When and how was your "Coming Out"?

[h0t_b0i]

this year and it was great

 

[tryest]

nice video

 

[mipsub]

I was thirteen and the internet was just becoming popular and I really wasn't knowledgeable about things like cookies and browsing history. My parents found out what porn sites I was looking at. They asked me one day if I was gay and I said yes, their response was "ok just stay off the gay cafe websites"... Still a little confused about that.

 

[Darko89]

I was 21 and the first ones to know where 2 gay friends of mine. All of my closer friends followed in the next few weeks. They all reacted very well and it also really helped our Friendship. Looking back I should have accepted the fact that I am gay years ago. It took me about another 3 months or so to find the courage to also tell my parents, though. Telling them was really hard.

I do not have any problems telling my friends or people i just met that I'm gay, but for me at least its very hard to tell family members. It was necessary to tell my brother and my parents and I certainly don't regret it, but telling them was one of the most difficult things I ever had to do. I still don't really like speaking with them about this topic.

Some family members or friends still don't know... But thats going to change eventually.

 

[bmac8953]

in 2001

 

[papito1958]

Suddnley

i told my family...I'm getting married in 50 days...

 

[coca5888]

haven't yet

 

[jaydubya]

my mother found gay porn on the computer, asked me about it. i avoided the entire situation for a few years. then came out when i was 19. they said "ok" and they have been fine with it ever since.

 

[NiceGent1]

When I was thirteen, my best friend invited me over to see some 'dirty' magzines. Earlier we had played a tag football game when someone had groped me and i didn't know who. Sure enough it had been him and it turned me on. That night we had a hot jerk off session.

 

[frederick12345]

Coming out

I was 28! had no role models and had dated girls before - thought there was no way I was gay as I wasn't like anyone 'visible' to me. Parents were great about it and am happily 'married' now....

 

[Z.C.]

Geez where do I start? lol Do you all mind if it's a long story? Since I was a kid I never new what homosexuality was obviously, I thought it was normal to like both genders equally. It really started to develop when I became 12, early bloomer. I kept it to myself and led a straight life having gf's here and there. In freshmen year I went through a dumb emo phase, cuz I didn't know what was good and what was effin pathetic back in the day.

Anyway, I wanted to tell my single parent mother, but I wanted to test it. I told my aunt and she told me "That's cool" and "I thought you might turn out gay/bi". That relieved alot of weight, so I started coming out to kids at school, that didn't go so well, everyday the same kids kept asking "You like dick?" and stuff like that. It got tiring and frustrating because they weren't comfortable with their own sexualities, they'd thought I was attracted to them. So one day I finally mustered the courage to tell my mom. As soon as I got home I sat my mom down and told her, "I'm bisexual" A long pause, she got up went to her room and took a shower to cover up the noise of her crying. My mother went through hell to support us, had an abusive boyfriend, worked day and night every day of the week, and to hear her cry broke me. Ironically there was a gay related movie on lifetime, a big middle finger from the universe. She got out of the shower, asked me if I need to see a therapist cuz I never had a serious relationship with a girl (which is complete BS cuz she knows I've been with girls before) Due to our financial situation I quickly objected and said I don't need to. She made me write out my "feelings" regarding the whole coming out thing, gave her the note and we never really talked about it after that. I must admit I pussied out in the end and called it all a dumb phase and a joke.

Unfortunately, my aunt I came out to first can't keep a secret and word spread throughout my family. My other aunt, who's like my second mother, couldn't comprehend that and thought I was being a stupid emotional teenager. Salt in the wound. We haven't really brought up the matter and I sadly still play it off. A while ago they made gay jokes about me while we were hanging out. So I don't know where we stand on that.. My cousin is like my sister, and she turned out lesbo, me and her understood each other like two peas in a pod. That gave some closure to the shitty situation. Nowadays, I don't care anymore, I'm tired of hiding, I'm just going to show up at a family gathering with a muscley bf and make out with him in front of my family. I'm 18, I'm an adult I am who I am and my family, no matter how much they mean to me, can deal with it or never understand. I'm moving in with that same cuz and her gf after we save up some money for a place. It's my life, I'm going to do what I want.
oh and sorry if the story was way too long and descriptive, I tend to rant even when I don't know it lol

 

[randall20]

i was 21...my mother asked me....

 

[alphagay]

I came out quite late at age 23 to my Sister and my Mother. They were fine but told my Catholic Dad and was asked to leave and never come back again. While packing (and sobbing) I heard this crash in the living room and went in to find my Dad on the floor with my samll Mum standing over him saying '' he is my son and as long as i am alive he will always be welcomed here''. She had just boxed him and at home i stayed. We are fine now and Dad totally accepts it all now but what a sliding doors moment.

Delighted for you

 

[Nelson]

I haven't come out yet. I'd love to but my parents - who I'm really close to - are quite religious. I think it'd kill them.

 

[stanleyhot]

i was 15

i was 15 when i went out

 

[bimyself1]

I came out when i was 19 years old to my cousin then my parents anthony (dad) has disowned me and only recognizes his 4 daughters, my mom and family and friends are ashamed of me; some dont even want people to know that im gay and that we're friends so i kind of wish i had kept it to myself but it's a sacrifice you have to make and i just wish i hadn't

 

[Bixel]

I'm only out to one person and that's my best friend whom I came out to in july of last year. He was so accepting it really just made it better.

 

[annden]

not this way

 

[bair]

nobody cared.

 

[Z.C.]

bit of an update on my coming out situation, during the weekend we went up to georgia for my cousins graduation, 3 days of mixing booze and weed woot! But there were some emotional rollercoasters too, I ended up walking out one night tearing up due to an argument with my mom, and my homophobic 14 yr old jock of a cousin followed me and comforted me and let me tell my feelings out about my mom, and somehow I told him that I was bi. His first reaction was pretty much what I expected "Wait, what?!" and I said "Yeah dawg I am" And he said "Dude why didn't you tell me sooner?" in a understanding caring tone. He took it way differently than I imagined he would, and that really made me feel good for the rest of the trip. And I feel like me and him are closer now than ever.