station. The only thing he could have done is calling me from that station and it would have been my pleasure to meet him halfway.

On text he was the kind of dude using one liner all the time... while you go all your way to tell how your day was the only thing I could get from him was " day is okay"... okar good but what have you done today "went to school" yeah I know that part of your schedule anything else... and than you would have a silence and until I'd sent back a message you wouldn't hear from him.

That just give you the perfect example of how poisonous the relationship was. I did end it... but then he came back and tried to get back in again... because what you don't know about those idiot is that if they come back it's because you're the only one who falls for their bullshit... so cut the bullshit... you don't deserve a person like that at all.

And the day I really moved on and got a new dude My Alex he tried to befriend alex... but Alex was much much different I knew everything there was to know about Alex in matter of weeks while the other dude I still have no idea what's his sister name and yet he have met mines.

Really dude it's not even a question of courage... it's a question of self-respect if you have the dignity and self-respect that he doesn't have for you apply it... for your own sake. There's plenty other beautiful dude on this earth with a better attitude.

Thanks!

 

[lskyus]

Well that's because person like you and I have what we call a "code of honour"... Person like him doesn't know what honour means... and do not make yourself his teacher of the code you'll be wasting your time seriously.

Thanks again, and yes I buy the coffee! (lol)

You have all made me feel better, so much! Jake especially thank you..and maybe one day i will buy you that coffee!

 

[ihno]

Im Bisexual (open) (dont laugh again), and Yes he has a girlfriend.

Unfortunately I quite like her, she suffers from anxiety attacks though, they tend to fight a fair bit...

So he literally has his cake and another slice later...

Self respect is right...

I would never laugh... Cut the contact.

What do you mean with cake exactly?

 

[lskyus]

I would never laugh... Cut the contact.

What do you mean with cake exactly?

I meant emotionally, if you cant get it from one, you get it from another...

 

[SimplyJakeAndAlex]

Thanks again, and yes I buy the coffee! (lol)

You have all made me feel better, so much! Jake especially thank you..and maybe one day i will buy you that coffee!

Well here's another example... because today he is somewhat of a friend but I'm too attached to Alex and he knows he has no fucking chance agains't him... but in the last few months he was asking us to meet, but since I don't need and don't feel to drive up to his place I did sent him a map of the transit and also the fare to come to our place in Toronto... now I have a huge house with Alex when we are in Toronto but most of the time we're in our country house. I told him if you want to hang out with us you need to prove to me that you are going to make the effort to get to our house by yourself.

Three months later he still haven't showed and yet he keeps saying that he's school schedule is over the head... but hey I have been in university too and funny enough I was a full time student and still find ways to visit my friends at least twice a week.

If your dude is anything like that buddy... run and leave him on that desert island he comes from... when he'll be tired to speak with that Styrofoam cup of his he'll change... but if you respond to all his little whims because he's cute you'll never make him understand that he needs to change if he wants your friendship.

 

[SimplyJakeAndAlex]

I meant emotionally, if you cant get it from one, you get it from another...

Yeah but one thing I know about bisexuality and being predominantly gay is that fucking with a woman isn't even close and intense as fucking with a man... so trust me he's not satisfied. I am also bisex and guys come over women anytime.

 

[lskyus]

Well here's another example... because today he is somewhat of a friend but I'm too attached to Alex and he knows he has no fucking chance agains't him... but in the last few months he was asking us to meet, but since I don't need and don't feel to drive up to his place I did sent him a map of the transit and also the fare to come to our place in Toronto... now I have a huge house with Alex when we are in Toronto but most of the time we're in our country house. I told him if you want to hang out with us you need to prove to me that you are going to make the effort to get to our house by yourself.

Three months later he still haven't showed and yet he keeps saying that he's school schedule is over the head... but hey I have been in university too and funny enough I was a full time student and still find ways to visit my friends at least twice a week.

If your dude is anything like that buddy... run and leave him on that desert island he comes from... when he'll be tired to speak with that Styrofoam cup of his he'll change... but if you respond to all his little whims because he's cute you'll never make him understand that he needs to change if he wants your friendship.

Thats what i want from him, something that proves he actually does care about me. If i even got a thank you, I would happy..Thats why I feel its so one sided... and again your right..(I do hate you now lol) (im kidding)

I mean were sitting at the table at the restaurant and he just tells me me to get the salt an pepper, doesnt ask...my friend said wait a minute, he said to her "im waiting for my dinner to go down" she said "what about him" he said "what about him????" 10 hours later hes chucking a blanket over my feet and just staring at me..lol

 

[ihno]

I meant emotionally, if you cant get it from one, you get it from another...

Out out out of that relationship and no strawberry dessert for two weeks for starting this again!

 

[lskyus]

Out out out of that relationship and no strawberry dessert for two weeks for starting this again!

i wish there was a like button..lol:thumbs up:

 

[SimplyJakeAndAlex]

Thats what i want from him, something that proves he actually does care about me. If i even got a thank you, I would happy..Thats why I feel its so one sided... and again your right..(I do hate you now lol) (im kidding)

I mean were sitting at the table at the restaurant and he just tells me me to get the salt an pepper, doesnt ask...my friend said wait a minute, he said to her "im waiting for my dinner to go down" she said "what about him" he said "what about him????" 10 hours later hes chucking a blanket over my feet and just staring at me..lol

Well I have the experience of such individuals and I happen to be a behavioral psychologist and the dude hates that because even though he doesn't say much, what he did say got analyzed and one day I've spread all his behaviors on the table... the dude cried so hard but the next day he was the same selfish prick so I just let him sink in his hole lol

 

[SimplyJakeAndAlex]

i wish there was a like button..lol:thumbs up:

the thanks button is your like button dude

 

[lskyus]

:thumbs up:

Yeah but one thing I know about bisexuality and being predominantly gay is that fucking with a woman isn't even close and intense as fucking with a man... so trust me he's not satisfied. I am also bisex and guys come over women anytime.

I get that too...